Woman refuses to wear skirt to sister's 'traditional' funeral, family is taking sides.
When this internet user is upset with their family's rules, they ask Reddit:
'AITA for refusing to wear a skirt at my little sisters funeral?'
I (19 afab non-binary woman) was raised extremely religious in a culty catholic sect. My parents are in this sect still. Recently, my preteen sister died in a tragic vehicular accident.
They did the funeral in the catholic cult tradition. All women were required to wear skirts. Due to religious trauma and gender issues, in top of what I was dealing with, I could not deal putting on a skirt.
My family knows I refuse ti wear skirts which is why they made that a requirement to attend her funeral. It's not my fault my little sisters funeral was being said in this rite, and I'm an adult I can choose what to wear.
I wasn't going to miss my own sisters funeral, So I attended the funeral in a nice pants suit. After the funeral my dad screamed at me saying I “can't even be respectful of my own sister” and “would’ve of killed me to put on a skirt for a couple hours?”
I said does he have anything else to be worrying about rn then what I, an adult, wore. My moms not talking to me, but my siblings are taking my side.
Also for those wondering my parents are fssp Catholics. AITA?
Let's find out.
sowhat4 writes:
You're NTA, but your parents' reaction might just be displacement rage due to their intense grief. I doubt if they would have reacted that way if the deceased were say the child of one of their friends or a distant relative.
The death of a child can fracture families. While you're not at fault, maybe accept any peace offerings they make in the future, which they will do once the intensity of their emotions devolve into just sadness.
strongblueberry writes:
I am sorry for your loss. NTA. I am catholic, but honestly I have no idea about this 'catholic cult tradition' requiring women to wear skirts. Sounds like utter nonsense to me. It's certainly not at all true of the catholic church here in Australia.
I personally have attended, and seen many others attend, in all kinds of get up. Wear what you are comfortable with. Ignore any naysayers. They must be extremely small minded to even give a crap what other people are wearing.