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<h2>&quot;AITA for telling my son that he is obviously gay?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>My son (17m) has apparently been in the closet for the past 7 months. So, my son is fairly masculine/straight acting if that makes sense, however he&#39;s very obviously had a boyfriend (18m) for the past 7 months.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He sometimes baby talks to this boy, hugs him all the time, has called him handsome, share clothes, sits way too close to each other to the point where they&#39;re basically cuddling.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He closes his bedroom door when with him but not any other friends, sees him like everyday, buys him gifts, and for the past 7 months he now always smells great, has his hair fixed really nice, and dresses nicer, among other things.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Today I asked my son if was going to invite his boyfriend on our trip, and he got awkward and said &ldquo;that&#39;s not funny&rdquo;, I asked what he meant and he said &ldquo;Im straight, that&#39;s not funny&rdquo; I laughed and when I realized he was serious I started laughing even harder.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told him he was very obviously in a relationship with a guy and did a terrible job at hiding it, he got emotional and started asking me not to tell his dad (my husband already knows, like I said it was obvious). Then he got upset saying outed him when he wasn&#39;t ready, he hasn&#39;t said a word to me in a couple days. AITA?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>From OP: My brother sort of did the same, never actually told anyone he was gay, just started bringing guys home the same way I brought guys home or our brother and brought girls home.</p> </blockquote><p>Here&#39;s what people had to say to OP:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Humble-Employer-9323/">Humble-Employer-9323</a> asks:</p><p>Why laugh tho?</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/platefoodaway/">platefoodaway</a> OP responded:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>At first, because I thought he was joking when he said he was straight, then because I realized that openly having a boyfriend was hiding the relationship to him.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/OutlandishMiss/">OutlandishMiss</a> writes:</p><p>NAH but it was a close call.</p><p>Laughing wasn&rsquo;t great, but if you were the only two people present, you didn&rsquo;t &ldquo;out him&rdquo; to anyone. So your initial question is misleading. It&rsquo;s assholish to make an assumption about someone&rsquo;s sexuality or relationship status, but if it&rsquo;s your own kid living in your house and the evidence you are presenting is accurate, I think most parents would assume the same. Apologize and you WNBTA.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/platefoodaway/">platefoodaway</a> OP responded:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>He&#39;s confirmed that&#39;s his boyfriend.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/notlucyintheskye/">notlucyintheskye</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When I was 17 and watching tv with my parents, out of the blue, my Dad turned to me and said &quot;You know it&#39;d be okay if you were gay, right?&quot;. I laughed it off, said okay, and went about my day. Within six months, I was questioning. It took several more years before I was comfortably calling myself Bi and coming out to friends and family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I think I must have given off vibes to my parents for Dad to come straight out and say it like that - but at no point in time did he assume, make comments alluding to, nothing. I was given time and space to reach that conclusion on my own.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>You took that away from your son. Instead of saying something to the effect of &quot;If you are, cool - if not, cool. We love you regardless&quot;, you forced him to confront that identity before he was ready.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You need to stomp this shit out before it spirals. Let your son know what I said above - that however he chooses to identify is okay with you and that you love him regardless and will take any future cues on how to proceed from him.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Only-Main8948/">Only-Main8948</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s the laughing at him that gets me. How humiliating for him.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/nostalgeek81/">nostalgeek81</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I can see how OP thought it would not be a big deal since it was so obvious. And maybe they thought that for this reason coming out officially wasn&rsquo;t necessary. But clearly the son thought he was being sneaky.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NaturalTap9567/">NaturalTap9567</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>She was laughing at how bad a liar he is. A completely normal thing for a parent to do and him being gay doesn&#39;t change that.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong to out 'obviously gay son'; laughs when he says he's straight.

&quot;AITA for telling my son that he is obviously gay?&quot; My son (17m) has apparently been in the closet for the past 7 months. So, my son is fairly masculine/straight acting if that makes sense, however he&#39;s very obviously had a boyfriend (18m) for the past 7 months.  He sometimes baby talks to this boy, hugs him all the time, has called him handsome, share clothes, sits way too close to each other to the point where they&#39;re basically cuddling.  He closes his bedroom door when with him but not any other friends, sees him like everyday, buys him gifts, and for the past 7 months he now always smells great, has his hair fixed really nice, and dresses nicer, among other things.  Today I asked my son if was going to invite his boyfriend on our trip, and he got awkward and said &ldquo;that&#39;s not funny&rdquo;, I asked what he meant and he said &ldquo;Im straight, that&#39;s not funny&rdquo; I laughed and when I realized he was serious I started laughing even harder.  I told him he was very obviously in a relationship with a guy and did a terrible job at hiding it, he got emotional and started asking me not to tell his dad (my husband already knows, like I said it was obvious). Then he got upset saying outed him when he wasn&#39;t ready, he hasn&#39;t said a word to me in a couple days. AITA?  From OP: My brother sort of did the same, never actually told anyone he was gay, just started bringing guys home the same way I brought guys home or our brother and brought girls home. Here&#39;s what people had to say to OP:Humble-Employer-9323 asks:Why laugh tho?platefoodaway OP responded:At first, because I thought he was joking when he said he was straight, then because I realized that openly having a boyfriend was hiding the relationship to him.OutlandishMiss writes:NAH but it was a close call.Laughing wasn&rsquo;t great, but if you were the only two people present, you didn&rsquo;t &ldquo;out him&rdquo; to anyone. So your initial question is misleading. It&rsquo;s assholish to make an assumption about someone&rsquo;s sexuality or relationship status, but if it&rsquo;s your own kid living in your house and the evidence you are presenting is accurate, I think most parents would assume the same. Apologize and you WNBTA.platefoodaway OP responded:He&#39;s confirmed that&#39;s his boyfriend.notlucyintheskye writes: YTA  When I was 17 and watching tv with my parents, out of the blue, my Dad turned to me and said &quot;You know it&#39;d be okay if you were gay, right?&quot;. I laughed it off, said okay, and went about my day. Within six months, I was questioning. It took several more years before I was comfortably calling myself Bi and coming out to friends and family.  I think I must have given off vibes to my parents for Dad to come straight out and say it like that - but at no point in time did he assume, make comments alluding to, nothing. I was given time and space to reach that conclusion on my own.  You took that away from your son. Instead of saying something to the effect of &quot;If you are, cool - if not, cool. We love you regardless&quot;, you forced him to confront that identity before he was ready.  You need to stomp this shit out before it spirals. Let your son know what I said above - that however he chooses to identify is okay with you and that you love him regardless and will take any future cues on how to proceed from him. Only-Main8948 writes: It&#39;s the laughing at him that gets me. How humiliating for him. nostalgeek81 writes: I can see how OP thought it would not be a big deal since it was so obvious. And maybe they thought that for this reason coming out officially wasn&rsquo;t necessary. But clearly the son thought he was being sneaky. NaturalTap9567 writes: She was laughing at how bad a liar he is. A completely normal thing for a parent to do and him being gay doesn&#39;t change that. 

&quot;AITA for telling my son that he is obviously gay?&quot;   My son (17m) has apparently been in the closet for the past 7 months. So, my son is fairly masculine/straight acting if that makes sense, however he&#39;s very obviously had a...