Parenting

<p>Being a parent is tough, but let&#39;s face it, being a mother is more difficult than being a father. And sometimes, husbands don&#39;t necessarily get that. That said, it can be hard to manage your relationship to your wife, newborn, and your parents (her in laws) without messing something up. When this husband gets reprimanded for letting his parents see his baby, he takes to the popular <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/uuzjbx/aita_for_allowing_my_parents_to_see_my_baby/">Reddit forum</a> to ask:</p><h1>&quot;AITA for allowing my parents to see my baby?&quot;</h1><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/throwaway47745747/">throwaway4777576 </a>writes:</h2><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My wife has had two miscarriages and a stillbirth, and so when she got pregnant for the fourth time, I did my best to support her and any of her strange requests that she made.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>Oh no! How sad.</h2><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>During the birth, she didn&rsquo;t want anyone who wasn&rsquo;t a medical professional in the room, including me. I wasn&rsquo;t too happy with this, because I really wanted to see him be born, but it&rsquo;s her birth and her body, so I went out without a complaint.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Afterwards, she stayed the night, and didn&rsquo;t want anyone other than me around. Both sets of new grandparents had been scheduled to come around, but I called them and said she wasn&rsquo;t ready yet, and so they didn&rsquo;t.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Two days after we came home with the baby, and she still refused to allow anyone around. I understand that a new mother is going to be very protective over her child, however, these are our parents! She has a complicated relationship with her parents, so I don&rsquo;t mind her placing restrictions on them, but my parents are incredible and are so excited for a grandbaby!</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So, I decided to tell my parents that they could come over and see the baby. I didn&rsquo;t consult my wife, because I knew she&rsquo;d immediately shoot down the suggestion and be in a mood for the rest of the day.</p> </blockquote><h2>Oh boy....</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>They came over, with gifts for my wife and the baby and were absolutely ecstatic. My wife seemed genuinely really happy, my mother gave her tips, and my wife looked relieved to be free of holding and feeding the baby for an hour.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>When they left though, her attitude immediately shifted, and she started yelling at me (which of course set off the baby!) for disrespecting her wishes. But he&rsquo;s my baby too! We both have a child now, and my family deserves to meet him!</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She yelled at me about her grief over our stillborn baby, as if I didn&rsquo;t grieve him too! It&rsquo;s why I was so excited for my parents to meet my healthy boy!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>I see where OP is coming from. This is a real tough situation.</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Now she refuses to talk to me, even though we&rsquo;re trying to care for a baby together. So AITA?</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>Well, this is a tricky one. Let&#39;s see what the Reddit mob had to say on this one.</h2><p> </p><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Failsafe-0/">Failsafe0 </a>writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>YTA. I understand you&rsquo;re excited to share your baby with your parents but, she just went from carrying a child for roughly 9 months, to a medical procedure, to dealing with the post pregnancy pain and hormone shifts. You. Did. Not. She&rsquo;s grieving on top of that? And you decided to go against her wishes and show off your baby anyways?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MacAttacknChz/">Macattackchz89</a> writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>Also, when family comes to visit, they&#39;re supposed to do other chores so you can care for the baby. I imagine if I had 2 miscarriage and a stillbirth, I wouldn&#39;t want to put down my baby, no matter how tired I was.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jovon35/">Javon35 </a>writes:</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>And lets not forget she had a stillbirth prior to this delivery. She just re-lived the EXACT same physical experience as when she had to birth her deceased baby. Thankfully this outcome was different but the body, heart, and mind remember.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Op you think spouting off &quot;her body her choice&quot; makes you thoughtful but you just added to your wife&#39;s trauma so you could have your lion king moment.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>Well, there you have it folks. OP is the AH. Why do dads act like this? What are YOUR thoughts on this dilemma?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong to let parents visit newborn against wife's wishes.

Being a parent is tough, but let&#39;s face it, being a mother is more difficult than being a father. And sometimes, husbands don&#39;t necessarily get that. That said, it can be hard to manage your relationship to your wife, newborn, and your parents (her in laws) without messing something up. When this husband gets reprimanded for letting his parents see his baby, he takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:&quot;AITA for allowing my parents to see my baby?&quot; throwaway4777576 writes:   My wife has had two miscarriages and a stillbirth, and so when she got pregnant for the fourth time, I did my best to support her and any of her strange requests that she made.  Oh no! How sad.   During the birth, she didn&rsquo;t want anyone who wasn&rsquo;t a medical professional in the room, including me. I wasn&rsquo;t too happy with this, because I really wanted to see him be born, but it&rsquo;s her birth and her body, so I went out without a complaint.   Afterwards, she stayed the night, and didn&rsquo;t want anyone other than me around. Both sets of new grandparents had been scheduled to come around, but I called them and said she wasn&rsquo;t ready yet, and so they didn&rsquo;t.   Two days after we came home with the baby, and she still refused to allow anyone around. I understand that a new mother is going to be very protective over her child, however, these are our parents! She has a complicated relationship with her parents, so I don&rsquo;t mind her placing restrictions on them, but my parents are incredible and are so excited for a grandbaby!   So, I decided to tell my parents that they could come over and see the baby. I didn&rsquo;t consult my wife, because I knew she&rsquo;d immediately shoot down the suggestion and be in a mood for the rest of the day. Oh boy....  They came over, with gifts for my wife and the baby and were absolutely ecstatic. My wife seemed genuinely really happy, my mother gave her tips, and my wife looked relieved to be free of holding and feeding the baby for an hour.   When they left though, her attitude immediately shifted, and she started yelling at me (which of course set off the baby!) for disrespecting her wishes. But he&rsquo;s my baby too! We both have a child now, and my family deserves to meet him!    She yelled at me about her grief over our stillborn baby, as if I didn&rsquo;t grieve him too! It&rsquo;s why I was so excited for my parents to meet my healthy boy!  I see where OP is coming from. This is a real tough situation.  Now she refuses to talk to me, even though we&rsquo;re trying to care for a baby together. So AITA?  Well, this is a tricky one. Let&#39;s see what the Reddit mob had to say on this one.  Failsafe0 writes: YTA. I understand you&rsquo;re excited to share your baby with your parents but, she just went from carrying a child for roughly 9 months, to a medical procedure, to dealing with the post pregnancy pain and hormone shifts. You. Did. Not. She&rsquo;s grieving on top of that? And you decided to go against her wishes and show off your baby anyways?  Macattackchz89 writes: Also, when family comes to visit, they&#39;re supposed to do other chores so you can care for the baby. I imagine if I had 2 miscarriage and a stillbirth, I wouldn&#39;t want to put down my baby, no matter how tired I was.  Javon35 writes:  And lets not forget she had a stillbirth prior to this delivery. She just re-lived the EXACT same physical experience as when she had to birth her deceased baby. Thankfully this outcome was different but the body, heart, and mind remember.   Op you think spouting off &quot;her body her choice&quot; makes you thoughtful but you just added to your wife&#39;s trauma so you could have your lion king moment.  Well, there you have it folks. OP is the AH. Why do dads act like this? What are YOUR thoughts on this dilemma?

Being a parent is tough, but let&#39;s face it, being a mother is more difficult than being a father. And sometimes, husbands don&#39;t necessarily get that. That said, it can be hard to manage your relationship to your wife, newborn, and...