'AITA for cussing at a teacher after she gave my information to a reporter?'
"AITA for cussing at a teacher after she gave my information to a reporter?"
I'm one of the few but growing number of single men who foregone marriage and became a dad on my own. In my case, I used a surrogate three times so I have three boys between the ages of 5 and 10.
When they started school and started to make friends, I did tell a few parents because they wanted to know more about me before letting their kids spend time with my kids. Most were intrigued for a few minutes. That went away once they realized how normal we are.
I'm neither an advocate nor opponent of single parent surrogacy. I did what worked for me. I also don't promote it the same way people promote their personal lives for clout. In fact, I haven't told anybody about it in years.
That brings me to my son's 2nd grade teacher, Mrs. F. I got a random call from a reporter asking to interview me for a magazine piece on men resorting to surrogacy to have kids. I thought it was a joke but he had all sorts of information including the names of my kids and what I did for work.
I asked how he got my information and be said from Mrs F who is a friend of his. In fact, she gave him my number. I was pissed.
The next day, I told Mrs F about the call and she said it would be so exciting to be in a magazine and online. I asked why the f**k did she put my personal life out there. That's a total betrayal. She said she didn't know I'd be that upset and simply thought that I'd be open to it.
I told her that I didn't tell her my business let alone give her permission to spread. She didn't say anything so I called her a f**king moron who needs to grow the f**k up.
She probably thought I'd complain to the principal but that's not my style. I will tell you stuff to your face. Now the VP principal is acting like an intermediary between us after she said I cussed her out. He did say that I was out of line but she was even more way out of line. He asked me to be understanding because she's young and lives online.
I told him that he's just mad that he actually has to do some work now and the funny part is that I'm not even mad at her anymore. I don't like her but its not like she matters in a few months.
Here's what people had to say:
mmahowald writes:
wow... She definitely messed up, but you are taking vengeance as a sport while stating that you are not even mad anymore. YTA. you are an adult, not one of your children. Adults don't throw hissyfits just for the pleasure of ut. if a parent was yelling and cursing id get an intermediary too.
Low_Baker_1898 OP responded:
My kids wouldn't cuss at me because I wouldn't give them reason to.
DaBooba writes:
You were understanding. You didn't report her to the principal in an attempt to get her fired. Instead you reamed her like she deserved to be. Logical consequences. JFC NTA
Low_Baker_1898 OP responded:
I think that was his way of blaming it over a generational misunderstanding between a Gen Z and a Millennial.
Senior-Leg-2502 writes:
ESH. The teacher should've checked with you first before giving your info to her reporter friends. But your reaction was way over the line. You could've just said 'not interested, thanks' and the next day politely asked the teacher not to violate your privacy again.
You responded as though you were seriously attacked, when you weren't. You threw a tantrum like a little brat. Seems like you're the one who needs to 'grow the f%$@ up.'
Low_Baker_1898 OP responded:
I shouldn't have to ask her to not give my personal information out.
pinebonsai writes:
NTA, the VP needs to not be making excuses for her, what she did was disrespectful, rude, and unethical. You do NOT give out other people's personal info without their permission!
If she wanted to give her friend a lead, she could have said 'Hey, I know a single dad who might be a good fit, let me ask him if he'd like to talk to you' and THAT'S IT. Nothing about your contact info, life, and ESPECIALLY NOTHING ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN.
Creative_Tart7794 writes:
Actually she may have broken a law. I'm not super familiar with FERPA, but she may have seriously violated it. That is no joke either.