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<h2>AITA for cussing at a teacher after she gave my information to a reporter?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m one of the few but growing number of single men who foregone marriage and became a dad on my own. In my case, I used a surrogate three times so I have three boys between the ages of 5 and 10.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When they started school and started to make friends, I did tell a few parents because they wanted to know more about me before letting their kids spend time with my kids. Most were intrigued for a few minutes. That went away once they realized how normal we are.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m neither an advocate nor opponent of single parent surrogacy. I did what worked for me. I also don&#39;t promote it the same way people promote their personal lives for clout. In fact, I haven&#39;t told anybody about it in years.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>That brings me to my son&#39;s 2nd grade teacher, Mrs. F. I got a random call from a reporter asking to interview me for a magazine piece on men resorting to surrogacy to have kids. I thought it was a joke but he had all sorts of information including the names of my kids and what I did for work.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I asked how he got my information and be said from Mrs F who is a friend of his. In fact, she gave him my number. I was pissed.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The next day, I told Mrs F about the call and she said it would be so exciting to be in a magazine and online. I asked why the f**k did she put my personal life out there. That&#39;s a total betrayal. She said she didn&#39;t know I&#39;d be that upset and simply thought that I&#39;d be open to it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her that I didn&#39;t tell her my business let alone give her permission to spread. She didn&#39;t say anything so I called her a f**king moron who needs to grow the f**k up.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She probably thought I&#39;d complain to the principal but that&#39;s not my style. I will tell you stuff to your face. Now the VP principal is acting like an intermediary between us after she said I cussed her out. He did say that I was out of line but she was even more way out of line. He asked me to be understanding because she&#39;s young and lives online.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told him that he&#39;s just mad that he actually has to do some work now and the funny part is that I&#39;m not even mad at her anymore. I don&#39;t like her but its not like she matters in a few months.</p> </blockquote><p>Here&#39;s what people had to say:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mmahowald/">mmahowald</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>wow... She definitely messed up, but you are taking vengeance as a sport while stating that you are not even mad anymore. YTA. you are an adult, not one of your children. Adults don&#39;t throw hissyfits just for the pleasure of ut. if a parent was yelling and cursing id get an intermediary too.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Low_Baker_1898/">Low_Baker_1898</a> OP responded:</p><blockquote> <p>My kids wouldn&#39;t cuss at me because I wouldn&#39;t give them reason to.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DaBooba/">DaBooba</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>You were understanding. You didn&#39;t report her to the principal in an attempt to get her fired. Instead you reamed her like she deserved to be. Logical consequences. JFC NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Low_Baker_1898/">Low_Baker_1898</a> OP responded:</p><blockquote> <p>I think that was his way of blaming it over a generational misunderstanding between a Gen Z and a Millennial.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Senior-Leg-2502/">Senior-Leg-2502</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>ESH. The teacher should&#39;ve checked with you first before giving your info to her reporter friends. But your reaction was way over the line. You could&#39;ve just said &quot;not interested, thanks&quot; and the next day politely asked the teacher not to violate your privacy again.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You responded as though you were seriously attacked, when you weren&#39;t. You threw a tantrum like a little brat. Seems like you&#39;re the one who needs to &quot;grow the fuck up.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Low_Baker_1898/">Low_Baker_1898</a> OP responded:</p><blockquote> <p>I shouldn&#39;t have to ask her to not give my personal information out.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pinebonsai/">pinebonsai</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA, the VP needs to not be making excuses for her, what she did was disrespectful, rude, and unethical. You do NOT give out other people&#39;s personal info without their permission!</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If she wanted to give her friend a lead, she could have said &quot;Hey, I know a single dad who might be a good fit, let me ask him if he&#39;d like to talk to you&quot; and THAT&#39;S IT. Nothing about your contact info, life, and <em>ESPECIALLY</em> NOTHING ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Creative_Tart7794/">Creative_Tart7794</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Actually she may have broken a law. I&#39;m not super familiar with FERPA, but she may have seriously violated it. That is no joke either.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Single dad asks if he was wrong to cuss out teacher for giving his info to reporter.

AITA for cussing at a teacher after she gave my information to a reporter? I&#39;m one of the few but growing number of single men who foregone marriage and became a dad on my own. In my case, I used a surrogate three times so I have three boys between the ages of 5 and 10.  When they started school and started to make friends, I did tell a few parents because they wanted to know more about me before letting their kids spend time with my kids. Most were intrigued for a few minutes. That went away once they realized how normal we are.  I&#39;m neither an advocate nor opponent of single parent surrogacy. I did what worked for me. I also don&#39;t promote it the same way people promote their personal lives for clout. In fact, I haven&#39;t told anybody about it in years.  That brings me to my son&#39;s 2nd grade teacher, Mrs. F. I got a random call from a reporter asking to interview me for a magazine piece on men resorting to surrogacy to have kids. I thought it was a joke but he had all sorts of information including the names of my kids and what I did for work.  I asked how he got my information and be said from Mrs F who is a friend of his. In fact, she gave him my number. I was pissed.  The next day, I told Mrs F about the call and she said it would be so exciting to be in a magazine and online. I asked why the f**k did she put my personal life out there. That&#39;s a total betrayal. She said she didn&#39;t know I&#39;d be that upset and simply thought that I&#39;d be open to it.  I told her that I didn&#39;t tell her my business let alone give her permission to spread. She didn&#39;t say anything so I called her a f**king moron who needs to grow the f**k up.  She probably thought I&#39;d complain to the principal but that&#39;s not my style. I will tell you stuff to your face. Now the VP principal is acting like an intermediary between us after she said I cussed her out. He did say that I was out of line but she was even more way out of line. He asked me to be understanding because she&#39;s young and lives online.  I told him that he&#39;s just mad that he actually has to do some work now and the funny part is that I&#39;m not even mad at her anymore. I don&#39;t like her but its not like she matters in a few months. Here&#39;s what people had to say:mmahowald writes: wow... She definitely messed up, but you are taking vengeance as a sport while stating that you are not even mad anymore. YTA. you are an adult, not one of your children. Adults don&#39;t throw hissyfits just for the pleasure of ut. if a parent was yelling and cursing id get an intermediary too. Low_Baker_1898 OP responded: My kids wouldn&#39;t cuss at me because I wouldn&#39;t give them reason to. DaBooba writes: You were understanding. You didn&#39;t report her to the principal in an attempt to get her fired. Instead you reamed her like she deserved to be. Logical consequences. JFC NTA Low_Baker_1898 OP responded: I think that was his way of blaming it over a generational misunderstanding between a Gen Z and a Millennial. Senior-Leg-2502 writes: ESH. The teacher should&#39;ve checked with you first before giving your info to her reporter friends. But your reaction was way over the line. You could&#39;ve just said &quot;not interested, thanks&quot; and the next day politely asked the teacher not to violate your privacy again.  You responded as though you were seriously attacked, when you weren&#39;t. You threw a tantrum like a little brat. Seems like you&#39;re the one who needs to &quot;grow the fuck up.&quot; Low_Baker_1898 OP responded: I shouldn&#39;t have to ask her to not give my personal information out. pinebonsai writes: NTA, the VP needs to not be making excuses for her, what she did was disrespectful, rude, and unethical. You do NOT give out other people&#39;s personal info without their permission!  If she wanted to give her friend a lead, she could have said &quot;Hey, I know a single dad who might be a good fit, let me ask him if he&#39;d like to talk to you&quot; and THAT&#39;S IT. Nothing about your contact info, life, and ESPECIALLY NOTHING ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN. Creative_Tart7794 writes: Actually she may have broken a law. I&#39;m not super familiar with FERPA, but she may have seriously violated it. That is no joke either. 

AITA for cussing at a teacher after she gave my information to a reporter?   I&#39;m one of the few but growing number of single men who foregone marriage and became a dad on my own. In my case, I used a surrogate three times so I have...