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<p>A woman posted this question because she was troubled by her bio daughter&#39;s response to her giving a gift to her stepdaughter. Here&#39;s the story...</p><h2>&quot;AITA for giving my dad&#39;s chess set to my step daughter instead of my biological daughter?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>This has been causing mixed reactions and my daughter isn&#39;t happy, so decided to post. My (42) dad was a big chess fan. He made his own chess set, this was around the time the show &quot;MacGyver&quot; got popular, and he made the pieces out of nuts and bolts.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My dad gave me the set when I was 20. I want to add this wasn&#39;t something my dad mentioned to do (it needs to be given to my kids, etc), just something I thought would be nice to pass down.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I have a daughter A (16) with my ex and a step daughter, T (20) through my husband. T and I are close and we have a good relationship.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>T turned 20 a few months ago, the age I was when dad gave me the chess set. I thought about it and decided to gift the set to her. She isn&#39;t much of a chess player, but at this point the set is more of a decorative piece to admire, than something to actually play with. T has mentioned many times how much she likes it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>A is furious that I gave the set to T. I&#39;ve sat her down and talked to her, that just like how she&#39;s my daughter, I consider T to be my daughter too. She&#39;s been very upset with me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I don&#39;t think I did anything wrong. I told a couple of my friends and they agree that I should be treating my kids equally, but my mom isn&#39;t particularly happy with this either.</p> </blockquote><p>Sounds pretty straightforward, and probably a NTA, until she answerd these questions:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/coastalkid92/">coastalkid92</a> asked:</p><blockquote> <p>INFO: when did T come into your life and did/has your dad ever have a relationship with T?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/givingchessset/">givingchessset</a> OP answered:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve been with my husband for 6 years, married for 4. And no, my dad passed 20 years ago.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mm172/">mm172</a> asked:</p><blockquote> <p>INFO: Has A expressed any interest in chess or the chess board? How close was she with her grandfather? Does she have any other heirlooms of his already?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/givingchessset/">givingchessset</a> OP answered:</p><blockquote> <p>A is a very good chess player. Dad passed when I was 22 so she unfortunately never got to meet him.</p> </blockquote><p>People jumped in after reading this:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/happybanana134/">happybanana134</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Stop kissing T&#39;s arse at your daughter&#39;s expense. Get your shit together.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>A is a &#39;very good chess player&#39;. T isn&#39;t fussed about chess. Neither A or T met your father...but he was A&#39;s grandfather who she&#39;d have grown up imagining.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Your mother isn&#39;t happy with your decision which is pretty teling. If T was an avid chessplayer, I&#39;d understand. But she isn&#39;t; she just happened to turn 20 before A. And kissing up to T is more important to you than your relationship with your own daughter.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Hopeful-Dream700/">Hopeful-Dream700</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>OP&rsquo;s father made the chess set to PLAY CHESS, and not as a decorative piece. T likes the looks of it, but not use it for intended purpose, it is wasted on her. On the other hand, A plays chess, she should have inherited it.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Pizzacato567/">Pizzacato567</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>EXACTLY. I&rsquo;m a pianist and I inherited my grandpa&rsquo;s piano. My mom tells me stories about him. I&rsquo;ve never met him but I feel close to him when I use it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I cannot IMAGINE if my family gave the piano to my sister who has no interest in pianos. The piano wasn&rsquo;t in a playable state and I fixed it up and can play now.</p> </blockquote><p>So there you go. What is actually going on here? Seems like she&#39;s got a favorite daughter, and it&#39;s T.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman gives stepdaughter family heirloom; her 'real' daughter is furious.

A woman posted this question because she was troubled by her bio daughter&#39;s response to her giving a gift to her stepdaughter. Here&#39;s the story...&quot;AITA for giving my dad&#39;s chess set to my step daughter instead of my biological daughter?&quot; This has been causing mixed reactions and my daughter isn&#39;t happy, so decided to post. My (42) dad was a big chess fan. He made his own chess set, this was around the time the show &quot;MacGyver&quot; got popular, and he made the pieces out of nuts and bolts.  My dad gave me the set when I was 20. I want to add this wasn&#39;t something my dad mentioned to do (it needs to be given to my kids, etc), just something I thought would be nice to pass down.  I have a daughter A (16) with my ex and a step daughter, T (20) through my husband. T and I are close and we have a good relationship.  T turned 20 a few months ago, the age I was when dad gave me the chess set. I thought about it and decided to gift the set to her. She isn&#39;t much of a chess player, but at this point the set is more of a decorative piece to admire, than something to actually play with. T has mentioned many times how much she likes it.  A is furious that I gave the set to T. I&#39;ve sat her down and talked to her, that just like how she&#39;s my daughter, I consider T to be my daughter too. She&#39;s been very upset with me.  I don&#39;t think I did anything wrong. I told a couple of my friends and they agree that I should be treating my kids equally, but my mom isn&#39;t particularly happy with this either. Sounds pretty straightforward, and probably a NTA, until she answerd these questions:coastalkid92 asked: INFO: when did T come into your life and did/has your dad ever have a relationship with T? givingchessset OP answered: I&#39;ve been with my husband for 6 years, married for 4. And no, my dad passed 20 years ago. mm172 asked: INFO: Has A expressed any interest in chess or the chess board? How close was she with her grandfather? Does she have any other heirlooms of his already? givingchessset OP answered: A is a very good chess player. Dad passed when I was 22 so she unfortunately never got to meet him. People jumped in after reading this:happybanana134 said: YTA. Stop kissing T&#39;s arse at your daughter&#39;s expense. Get your shit together.  A is a &#39;very good chess player&#39;. T isn&#39;t fussed about chess. Neither A or T met your father...but he was A&#39;s grandfather who she&#39;d have grown up imagining.  Your mother isn&#39;t happy with your decision which is pretty teling. If T was an avid chessplayer, I&#39;d understand. But she isn&#39;t; she just happened to turn 20 before A. And kissing up to T is more important to you than your relationship with your own daughter. Hopeful-Dream700 says: OP&rsquo;s father made the chess set to PLAY CHESS, and not as a decorative piece. T likes the looks of it, but not use it for intended purpose, it is wasted on her. On the other hand, A plays chess, she should have inherited it. Pizzacato567 said: EXACTLY. I&rsquo;m a pianist and I inherited my grandpa&rsquo;s piano. My mom tells me stories about him. I&rsquo;ve never met him but I feel close to him when I use it.  I cannot IMAGINE if my family gave the piano to my sister who has no interest in pianos. The piano wasn&rsquo;t in a playable state and I fixed it up and can play now. So there you go. What is actually going on here? Seems like she&#39;s got a favorite daughter, and it&#39;s T.

A woman posted this question because she was troubled by her bio daughter&#39;s response to her giving a gift to her stepdaughter. Here&#39;s the story...  &quot;AITA for giving my dad&#39;s chess set to my step daughter instead of my...