Woman feels violated by husband's houseguest; sprawls out naked to teach him a lesson.
When this woman is frustrated with her living situation, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for telling my husband that I'll continue to sleep on bed naked as long as his friend keeps barging in to the room?'
My f29, husband's m34, best friend (Jacob) m30 moved in with us. He's quiet and doesn't make a mess around the house like BIL used to while he lived with us.
However, Jacob has this habit of walking into the bedroom randomly to take stuff from my husband's closet. say a watch or a shirt. He does it more frequently and it's gotten increasingly annoying.
I felt like my privacy was being violated because I'm a private person, I'd like to have quiet time reading or mediate. I tried to speak up on the issue but got brushed off by both of them.
Last week, Jacob barged in at 11pm and interrupted my sleep. I was sleep deprived the whole day at work. I got fed up so what I had decided to do is start sleeping on top of the bed full naked whenever I'm in there.
Last night, Jacob walked in at 10pm while I was there and when he saw me, he let out a loud 'sh******t' and quickly turned around and rushed out. I started hearing a commotion outside so I got dressed to see what was going on.
I was met with a lot of yelling and scolding and shaming from my husband saying I was out of line to expose 'his brother' to 'such horrendous sight'. I asked what he meant and he yelled at me to stop acting dumb.
I said I felt frustrated after my privacy got violated and he went on about how Jacob was only there to grab something which, literally takes seconds. then went on about how I made him uncomfortable while describing my behavior as 'sl@tty'.
The argument got heated and he told me to start putting some decent clothes on and act like a lady instead of a sl$t since, it's his room too and he already gave permission. I got mad and told him loudly that I will keep sleeping on bed naked as long as his friend keeps walking inti the room then I walked off.
He didn't stop complaining and complaining saying I'm being ridiculous and even suggested that this was an attempt from me to make Jacob move out.
AITA? We're still arguing about it til this morning.
Let's find out.
cozynite writes:
NTA. But it sounds like you have a husband problem. He should care that his friend keeps going into the bedroom. And how is you being naked a “horrendous sight”? That is terrible of him to even say that and take his friend’s side.
illbethejudgeofthat writes:
NTA. It always bothers me when the guests start having more 'rights' than the person living in the house.. In this particular situation, it bothers me that your husbands opinion is above yours and your comfort.
Why does he cares more about his friend than about you?I would not put myself in that situation many times. I would address it but ultimately, if my comfort wasn't a priority in my own house, I would not see a future in that relationship. I'm not 'fighting' for my husband respect.