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Here&#39;s how she posed the question, which seems designed to get people on her side, but turns out maybe to be a cry for help...<h2>&quot;AITA for leaving the kids with my husband for 2 hours while I went shopping?&quot;</h2><blockquote> My husband was involved in an accident that injured his spinal cord so badly he needed to have a wheelchair. He also suffers from a head injury that causes him to be unable to perform some tasks properly as well as constant confusion. Sometimes he&#39;d lose track of time. </blockquote><blockquote> I take care of the house and kids on me own. Yesterday, I wanted to go shopping for some Christmas stuff but couldn&#39;t take the kids because firstly, they&#39;d want to get everything they see. And secondly, I didn&#39;t want them to see what I bought them. </blockquote><blockquote> I couldn&#39;t get the babysitter to come watch the kids like she does usually when I&#39;m out. I was in a rush, what I did was place the kids (3 &amp; 5)and their toys near my husband and asked him to just keep an eye on them. He was unsure of the whole thing but I had to leave. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> During my 2nd hour of shopping I got an angry call from his mother berating me for leaving my husband with the kids knowing he&#39;s unable to watch them properly. I went home and she yelled at me there saying thank God she came over because she found my husband asleep in his wheelchair and the kids were out of sight. </blockquote><blockquote> I said I was in a rush, the babysitter didn&#39;t come and thought it wouldn&#39;t hurt if he watched them for a couple of hours. She argued about how irresponsible I was to leave my husband with the kids knowing he&#39;s unable to watch them like any other able bodied person could. She said I should&#39;ve made sure someone was with the kids and my husband. </blockquote><blockquote> I had a screaming match with her and my husband just watched. She left and told her family about what a horrible mother I was and even claimed I was abusing my husband by giving him tasks he can not handle. They of course sided with her. AITA? </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>Here&#39;s what people had to say:<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Natural_Garbage7674/">Natural_Garbage7674</a> says:<blockquote> YTA. I&#39;m going to soften this a little bit because I&#39;m sure this is all very hard for you. You have two young children that it sounds like you are essentially raising as a single mother. </blockquote><blockquote> You know your husband can&#39;t look after the kids. You know it&#39;s not safe to leave them with someone who loses time and gets confused. You know you need a babysitter when you go out. </blockquote><blockquote> You know that you should not have gone out yesterday and that you wanted to go shopping, but you didn&#39;t have to yesterday. You know your MIL is right that you essentially left the kids alone, unsupervised and you&#39;re lucky she turned up. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> But you did it anyway. This is a sign that you aren&#39;t coping. You need help. You need to find resources that make things easier for you. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/juccals1993/">juccals1993</a> asks:<blockquote> How are you finding this mentally, with having to do all this on your own, Do you receive any help from anybody. I think you have your hands full. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/throwaway564366/">throwaway564366</a> OP says:<blockquote> No unfortunately no one&#39;s willing to help. Even his mother. They&#39;d say they&#39;d come if I call or let them know I need help but on many occasions they&#39;d ignored me. Thus I hired a babysitter. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Little-Martha31204/">Little-Martha31204</a> says:<blockquote> YES...I was just going to comment this with a gently YTA. I can feel the struggle of the OP in her comments. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/reyballesta/">reyballesta</a> says:<blockquote> There is no help from her family or husband&#39;s family. They&#39;re happy to chastise her, but not to help. I honestly think she needs to think about whether or not this marriage is sustainable for her. It sounds like the husband needs 24/7 care, and she can&#39;t provide that while also raising kids. The MIL clearly doesn&#39;t care about the children&#39;s actual safety so much as she cares about berating OP. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RuthlessBenedict/">RuthlessBenedict</a> says:<blockquote> YTA and I strongly suspect this isn&rsquo;t exactly about the Christmas shopping. You&rsquo;ve been experiencing a stressful situation that is likely to cause anyone to burn out. Needing a break to get out of the house alone is reasonable. Leaving your children without adequate care is not. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she was wrong to leave kids with husband in wheelchair for 2 hours.

Here&#39;s how she posed the question, which seems designed to get people on her side, but turns out maybe to be a cry for help...&quot;AITA for leaving the kids with my husband for 2 hours while I went shopping?&quot; My husband was involved in an accident that injured his spinal cord so badly he needed to have a wheelchair. He also suffers from a head injury that causes him to be unable to perform some tasks properly as well as constant confusion. Sometimes he&#39;d lose track of time.  I take care of the house and kids on me own. Yesterday, I wanted to go shopping for some Christmas stuff but couldn&#39;t take the kids because firstly, they&#39;d want to get everything they see. And secondly, I didn&#39;t want them to see what I bought them.  I couldn&#39;t get the babysitter to come watch the kids like she does usually when I&#39;m out. I was in a rush, what I did was place the kids (3 &amp; 5)and their toys near my husband and asked him to just keep an eye on them. He was unsure of the whole thing but I had to leave.  During my 2nd hour of shopping I got an angry call from his mother berating me for leaving my husband with the kids knowing he&#39;s unable to watch them properly. I went home and she yelled at me there saying thank God she came over because she found my husband asleep in his wheelchair and the kids were out of sight.  I said I was in a rush, the babysitter didn&#39;t come and thought it wouldn&#39;t hurt if he watched them for a couple of hours. She argued about how irresponsible I was to leave my husband with the kids knowing he&#39;s unable to watch them like any other able bodied person could. She said I should&#39;ve made sure someone was with the kids and my husband.  I had a screaming match with her and my husband just watched. She left and told her family about what a horrible mother I was and even claimed I was abusing my husband by giving him tasks he can not handle. They of course sided with her. AITA? Here&#39;s what people had to say:Natural_Garbage7674 says: YTA. I&#39;m going to soften this a little bit because I&#39;m sure this is all very hard for you. You have two young children that it sounds like you are essentially raising as a single mother.  You know your husband can&#39;t look after the kids. You know it&#39;s not safe to leave them with someone who loses time and gets confused. You know you need a babysitter when you go out.  You know that you should not have gone out yesterday and that you wanted to go shopping, but you didn&#39;t have to yesterday. You know your MIL is right that you essentially left the kids alone, unsupervised and you&#39;re lucky she turned up.  But you did it anyway. This is a sign that you aren&#39;t coping. You need help. You need to find resources that make things easier for you. juccals1993 asks: How are you finding this mentally, with having to do all this on your own, Do you receive any help from anybody. I think you have your hands full. throwaway564366 OP says: No unfortunately no one&#39;s willing to help. Even his mother. They&#39;d say they&#39;d come if I call or let them know I need help but on many occasions they&#39;d ignored me. Thus I hired a babysitter. Little-Martha31204 says: YES...I was just going to comment this with a gently YTA. I can feel the struggle of the OP in her comments. reyballesta says: There is no help from her family or husband&#39;s family. They&#39;re happy to chastise her, but not to help. I honestly think she needs to think about whether or not this marriage is sustainable for her. It sounds like the husband needs 24/7 care, and she can&#39;t provide that while also raising kids. The MIL clearly doesn&#39;t care about the children&#39;s actual safety so much as she cares about berating OP. RuthlessBenedict says: YTA and I strongly suspect this isn&rsquo;t exactly about the Christmas shopping. You&rsquo;ve been experiencing a stressful situation that is likely to cause anyone to burn out. Needing a break to get out of the house alone is reasonable. Leaving your children without adequate care is not. 

Here&#39;s how she posed the question, which seems designed to get people on her side, but turns out maybe to be a cry for help...  &quot;AITA for leaving the kids with my husband for 2 hours while I went shopping?&quot;   My husband was...