Woman 'humiliates' BF at restaurant when she refuses to pay for his parents.
When this woman feels taken advantage of, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for leaving the restaurant before my boyfriend's family arrived after I was told that I was going to pay for their meals?'
I (f29) have been dating my boyfriend (m35) 'Ricky' for 5 months. He's divorced but hates this word and goes with the word 'divorcee' instead since the first one makes it sound like he was 'dumped' when it was him who initiated it.
Anyways, He always go on long rants about his exes and say stuff like 'I hope you don't have this awful habit my ex has' or 'hope you like XYZ cause my ex didn't' and the list goes on.
I found a 2nd job recently and he's been having me pay every time we go out. When I protest he'd say he's going through a rough patch and is seeing how much help I cam offer.
Last night he invited his family to join us for dinner. We got to the restaurant first. He asked me if I 'brought' enough momey, I said why and he told me that he told his parents that I'd pay for their meals.
I said why would I and he went on about his parents going through a rough patch just like him. I said 'I'm sorry this can't be a coincidence!' he asked what I meant and I told him that I would not be paying.
He insisted, I refused and said no. He then leaned back and said 'well, you're here, so not much of a choice you have anyway' while laughing like it was funny. I silently got up, took my phone and purse and walked right out.
He was shocked he started shouting after me to stop and wait but I didn't.I went home and he called me enraged saying that I did a horrible thing walking out on him and his parents, while I could've just paid.
I told him that their unfortunate financial situation isn't my problem and that I wasn't obligated to pay for their food. If they couldn't pay for their meals, then they should not go out. He got offended and said and I qoute 'you're making money a priority just like my ex did .
Then went on about how disrespectful my attitude was and how I made him look small infront of his parents and forced him to lie about why I wasn't there when they came.
We've been going back an forth about it til now. He's mad and is refusing to speak to me til I apologize. AITA? I feel bad because his parents are lovely and I been doing my best to keep a good relationship with them.
Let's find out.
33ayin writes:
OMG - GIRL RUN!!!! This is NOT a man you want or need in your life! Go, go, go and don't look back - like ever!! NTA by a long shot
gamescatcomics writes:
Divorcee vs Divorced - Red Flag
Ranting about his ex on repeat - Red Flag
Expecting you to pay for everything - Red Flag
'Seeing how much help I can offer' - Red Flag
Expecting you to pay for his parents, and not warning you ahead of time - Red Flag
Comparing you to an ex because you don't want to pay for his family - Red Flag
This dude is full of red flags. it's time to run. NTA.