Wife's husband excludes stepdaughter from inheritance, bio daughter gets it all.
When this woman is annoyed with her husband, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for calling my husband an awful father because he wanted to leave the house to his bio daughter only?'
My husband and I have been married for 13 years, he has a daughter Alyssa (16F) from a previous relationship and I have my daughter Mariah (15F) from a previous too.
My husband is the only father my daughter has ever known and until now, he has made no distinction about our children, Alyssa's mother is still very involved in her life and she spends half the month with us while my daughter lives with us full time.
my FIL recently passed away and left him their house (a VERY nice house), we're actually so excited about this, because we were saving to buy a home for us four and now that we're making plans to move, I told my husband we could use that money to make some renovations for when the kids inherited it so they can sell it and split the money.
He said no, that the house will be his daughter's and that he doesn't feel comfortable leaving it to Mariah too when she's not his legal kid and that we could set the money aside for her because the house doesn't need that much work anyway, which is true, but it felt like a low blow.
I said it was unfair to leave Alyssa a full house and remarked how he was willing to leave it to both when we were gonna buy one and he said that it was because we would've bought it together, so it was only fair.
I said he was being an awful father and asked if he was willing to leave one of his children homeless, but he said I was overreacting.
I pointed our how Alyssa was getting this house, with some of the money her grandparents already left her, plus my husband's inheritance AND her mother's, while Mariah only had us both (my FIL didn't leave her anything which is okay), he admitted it wasn't fair, but that's just how it is and that we could work to try to make it even as possible.
I was flabbergasted so I just took Mariah and came to stay with my sister, he called asking to talk but I'm not ready. My sister said I was an AH because Mariah is not entitled to my husband's childhood home and it made me think. AITA?
Let's find out!
aquarius052 writes:
YTA. Your daughter is not entitled to his childhood home and your husband was definitely making concessions to make it more fair for her by offering to save up money for her.
It is really narcissistic and actually selfish of you to expect your husband to leave his stepdaughter, your daughter, his childhood home from his father, when usually stuff like that goes down the bloodline. I could see being upset if he was trying to exclude her from anything.
But he's not. You need to reevaluate your attitude and your way of thinking before you lose a good man.
corduroycat disagrees:
I get that, but they have been married since that little girl was 2 years old. He is the only father she has ever known.
I could see how when she realizes her sister inherits a whole house it will be like a slap in the face that he does not consider her his daughter.
I think if they can save up enough from what they were going to put into a house and then what they are saving on a mortgage and make it an equitable inheritance, then I think that will be fine. Like the bio daughter gets a 500k house and the non-bio daughter gets 500k.