Surrounding yourself with good people is a piece of advice that everyone should get. The problem is how can you tell if a person is bad? Is it the way they treat animals, the way they talk to service industry folks, or the way they walk down the street?
On a popular Reddit thread in the Ask Reddit Subreddit, people share the subtle signs that demonstrate if a person is 'bad'.
1. IdespiseGACHAgames says
Halfway through the grocery store, in the middle of the rice aisle, or somewhere equally warm, they suddenly decide they don't need the frozen/refrigerated item in their cart after all, and rather than returning it to where they found it, they instead choose just to leave it on the shelf. Nothing is preventing them from putting it back in the cooler/freezer, but they're actively choosing to allow fish, raw meat, milk/ice cream, or whatever else to sit in the open air and spoil.
2. Practical_Internal86 says:
They say you’re wrong for getting upset at their wrong behavior.
3. magicrowantree says
You feel the need to be careful with how and what you say to them because they'll twist words to make you sound like the bad guy. Too many 'misunderstandings' can make you extremely conscious of yourself and make you walk on eggshells
4. bighatbenno says:
Always be aware of gossips and people who are nasty about others behind their backs. You are probably not the only person they are telling. They will probably be gossiping about you to other people. Also, if someone never has anything nice to say about other people then they are probably saying nasty things about you behind your back.
5. RingtailRush says:
My Ex slowly lost all of her friends over-time. She'd make new ones and then somehow burn those bridges too. She also used to gossip and talk sh*t about everyone she knew, including me. At least one friend who I never met thought I was scum because of what she said about me.
6. Jackie-Ooooh says:
They have something bad to say about everyone. They have to tell you how nice, honest, smart, hardworking, etc they are. The second they get upset with someone they’re on a mission to ruin their life.
7. eastofsaturn says:
They always expect something in return, no matter what.
8. Dudebrohoe says:
If someone makes fun of someone smiles or laughter. My mom used to tell me how werid my smile was and say it was annoying when I laughed it's a sh*tty thing to do.
9. tarkuspig says:
When they can’t apologize.
10. ChristopherHPowell says:
When they always 'playfully' insult you, but can't handle any criticism about themselves at all.
11. kookycandies says:
Anything you say to them can and will be used against you, but subtly.
12. lostaoldier481 says:
They are very concerned with making sure you know they're a good person.
13.simtyhopcc says:
Every time you interact with them, you feel worse than before.
14. Interesting_Sparrow says:
They tell small lies. The kind you might pick up on and not mention cause it’s not anything big but when added up they can completely change the context of a situation
15. deeroc420 says:
They cut in line.
16. oureyes2 says:
Listening to smartphone audio in public without headphones.
17. No_Understanding162 says:
Lovebombing. It’s hard to spot, you may even be inclined to ignore it because it feels so good. This is what narcissists will do at the beginning of a friendship/relationship, where they treat you extremely well and downright coddle you. Once they believe you in love/attached they begin revealing their true self. Belittling, excessive complaining, unwarranted judgement and anger, just a lot of abusive behavior.