Pregnancy

<h2>Celebrating a new life is one of the greatest joys a family can share.</h2><p>Stepping on that moment can really feel like an insult. Many people spend years trying for a child and when they are finally able to conceive, it is something they want to share with the world. What they often don&#39;t want to share, is the spotlight.</p><h2>AITA for announcing my pregnancy immediately after my sister?</h2><p><a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/helomyo/">helomyo</a></p><blockquote> <p>My husband and I have been trying for our second baby for two and a half years. We lost 2 pregnancies during that time, though we only told our families about the first. I&rsquo;m incredibly grateful to now be 13 weeks pregnant and have been looking forward to sharing that news with my family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>On Friday, we had dinner with my family - my sister, her boyfriend, and our parents - and we decided to share our news then. I decided to wait until dessert, so that we could leave shortly after telling everyone. Obviously, it&rsquo;s exciting news, but I was worried about all the emotions that could surface for myself and my husband.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Right after we sat down to eat, my sister announced that she and her boyfriend are expecting their first child. I was thrilled for her and congratulated her, as did the rest of the family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Once things had settled down, I didn&rsquo;t want to waste the opportunity to have everyone together and thought it would be a good opportunity to keep the joy flowing, so I shared that I&rsquo;m pregnant as well.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Our parents were so excited to be having two new grandbabies just a month apart and I was super happy that my kids would have a new cousin. My sister was happy for me but she left very soon after dinner and didn&rsquo;t stay for dessert.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She called me this afternoon and told me that as happy as she was for me, she felt that I&rsquo;d done a sh*tty thing by taking away &ldquo;her moment.&rdquo; She pointed out that this is my second baby and when I announced for the first time, I didn&rsquo;t have to &ldquo;share&rdquo; with anyone.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I didn&rsquo;t want to apologize because I didn&rsquo;t feel I&rsquo;d done anything wrong, but she finished out the phone call by saying that she didn&rsquo;t think I was really even happy for her, if I couldn&rsquo;t have let her have that moment and taken another for myself later on. That really stung.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I truly didn&rsquo;t see it that way. I saw it as sharing joy, not stealing it. I also see each pregnancy as being unique, so I don&rsquo;t feel that it was right of her to say I shouldn&rsquo;t have said anything because it was my second baby.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Honestly, I think she might be kind of hormonal. But I also want to understand my sister and I know I&rsquo;m not going to get anywhere asking her about it. So, I want to be enlightened. AITA for announcing my pregnancy immediately after my sister?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>ETA: I&rsquo;m visiting from Los Angeles, my sister lives in New Jersey and our parents live in NYC.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here is how people reacted:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/zepprith/">zepprith</a></p><blockquote> <p>YTA, for exactly what she said. You could have waited for a different day and I don&rsquo;t think it is bad that she wanted to be in the spotlight a little bit. Like she said it was her first baby and she wanted people to be happy that they are having a kid. With that said disregarding her emotions as her just being hormonal is kinda mean.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/arianrhodd/">arianrhodd</a></p><blockquote> <p>Did you see her edit, though? She flew across the country to see them (LA to NY) and might not get another in-person chance.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tmink0220/">tmink0220</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I agree, they live in different places and they both took the time to share the news. NTA, frankly the &quot;dibs&quot; on announcing baby news is just silly. If they got together every week maybe, but they live across the country. The sister is more upset she is just plain pregnant and it would not have mattered if she announced it next month.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/cheezwhiz17/">cheezwhiz17</a></p><blockquote> <p>Soft YTA. It definitely doesn&rsquo;t seem like you had ill intentions here, but you need to step back and walk in your sister&rsquo;s shoes. She&rsquo;s not wrong at all. It&rsquo;s NOT your first baby, but it is her first. You did steal the spotlight, even if inadvertently. I totally understand your joy, especially after what I&rsquo;m sure were devastating losses, but just swallow your pride show a little empathy for her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/therealbillybaldwin/">therealbillybaldwin</a></p><blockquote> <p>There is NO spotlight. We are not on stage. This is not a production. No one is a &quot;main character.&quot; I don&#39;t understand the need to defend shitty, childish jealousy over something that isn&#39;t real, isn&#39;t important, and is just a way to feed someone&#39;s personal ego.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/your_innerdemons/">your_innerdemons</a></p><blockquote> <p>Soft YTA, because you might not have bad intentions but you obviously upset your sister.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Try to see where she&#39;s coming from. She announces her pregnancy and you announce yours right after, which makes it seem like you&#39;re trying to insert yourself in the conversation and make the moment about you.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I can easily see how she took it the wrong way, and you should swallow your pride and apologize, because I&#39;m sure there was a wealth of different times you could have announced your pregnancy.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Do you think this woman was wrong to share her happy news on the same day as her sister?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman flies cross-country to undercut sister's pregnancy announcement. AITA?

Celebrating a new life is one of the greatest joys a family can share.Stepping on that moment can really feel like an insult. Many people spend years trying for a child and when they are finally able to conceive, it is something they want to share with the world. What they often don&#39;t want to share, is the spotlight.AITA for announcing my pregnancy immediately after my sister?helomyo My husband and I have been trying for our second baby for two and a half years. We lost 2 pregnancies during that time, though we only told our families about the first. I&rsquo;m incredibly grateful to now be 13 weeks pregnant and have been looking forward to sharing that news with my family.  On Friday, we had dinner with my family - my sister, her boyfriend, and our parents - and we decided to share our news then. I decided to wait until dessert, so that we could leave shortly after telling everyone. Obviously, it&rsquo;s exciting news, but I was worried about all the emotions that could surface for myself and my husband.  Right after we sat down to eat, my sister announced that she and her boyfriend are expecting their first child. I was thrilled for her and congratulated her, as did the rest of the family.  Once things had settled down, I didn&rsquo;t want to waste the opportunity to have everyone together and thought it would be a good opportunity to keep the joy flowing, so I shared that I&rsquo;m pregnant as well.  Our parents were so excited to be having two new grandbabies just a month apart and I was super happy that my kids would have a new cousin. My sister was happy for me but she left very soon after dinner and didn&rsquo;t stay for dessert.  She called me this afternoon and told me that as happy as she was for me, she felt that I&rsquo;d done a sh*tty thing by taking away &ldquo;her moment.&rdquo; She pointed out that this is my second baby and when I announced for the first time, I didn&rsquo;t have to &ldquo;share&rdquo; with anyone.  I didn&rsquo;t want to apologize because I didn&rsquo;t feel I&rsquo;d done anything wrong, but she finished out the phone call by saying that she didn&rsquo;t think I was really even happy for her, if I couldn&rsquo;t have let her have that moment and taken another for myself later on. That really stung.  I truly didn&rsquo;t see it that way. I saw it as sharing joy, not stealing it. I also see each pregnancy as being unique, so I don&rsquo;t feel that it was right of her to say I shouldn&rsquo;t have said anything because it was my second baby.  Honestly, I think she might be kind of hormonal. But I also want to understand my sister and I know I&rsquo;m not going to get anywhere asking her about it. So, I want to be enlightened. AITA for announcing my pregnancy immediately after my sister?  ETA: I&rsquo;m visiting from Los Angeles, my sister lives in New Jersey and our parents live in NYC. Here is how people reacted:zepprith YTA, for exactly what she said. You could have waited for a different day and I don&rsquo;t think it is bad that she wanted to be in the spotlight a little bit. Like she said it was her first baby and she wanted people to be happy that they are having a kid. With that said disregarding her emotions as her just being hormonal is kinda mean. arianrhodd Did you see her edit, though? She flew across the country to see them (LA to NY) and might not get another in-person chance. tmink0220 I agree, they live in different places and they both took the time to share the news. NTA, frankly the &quot;dibs&quot; on announcing baby news is just silly. If they got together every week maybe, but they live across the country. The sister is more upset she is just plain pregnant and it would not have mattered if she announced it next month. cheezwhiz17 Soft YTA. It definitely doesn&rsquo;t seem like you had ill intentions here, but you need to step back and walk in your sister&rsquo;s shoes. She&rsquo;s not wrong at all. It&rsquo;s NOT your first baby, but it is her first. You did steal the spotlight, even if inadvertently. I totally understand your joy, especially after what I&rsquo;m sure were devastating losses, but just swallow your pride show a little empathy for her. therealbillybaldwin There is NO spotlight. We are not on stage. This is not a production. No one is a &quot;main character.&quot; I don&#39;t understand the need to defend shitty, childish jealousy over something that isn&#39;t real, isn&#39;t important, and is just a way to feed someone&#39;s personal ego. your_innerdemons Soft YTA, because you might not have bad intentions but you obviously upset your sister.  Try to see where she&#39;s coming from. She announces her pregnancy and you announce yours right after, which makes it seem like you&#39;re trying to insert yourself in the conversation and make the moment about you.  I can easily see how she took it the wrong way, and you should swallow your pride and apologize, because I&#39;m sure there was a wealth of different times you could have announced your pregnancy. Do you think this woman was wrong to share her happy news on the same day as her sister?

Celebrating a new life is one of the greatest joys a family can share.  Stepping on that moment can really feel like an insult. Many people spend years trying for a child and when they are finally able to conceive, it is something they...