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The quiet car is a sacred space. You pay extra for some peace of mind, so if someone refuses to use headphones on a video &mdash; how far are you allowed to go for retribution and justice? On <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11biuxd/aita_for_invading_someones_personal_space/" target="_blank">Reddit</a>, two friends are debating that very question. OP writes:&#39;AITA for invading someone&rsquo;s personal space?&#39;<blockquote> Not a serious or life altering situation. For context, I (33f) live in the UK. We have quiet sections on trains and I booked my ticket specifically so I could do work on a table in the quiet section on my laptop. My friend Lea (34f) sat opposite me. </blockquote><blockquote> A man (40s/50s) was sat next to me and about 15 minutes into the journey, starts watching Friends out loud on his iPad. I put my headphones in but it was loud enough that I could still hear it. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> My friend and the person sat next to her were just giving him dirty looks, but he was oblivious and munching away on his sandwich. </blockquote><blockquote> So I said: &ldquo;Excuse me, would you mind turning that down just a little bit, please?&rdquo; He said no. Literally one word, no. Then I mentioned that it was the quiet section of the train and he laughed at me and said, &ldquo;are you go gonna tell on me?&rdquo; </blockquote><blockquote> It was so bizarre and annoying, but my friend just gestured for me to stay calm and leave it. So I closed my laptop and started watching with him. And commenting. </blockquote><blockquote> &ldquo;Omg I love this bit!&rdquo; &ldquo;Watch the next part, it&rsquo;s soooooo funny.&rdquo; &ldquo;Oh, is this the one where X happens?&rdquo; I&rsquo;m not a massive Friends fan but I know enough to get by. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> He didn&rsquo;t respond, just kept giving me irritated looks. But I kept going. He moved the iPad from the table to his lap, without turning the volume lower at any point. </blockquote><blockquote> So I just carried on peering over his shoulder and commenting. He finally slammed the iPad case shut, grabbed his backpack and walked off, presumably to find another seat on the train. </blockquote><blockquote> I opened my laptop and carried on working. After we got off, Lea said I should&rsquo;ve just left it and not reacted to him, but it was a 4hr journey and I had a lot to do. I paid extra to get a table seat, that too in the quiet section. </blockquote><blockquote> She said I could have offered him my headphones. Maybe if they were over-ear, but they&rsquo;re in-ear and he&rsquo;s a stranger so, no. </blockquote><blockquote> She said I kind of invaded his personal space &ndash; I didn&rsquo;t touch him or move from the confines of my seat at any point and she was like no but watching someone&rsquo;s iPad is an asshole move. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> We&rsquo;re not in a fight, just a lighthearted debate on whether or not I&rsquo;m TA here for how I went about it. </blockquote>Without a doubt, lots of quiet car riders in the comments.<a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/justrelsstuff/" target="_blank">Justrelsstuff</a> wrote:<blockquote> NTA. And Lea needs to stop being such a doormat. </blockquote><blockquote> I do wish the guards would enforce the Quiet Zones, but the assholish reaction of the guy you encountered does make me realise why they don&#39;t want to get involved; their job is bad enough already. </blockquote>OP responded:<blockquote> Lea is a bit of a pushover. At the point she was like &lsquo;you could have given him your headphones,&rsquo; I was like babes you&rsquo;re having a laugh. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> And 100%, I knew involving a guard would just escalate the situation and also make me feel really childish and &lsquo;snitchy&rsquo; after his comment </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Garamon7/" target="_blank">Garamon7</a> wrote:<blockquote> NTA. He wanted &quot;Friends&quot;, he got &quot;a friend&quot;. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/imothro/" target="_blank">imothro</a> wrote:<blockquote> NTA at all. He chose to make watching his tv show a public activity. In doing so, he opened himself up to public participation. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AdditionalFondant304/" target="_blank">AdditionalFondant304</a> wrote:<blockquote> NTA. He lacked basic manners, you just commented on the show he so graciously put on for EVERYONE to hear. </blockquote>Well, if you can&#39;t beat em...<div className="ad-splitter"></div>

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The quiet car is a sacred space. You pay extra for some peace of mind, so if someone refuses to use headphones on a video &mdash; how far are you allowed to go for retribution and justice? On Reddit, two friends are debating that very question. OP writes:&#39;AITA for invading someone&rsquo;s personal space?&#39; Not a serious or life altering situation. For context, I (33f) live in the UK. We have quiet sections on trains and I booked my ticket specifically so I could do work on a table in the quiet section on my laptop. My friend Lea (34f) sat opposite me.  A man (40s/50s) was sat next to me and about 15 minutes into the journey, starts watching Friends out loud on his iPad. I put my headphones in but it was loud enough that I could still hear it.  My friend and the person sat next to her were just giving him dirty looks, but he was oblivious and munching away on his sandwich.  So I said: &ldquo;Excuse me, would you mind turning that down just a little bit, please?&rdquo; He said no. Literally one word, no. Then I mentioned that it was the quiet section of the train and he laughed at me and said, &ldquo;are you go gonna tell on me?&rdquo;  It was so bizarre and annoying, but my friend just gestured for me to stay calm and leave it. So I closed my laptop and started watching with him. And commenting.  &ldquo;Omg I love this bit!&rdquo; &ldquo;Watch the next part, it&rsquo;s soooooo funny.&rdquo; &ldquo;Oh, is this the one where X happens?&rdquo; I&rsquo;m not a massive Friends fan but I know enough to get by.  He didn&rsquo;t respond, just kept giving me irritated looks. But I kept going. He moved the iPad from the table to his lap, without turning the volume lower at any point.  So I just carried on peering over his shoulder and commenting. He finally slammed the iPad case shut, grabbed his backpack and walked off, presumably to find another seat on the train.  I opened my laptop and carried on working. After we got off, Lea said I should&rsquo;ve just left it and not reacted to him, but it was a 4hr journey and I had a lot to do. I paid extra to get a table seat, that too in the quiet section.  She said I could have offered him my headphones. Maybe if they were over-ear, but they&rsquo;re in-ear and he&rsquo;s a stranger so, no.  She said I kind of invaded his personal space &ndash; I didn&rsquo;t touch him or move from the confines of my seat at any point and she was like no but watching someone&rsquo;s iPad is an asshole move.  We&rsquo;re not in a fight, just a lighthearted debate on whether or not I&rsquo;m TA here for how I went about it. Without a doubt, lots of quiet car riders in the comments.Justrelsstuff wrote: NTA. And Lea needs to stop being such a doormat.  I do wish the guards would enforce the Quiet Zones, but the assholish reaction of the guy you encountered does make me realise why they don&#39;t want to get involved; their job is bad enough already. OP responded: Lea is a bit of a pushover. At the point she was like &lsquo;you could have given him your headphones,&rsquo; I was like babes you&rsquo;re having a laugh.  And 100%, I knew involving a guard would just escalate the situation and also make me feel really childish and &lsquo;snitchy&rsquo; after his comment Garamon7 wrote: NTA. He wanted &quot;Friends&quot;, he got &quot;a friend&quot;. imothro wrote: NTA at all. He chose to make watching his tv show a public activity. In doing so, he opened himself up to public participation. AdditionalFondant304 wrote: NTA. He lacked basic manners, you just commented on the show he so graciously put on for EVERYONE to hear. Well, if you can&#39;t beat em...

The quiet car is a sacred space. You pay extra for some peace of mind, so if someone refuses to use headphones on a video &mdash; how far are you allowed to go for retribution and justice? On Reddit, two friends are debating that very...