'AITA for dropping my BF's drunk friends at a bus stop instead of driving them home?' UPDATED 2X

"AITA for dropping off two drunk, rude girls at the bus stop instead of driving them home?"

Here's the original post:

My boyfriend's best friend's girlfriend is always really rude to me. She wanted to hook up my boyfriend with one of her friends, so when I arrived into the picture she decided she hates my guts for 'ruining her friend's chance for a great relationship'.

I was still trying to be nice if we had to hang out because of our boyfriends, but I preffered to avoid her, since she would always make a point to talk shit about my appearance/personality/fashion sense/work/etc.

My boyfriend and his friend went to a festival together, I was supposed to pick them up after, because they were drinking. I arrived at the parking lot at 3AM to see my boyfriend, his friend, his friend's girlfriend and her friend - yes, the one she wanted to hook up with my boyfriend.

I was surprised, but before I could ask about it they get into a car. Few minutes pass until the girlfriend's friend asked if I'm "the b-word that stole her loooooove", which spiralled into them going into a rant about everything that is wrong with me in their eyes, including how my boyfriend could do better.

I told them that they are quite brave, considering the state they are in (completely wasted), since I'm driving them home and I can decide to just drop them off if they continue. They dared me to do so. So I did.

Pulled up to the nearest bus stop, told them to get out. They thought I was joking until they saw me turning off the engine. In the end my boyfriend got annoyed, since he wasn't feeling well and wanted to go home, so he screamed at them to get out or he will drag them out of my car himself.

His best friend tried to protest, but my boyfriend in his drunk state told him that it's my car, so he's not one to decide & if he has a problem then he wait for the bus with his girl and her friend or take an uber.

My boyfriend, after waking up sober and remembering what happened, called me an @$$h@le for kicking out two drunk girls out of my car in the middle of the night. I reminded him that his friend stayed with them, but it only angered him more for some reason.

I was told that the girls were drunk, so I shouldn't take to heart what they were saying and that by dropping them off at the bus stop I've put them in unnecessary danger. He is going on about it for the past few hours, to the point when I don't know if I really did the bad thing and should apologize.

Commenters overwhelmingly agreed she's NTA. Here are some top comments:

AntiqueRooster5880 said:

NTA - is your boyfriend insane? You were being verbally abused (and not for the first time) by this girl while he sat and did nothing. You didn't drop them off in the middle of nowhere, they were at a bus stop with your BF bestfriend. I'd be more concerned with the fact he doesn't see an issue with the way you've been treated. You did the right, NICE thing. Should have kicked your boyfriend out at the same time.

teresajs said:

NTA. You picked your BF up from his double date. You had never agreed to give those girls a ride. And everyone in the car was an a-h@le to you. Dump the guy and let the other girl have him.

No-Window6563 said:

NTA. I would be questioning why your boyfriend isn’t standing up to his friend over very obvious bullying. If she’s saying it to your face I can only imagine what she says to him behind your back.

And OliverBarley said:

NTA obviously, but the bigger issue here is your boyfriend. If someone was treating my wife like that there is literally 0% chance I spend any time with them. Absolutely obviously I wouldn't be angry at her for sticking up for herself. Personally, this would be a deal breaker for a relationship.

Looks like she listened to everyone's feedback, because she later shared this update:

Well, I have an update, but first I want to answer some of the questions that were asked A LOT. At first I wanted to respond to each and every comment, but before I realized my og post blew up, so I decided to address everything here.

Did you know your bf went on a double date? No, it was supposed to be him & his best friend… which I have my doubts about, because the festival was ticketed & the tickets were sold out in a matter of days. I’m sure at least her boyfriend knew she was going.

Was the bus stop in the middle of nowhere? No, it was in a city center, near the festival site and there were many other festival goers waiting.

Were the buses still running? Yes, our city is hosting this festival for years now and they are always taking care of festival-goers – there are additional night buses, trams and even trains lines.

Now to the update, I know why my boyfriend was so adamant about me apologizing. Apparently his bestfriend’s girlfriend (& her friend) decided that I need to be „taught a lesson”.

I’m not really sure what they were planning to do, but they decided to scare me somehow, as a form of revenge. My boyfriend decided it would be a great idea for me to apologize, so that they would calm down… instead of, you know, telling me.

When asked why he would withold this information from me, he said that he didn’t want drama (as if there’s not enough drama already with this psycho). He told me all of this because his bestfriend broke up with her in the end over her craziness. So my boyfriend deemed it appropriate to tell me I no longer have to apologize, lol.

I contacted his bestfriend asking if he would be willing to tell what he knows about his ex & her plans to authorities, if she would ever come through with her plan to „teach me a lesson” and he agreed. My boyfriend on the other hand was furious I contacted his bestfriend, because he doesn’t want drama.

I was feeling petty, so I told him that maybe I should just go out with his bestfriend, since he seems more level-headed and caring, that's when I learned that his bestfriend ex thought her boyfriend (my bf's bestfriend) was attracted to me, so her outbursts of anger were justified by her insecurities. When asked why he's so keen on victimizing her, he wasn't able to answer and shut down completely.

Needles to say, we are taking a break. It’s hard to break up completely because we are living together and we both are on the lease. I’m pretty sure it’s not the kind of update a lot of people commenting under my previous post were hoping for, but I’m not really sure what to do.

A lot of commenters questioned her decision to "take a break" instead of ending things. Eight months later, posted another update:

"I am alive, don't worry. I finally got away!"

WE ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER. I know a lot of people couldn't understand why we were on a break instead of breaking up, but I did it for my own safety. What would he do, with us still living together, if I broke up with him? He was willing to cover for people who had plans to hurt me, better safe than dead, right? I got away tho, found a nice affordable place with two other, wonderful rommates.

Blocked everyone (yes, including my ex's friend, I'm sorry but this ship has sailed and is somewhere down there with titanic) just to be sure no one will find me. Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts - a lot of people commented and reached out to me asking if I'm alright. That's really sweet of you, I wish you all the absolute best!

...and they all lived happily ever after. Except for the mean drunk girls and the boyfriend, who hopefully did a lot of inner work in therapy. The End.