A woman posted about her far-fetched relationship on Reddit, and since then, the internet has been buzzing. Here is her original post:
I just found out that I've been dating my biological brother for 6 years.
I am 30 and my brother is 32. I'm just going to call him my boyfriend for the majority of the time while I type this. I feel weird about this. I was adopted as a baby but I didn't know that I was adopted until I was in high school. It didn't feel betrayed or care much.
I love my parents and my parents love me. Who cares if they aren't my real parents. My boyfriend was also adopted and when we met it was one of the things we sort of bonded over. We both didn't learn we were adopted until high school and we both were lucky and had good families. We weren't passed around from foster home to foster home.
Our relationship was and still is great. We understood each other very fast. We were attracted to each other quickly. I've never met someone and felt immediate attraction and familiarity. Now I know that the comfort and familiarity is because he's my brother. Not my half brother. He is my full brother.
We've done everything a couple that has been together for 6 years could do. We've said we love each other, we've had sex, we've celebrated anniversaries, we've met each other's families.
I'm just glad we both agreed early on that we don't want to have kids so that has never happened. I don't want to deal with the health risks and have to raise a child and them know that their parents are siblings.
I discovered it when we did the DNA test thing to see our ancestry and what exactly we are. I ordered two for us, we spit in the tube, and sent it out. It took like a month for the results to come back and I was excited to see what we were but before I could even get to that. I saw that we were siblings. I was SHOCKED to say the least.
I only just found out this information and I haven't told my boyfriend. I'm really hoping they made a mistake but things are kind of starting to make sense to me now. We always get the 'you guys look so alike' or 'he's the male version of you.' Long before this test we've always gotten compared.
We always just laughed it off but I have spent the morning looking at pictures of us together and realizing that we really do look so alike. It's freaking me out and I don't know what I should do.
I still love my boyfriend/brother and we have been together for 6 years. We have a house together and a whole comfortable life. I'm hoping that this test is wrong and will do a real test soon but I'm panicking. I still see him as the love of my life.
And then she added:
I posted this the other day in but since then I showed him the results and he realized that we're siblings. He doesn't want to freak out or make any big decisions until we get a real test somewhere. But I can tell he is freaked out and it was odd laying in bed next to him.
Redditors were all too generous with their thoughts. Here are the top comments:
Well.. To be honest, those DNA tests are pretty accurate.. Be prepared to get the same result if you take another test. However.. I know people will be disgusted by this.. But in my opinion, as long as you don't get children, I'm not sure I see the problem?
I mean, you didn't grow up together, and have already been together for that long. If DNA testing wasn't as available as it is today, you would never have known, right This might just be my weird opinion on this, but obviously you will have a stronger bond to each other, than you will ever have to anyone else. It's sweet, in a twisted way maybe.
Edit: That said, I would probably not tell anyone about it, if you decide to continue being in a relationship.
And OP responded:
If we never decided to do this test we'd be blissfully unaware.
Damnnnn my dad talks about how he was a hoe back in the day. “I’m sure you have siblings spread out everywhere”. This is my biggest fear! I’m shocked for you! The DNA test, what else does it have? Similar findings for both of you or the exact same? Maybe they tested one sample twice? (me wishfully hoping)
To which OP replied:
Be careful. He grew up states away and it happened to me lol
Dude I'm sorry but you have to break up ...it's gross.
To which According-Doctor-741 said:
You need to mind your own damn business. You have absolutely NO RIGHT to push your moral views on someone else!
And later, OP added:
Just want to say. Thank you to the other adopted people who told said this was a big fear. It came true for me but I'm so glad I'm not the only one while during a hookup was like 'am I related to this person?' It's scary not knowing ANYONE you're really related to.
As long as they aren't looking to have biological children together... who are they hurting? Can they make it work? Should they? Perhaps it's more complicated than we'll ever know.