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<blockquote> I (26m) think this is completely ridiculous but maybe I&rsquo;m actually wrong, so here goes. </blockquote><blockquote> I&rsquo;ve been with my girlfriend (26f) for 5 years but we&rsquo;ve known each other since we were 15. I&rsquo;m fortunate to have my own place and we&#39;ve discussed for a while her moving in with me as she has been staying in the house more often. </blockquote><blockquote> This wasn&rsquo;t a problem until she was about to move in. I have a few photos in the house of me with members of my family, the problem is with a specific photo of me with my brother and father. </blockquote><blockquote> She told me to remove the photo before she moved in to accommodate her, I asked her why, she answered that it&#39;s &quot;weird&quot;, but to me, there&rsquo;s nothing weird about the photo, she&#39;s the one making it weird. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Maybe the only thing weird about the photos is that all of them are when I was a child but none of them are inappropriate or have something you can take the wrong way. She had no other argument and, in the end, I refused and she said she wouldn&#39;t move in and I was ok with that. </blockquote><blockquote> This has been a topic of discussion for the past few days. Some of our friends and even my father said that I should remove the photo to make her feel welcome but I just find that, again, ridiculous. </blockquote><blockquote> Edit: I won&rsquo;t post the photo because I don&rsquo;t feel comfortable but I will describe it as much as possible. </blockquote><blockquote> The photo was taken when my brother was 6 and I 7. </blockquote><blockquote> In the middle is my father with a grin from ear to ear, his eyes closed and his arms extended to the sides; to his left is my brother: buzz cut, standing straight with his arms at the side like a soldier and a serious face; to my father&#39;s right is me: long hair, standing like a boxer from 1910 with my chin up and a mean mug; all wearing a suit because it was taken at my uncle&#39;s wedding. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> The photo was taken outside the place where the event took place (there is nothing exceptional related to the place). The only things aside from us is the sun, the blue sky and a bunch of trees. </blockquote><blockquote> She has met my family; she has always been respectful/friendly with them and vice versa. There hasn&#39;t been incidents or problems with any of them, I have asked her and she has denied it. </blockquote><blockquote> Her problem is with the photo I described above. I have other photos with my father and brother individually. I do the same pose in various photos; I have one doing the same pose with my paternal grandfather where we both wear boxing gloves (he taught me the pose). </blockquote><blockquote> She has stayed in the house multiple days, even weeks, she has things here. She never brought up the issue. I&rsquo;m all for compromising but I need a proper explanation other than &quot;it&rsquo;s weird&quot;. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I still have long hair, even longer than before. She is very fond of it and not a problem. </blockquote><blockquote> None of the photos stands out, they&#39;re put on a small part of the wall in the living room with the others, including the ones I&#39;m with her. They&#39;re not big or I&#39;d basically be upholstering the entire wall. </blockquote><blockquote> She had issues with her family but they solved it. But I don&#39;t rule out that something happened that she hasn&#39;t told me. </blockquote><blockquote> She knows that I&#39;m the kind to fall for that kind of things. We have a precedent when she asked me to not study abroad but I did it anyway. I&#39;m reasonable when there is a proper explanation, not her &quot;just because&quot;. </blockquote>Here&#39;s what people had to say:<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Crazy_Lengthiness209/">Crazy_Lengthiness209</a> says:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> She had sex with your brother. That&#39;s why the photo makes her uncomfortable. There is no other explanation. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/poorburgundy/">poorburgundy</a> says:<blockquote> Maybe she doesn&#39;t want to move in, and this is just the excuse. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/warpus/">warpus</a> says<blockquote> Maybe she&rsquo;s just&hellip; weird. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Perdendosi/">Perdendosi</a> says:<blockquote> There is absolutely something weird here. I can think of two scenarios: </blockquote><blockquote> 1. Something&#39;s wrong with that photo -- it triggers a past memory (either with the people in it, or of people who look like it, or of a traumatic situation) or it&#39;s &quot;weird&quot; in some other inappropriate way that you&#39;re not telling us, OR </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> 2. It&#39;s an attempt by her to see how far she can control the living space-- a test to see if you&#39;ll be willing to either (a) compromise and be amenable to each other&#39;s peccadilloes when cohabitating (that&#39;s the generous read) or (b) if you can be controlled. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy's girlfriend won't move in unless he takes down one particular photo.

 I (26m) think this is completely ridiculous but maybe I&rsquo;m actually wrong, so here goes.  I&rsquo;ve been with my girlfriend (26f) for 5 years but we&rsquo;ve known each other since we were 15. I&rsquo;m fortunate to have my own place and we&#39;ve discussed for a while her moving in with me as she has been staying in the house more often.  This wasn&rsquo;t a problem until she was about to move in. I have a few photos in the house of me with members of my family, the problem is with a specific photo of me with my brother and father.  She told me to remove the photo before she moved in to accommodate her, I asked her why, she answered that it&#39;s &quot;weird&quot;, but to me, there&rsquo;s nothing weird about the photo, she&#39;s the one making it weird.  Maybe the only thing weird about the photos is that all of them are when I was a child but none of them are inappropriate or have something you can take the wrong way. She had no other argument and, in the end, I refused and she said she wouldn&#39;t move in and I was ok with that.  This has been a topic of discussion for the past few days. Some of our friends and even my father said that I should remove the photo to make her feel welcome but I just find that, again, ridiculous.  Edit: I won&rsquo;t post the photo because I don&rsquo;t feel comfortable but I will describe it as much as possible.  The photo was taken when my brother was 6 and I 7.  In the middle is my father with a grin from ear to ear, his eyes closed and his arms extended to the sides; to his left is my brother: buzz cut, standing straight with his arms at the side like a soldier and a serious face; to my father&#39;s right is me: long hair, standing like a boxer from 1910 with my chin up and a mean mug; all wearing a suit because it was taken at my uncle&#39;s wedding.  The photo was taken outside the place where the event took place (there is nothing exceptional related to the place). The only things aside from us is the sun, the blue sky and a bunch of trees.  She has met my family; she has always been respectful/friendly with them and vice versa. There hasn&#39;t been incidents or problems with any of them, I have asked her and she has denied it.  Her problem is with the photo I described above. I have other photos with my father and brother individually. I do the same pose in various photos; I have one doing the same pose with my paternal grandfather where we both wear boxing gloves (he taught me the pose).  She has stayed in the house multiple days, even weeks, she has things here. She never brought up the issue. I&rsquo;m all for compromising but I need a proper explanation other than &quot;it&rsquo;s weird&quot;.  I still have long hair, even longer than before. She is very fond of it and not a problem.  None of the photos stands out, they&#39;re put on a small part of the wall in the living room with the others, including the ones I&#39;m with her. They&#39;re not big or I&#39;d basically be upholstering the entire wall.  She had issues with her family but they solved it. But I don&#39;t rule out that something happened that she hasn&#39;t told me.  She knows that I&#39;m the kind to fall for that kind of things. We have a precedent when she asked me to not study abroad but I did it anyway. I&#39;m reasonable when there is a proper explanation, not her &quot;just because&quot;. Here&#39;s what people had to say:Crazy_Lengthiness209 says: She had sex with your brother. That&#39;s why the photo makes her uncomfortable. There is no other explanation. poorburgundy says: Maybe she doesn&#39;t want to move in, and this is just the excuse. warpus says Maybe she&rsquo;s just&hellip; weird. Perdendosi says: There is absolutely something weird here. I can think of two scenarios:  1. Something&#39;s wrong with that photo -- it triggers a past memory (either with the people in it, or of people who look like it, or of a traumatic situation) or it&#39;s &quot;weird&quot; in some other inappropriate way that you&#39;re not telling us, OR  2. It&#39;s an attempt by her to see how far she can control the living space-- a test to see if you&#39;ll be willing to either (a) compromise and be amenable to each other&#39;s peccadilloes when cohabitating (that&#39;s the generous read) or (b) if you can be controlled. 

I (26m) think this is completely ridiculous but maybe I&rsquo;m actually wrong, so here goes.    I&rsquo;ve been with my girlfriend (26f) for 5 years but we&rsquo;ve known each other since we were 15. I&rsquo;m fortunate to have my own...