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<h2>AITA for moving out because I don&rsquo;t want to help my bf out with the rent?</h2><blockquote> <p>My boyfriend(26M) and I(24F) have been together for 3 years. We live in NYC and he makes over $200k/year, while I&rsquo;m studying for my masters in social work and have no income.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Right now I&rsquo;m doing an unpaid, yearlong internship 3 days/week, as well as classes 2 days/week. It&rsquo;s rare to get a paid internship in social work, plus internships are mandatory.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I spend 12 hours everyday either working, studying, commuting, or in class. My only free days are on weekends so I have no time for a paid job. My mom helps me financially by paying for my metrocard and healthcare expenses, but for everything else I rely on loans.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Before I moved in with my boyfriend there was a roach infestation in my apartment so I&#39;d stay over at his place a lot. My lease was ending soon so he asked me if I wanted to live with him. At first I joked with him that his living standards would go down since I can&rsquo;t afford a nice place, but he insisted on paying the rent until I finish grad school, then we would split the rent based on income.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I originally wanted to live in a cheaper place in Queens or Brooklyn, but my boyfriend likes his current place and insisted I move in since he would be the one paying the rent. So I moved into his $5k/month luxury condo in the city this August.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>All of a sudden my boyfriend recently started asking me to pay half the rent ($2.5k/month). I was confused because he was the one who wanted to pay the rent in full. Apparently he was talking to his friends and they all think its weird that I don&rsquo;t pay rent and that I was a gold digger.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I let my boyfriend know that I can&rsquo;t afford $2.5k/month and he said I was &ldquo;leeching&rdquo; off of him, so I told him that he should find someone within his social class so he doesn&rsquo;t have to worry about a gold digger like me leeching off of him. I stayed at my friends place for a few days while figuring out what to do.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I called my mom about my situation and she is willing to help me out but the maximum she can afford for rent is $800. I found some places in Queens within the price range, less than 15 min away from the city and a bus ride away from my school so I went to check them out a couple days ago. I&rsquo;ve been texting the landlord and my new roommates and I already signed the lease.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told my boyfriend about my new place and he got upset and asked me to stay. He said that he was willing to accept $800/month instead of $2.5k/month if thats all I can afford, but I told him I don&rsquo;t want him changing his mind again and demanding more money from me in the future.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He lived in this condo alone for several years, so it&rsquo;s not like he can&rsquo;t afford to live there without my help. I wouldn&rsquo;t mind splitting rent with him, but I would have to live in a more affordable place outside of Manhattan like I originally wanted.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Apparently some of our &ldquo;mutual friends&rdquo; think I&rsquo;m being unreasonable for moving out instead of talking to him and staying by paying the amount I can afford in rent, and that I shouldn&rsquo;t have let him pay my portion of the rent.</p> </blockquote><p>Comments and an update:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/moons_and_stars/">moons_and_stars</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA! They think you&rsquo;re being unreasonable? That&rsquo;s rich. He literally convinced you to move into his apartment, turning down your offers to find a cheaper place so you could contribute.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The fact that his friends see you as a gold digger and don&rsquo;t appear to know the full story (the fact that you offered to pay and to find a cheaper place and he insisted otherwise) is also a red flag to me and makes me question how he talks about you to his friends.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Definitely NTA and I would question why you would want to date someone who is so easily influenced by his friends uninformed opinions of you.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/veroaf/">veroaf</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Srsly. He needed to tell his friends: &quot;you don&#39;t know her. She&#39;s not a gold digger. I&#39;m the one who asked her to move in and that I would pay the rent until she finishes grad school.&quot; The fact that he didn&#39;t is prolly cause he partially believes them.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m with OP. He moved the goal posts twice already and is messing with her life. She should keep her independence.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Apprehensive-hippos/">Apprehensive-hippos</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>I also would like to add that unpaid internships are bullshit. Absolute. F**king. Bullshit.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/idiotrichboyfriend/">idiotrichboyfriend</a> OP responded:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Unfortunately in the US a paid internship in social work is extremely rare. The normalization of unpaid internships is actually a major issue and students are finally starting to advocate for compensation through movements like Payments for Placement. I only know a handful of people in my cohort who have paid field placements.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KaliTheBlaze/">KaliTheBlaze</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Be very concerned that instead of talking to you about something that bothered him, he talked to his friends and they convinced him you were a gold digger.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/idiotrichboyfriend/">idiotrichboyfriend</a> update from OP:</p><blockquote> <p>Yes i did dump him. i blocked him and his idiot friends on everything. My friends also blocked him since he tried to contact me through them. i&#39;m going to enjoy being single and never relying on a man financially ever again.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy's friends convince him his girlfriend is a 'gold digger' so he asks her to pay rent.

AITA for moving out because I don&rsquo;t want to help my bf out with the rent? My boyfriend(26M) and I(24F) have been together for 3 years. We live in NYC and he makes over $200k/year, while I&rsquo;m studying for my masters in social work and have no income.  Right now I&rsquo;m doing an unpaid, yearlong internship 3 days/week, as well as classes 2 days/week. It&rsquo;s rare to get a paid internship in social work, plus internships are mandatory.  I spend 12 hours everyday either working, studying, commuting, or in class. My only free days are on weekends so I have no time for a paid job. My mom helps me financially by paying for my metrocard and healthcare expenses, but for everything else I rely on loans.  Before I moved in with my boyfriend there was a roach infestation in my apartment so I&#39;d stay over at his place a lot. My lease was ending soon so he asked me if I wanted to live with him. At first I joked with him that his living standards would go down since I can&rsquo;t afford a nice place, but he insisted on paying the rent until I finish grad school, then we would split the rent based on income.  I originally wanted to live in a cheaper place in Queens or Brooklyn, but my boyfriend likes his current place and insisted I move in since he would be the one paying the rent. So I moved into his $5k/month luxury condo in the city this August.  All of a sudden my boyfriend recently started asking me to pay half the rent ($2.5k/month). I was confused because he was the one who wanted to pay the rent in full. Apparently he was talking to his friends and they all think its weird that I don&rsquo;t pay rent and that I was a gold digger.  I let my boyfriend know that I can&rsquo;t afford $2.5k/month and he said I was &ldquo;leeching&rdquo; off of him, so I told him that he should find someone within his social class so he doesn&rsquo;t have to worry about a gold digger like me leeching off of him. I stayed at my friends place for a few days while figuring out what to do.  I called my mom about my situation and she is willing to help me out but the maximum she can afford for rent is $800. I found some places in Queens within the price range, less than 15 min away from the city and a bus ride away from my school so I went to check them out a couple days ago. I&rsquo;ve been texting the landlord and my new roommates and I already signed the lease.  I told my boyfriend about my new place and he got upset and asked me to stay. He said that he was willing to accept $800/month instead of $2.5k/month if thats all I can afford, but I told him I don&rsquo;t want him changing his mind again and demanding more money from me in the future.  He lived in this condo alone for several years, so it&rsquo;s not like he can&rsquo;t afford to live there without my help. I wouldn&rsquo;t mind splitting rent with him, but I would have to live in a more affordable place outside of Manhattan like I originally wanted.  Apparently some of our &ldquo;mutual friends&rdquo; think I&rsquo;m being unreasonable for moving out instead of talking to him and staying by paying the amount I can afford in rent, and that I shouldn&rsquo;t have let him pay my portion of the rent. Comments and an update:moons_and_stars NTA! They think you&rsquo;re being unreasonable? That&rsquo;s rich. He literally convinced you to move into his apartment, turning down your offers to find a cheaper place so you could contribute.  The fact that his friends see you as a gold digger and don&rsquo;t appear to know the full story (the fact that you offered to pay and to find a cheaper place and he insisted otherwise) is also a red flag to me and makes me question how he talks about you to his friends.  Definitely NTA and I would question why you would want to date someone who is so easily influenced by his friends uninformed opinions of you. veroaf says: Srsly. He needed to tell his friends: &quot;you don&#39;t know her. She&#39;s not a gold digger. I&#39;m the one who asked her to move in and that I would pay the rent until she finishes grad school.&quot; The fact that he didn&#39;t is prolly cause he partially believes them.  I&#39;m with OP. He moved the goal posts twice already and is messing with her life. She should keep her independence. Apprehensive-hippos says: I also would like to add that unpaid internships are bullshit. Absolute. F**king. Bullshit. idiotrichboyfriend OP responded: Unfortunately in the US a paid internship in social work is extremely rare. The normalization of unpaid internships is actually a major issue and students are finally starting to advocate for compensation through movements like Payments for Placement. I only know a handful of people in my cohort who have paid field placements. KaliTheBlaze says: NTA. Be very concerned that instead of talking to you about something that bothered him, he talked to his friends and they convinced him you were a gold digger. idiotrichboyfriend update from OP: Yes i did dump him. i blocked him and his idiot friends on everything. My friends also blocked him since he tried to contact me through them. i&#39;m going to enjoy being single and never relying on a man financially ever again. 

AITA for moving out because I don&rsquo;t want to help my bf out with the rent?   My boyfriend(26M) and I(24F) have been together for 3 years. We live in NYC and he makes over $200k/year, while I&rsquo;m studying for my masters in social...