'AITA for wanting to walk into my first home without my wife?'
"AITA for wanting to walk into my first home without my wife?"
My wife [25F] and I [27M] have been married six months now. I have a good job in sales, and have managed to save enough to get together a deposit for a house. It is true that my parents have helped me out quite a bit too financially.
My wife has not been employed very consistently. She has worked as a model, but hasn’t saved much at all. I bought the house, and the estate agent handed over the keys to me. My wife wasn’t there at the hand-over. I was obviously super excited to show her the house, and for us to start our lives together.
We drove up to the house yesterday. I said to her while we sat in the car outside: ‘is it OK if I go in alone first, just so I can have a moment alone in my first home?’ I felt that it was a Significant Moment in my life, and I wanted to experience it alone, even just for 30 seconds.
My wife was upset about this and has been off with me ever since. We have moved some of our stuff in but she’s clearly pissed. I think she’s being selfish. My brother says I am being ridiculous.
Here's what people had to say:
YTA. The home is for both of you.
yikyakpaw OP:
But I bought it?
If you’re keeping score like this, then I have concerns about the future of your marriage. You’re partners.
Brilliant_Jewel1924 said:
YTA (You're the As*#$le)...and you know what else? Since it’s YOUR house, you get to do all of the cleaning; maintenance; etc. (She’s just a dumb model so she probably couldn’t figure those things out, anyway.
justkillintime99 said:
YTA - why did you get married if you don’t want to experience life with your wife?
ZealandRedSquirrel said:
YTA. It’s a big moment for you. Probably for her too. Even if it’s not a big moment for her. Sharing in each other’s big moments is usually a big part of marriage. You telling her to wait in the car is a huge and unnecessary slight. Why are you even married if you’re still thinking in terms of mine and yours.
KittySnowpants said:
YTA. You keep talking about “my house”, as if you were not married at the time of purchase. It’s your wife’s house too, bro. You are the one being selfish.