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<p>When a partner has dietary restrictions, it can potentially be difficult for everyone involved. But is it ever okay to criticize your partner&#39;s new &quot;diet&quot; if it&#39;s affecting your own routine in a negative way? When this man starts to get upset with his girlfriend&#39;s &quot;dramatic&quot; and sudden lactose intolerane, he takes to the popular <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/we0fba/aita_m25_for_not_catering_to_my_gfs_intolerance/">Reddit forum</a> to ask:</p><h1>&quot;AITA (M25) for not &ldquo;catering&rdquo; to my GF&rsquo;s intolerance to lactose? (F22)?&quot;</h1><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ragenthrowaway432/">Ragenthrowaway</a> writes:</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>GF and I have been together for 3 years. My GF recently developed a strong intolerance for lactose. Yogurt, and milk makes her stomach hurt really bad, and all other dairy, while tolerable, gives her extreme gas and a sick feeling in her throat.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>That&#39;s a lot to handle!</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Due to this, my GF has recently developed a dairy free diet. She refuses to eat any dairy, even the stuff that just gives her gas. I never complained about this, although it made it difficult for me to cook for her/go out to eat since she has so many limitations now.</p> </blockquote><h2>I could see how this could be difficult for OP.</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>We live separately but visit each other twice a week (Wednesday I go to her house and Sunday she comes to mine). We usually cook for one another on those days.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Lately her meals haven&rsquo;t been as good due to all the dairy substitutes, which is fine. This is where I may be the AH.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>I&#39;m nervous OP...</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Last night I made her a pasta dish with heavy cream. I told her to take one of her Lactaid pills beforehand and she said she didn&rsquo;t want to deal with the gas afterwards, &amp; demanded I get her something else.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>Okay, well did she have to demand that?</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>This slightly annoyed me because I had put in a lot of work for this dish. I told her that while I was fine with eating her food on Wednesday, I don&rsquo;t want to change my eating habits for her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>I see what OP means but I wonder if he is being a little....unreasonable.</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p><br /> A lot of Dairy free alternatives don&rsquo;t taste as good (dairy free cheese is awful) &amp; I don&rsquo;t see a point in changing my groceries for one meal when she can just take a Lactaid pill.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>Oh boy....the drama never ends.</h2><blockquote> <p>She called me a jerk, teared up and went home. I thought she would get over it but she has barely answered my texts. AITA?</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>Let&#39;s see what Reddit had to say.</h2><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/danger_caterpillar/">dangercaterpillar</a> writes:</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>YTA. I am lactose intolerant. Heavy cream is not a light lactose situation. It isn&rsquo;t like cheese powder in kraft mac n cheese. It is the real deal and knocks you out. Lactaid pills aren&rsquo;t a catch all. They can help somewhat but they don&rsquo;t always just fix it. Gas can HURT. Constant, excessive gas can be difficult to live with.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Corsetbrat/">corsetbrat</a> writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>Also, OP, YTA. Lactose intolerance/allergies can be debilitating and dangerous. And a lactaid pill is not an excuse to eat things with dairy in it whenever, but for situations where you can&#39;t avoid dairy. But get off your high horse and learn empathy.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Magellan-88/">Magellan-88 </a>writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>Big sighs, whispered &quot;not again&quot; &quot;oh here we go&quot; &amp; &quot;oh now you&#39;re just being dramatic&quot; I can practically hear it all. He sounds so insensitive &amp; like this is just a big inconvenience for him.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Illustrious-Onion329/">Illustriousonion89</a> writes:</h2><blockquote> <p>I have a rule that I don&#39;t hurt loved ones because I don&#39;t feel like cooking a specific meal I know will cause distress.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, there you have it folks. OP is TA! But the real AH in this situation is....DAIRY. Why must it ruin so many people&#39;s lives??</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong to downplay GF's 'dramatic' lactose intolerance.

When a partner has dietary restrictions, it can potentially be difficult for everyone involved. But is it ever okay to criticize your partner&#39;s new &quot;diet&quot; if it&#39;s affecting your own routine in a negative way? When this man starts to get upset with his girlfriend&#39;s &quot;dramatic&quot; and sudden lactose intolerane, he takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:&quot;AITA (M25) for not &ldquo;catering&rdquo; to my GF&rsquo;s intolerance to lactose? (F22)?&quot; Ragenthrowaway writes:  GF and I have been together for 3 years. My GF recently developed a strong intolerance for lactose. Yogurt, and milk makes her stomach hurt really bad, and all other dairy, while tolerable, gives her extreme gas and a sick feeling in her throat.  That&#39;s a lot to handle!  Due to this, my GF has recently developed a dairy free diet. She refuses to eat any dairy, even the stuff that just gives her gas. I never complained about this, although it made it difficult for me to cook for her/go out to eat since she has so many limitations now. I could see how this could be difficult for OP.  We live separately but visit each other twice a week (Wednesday I go to her house and Sunday she comes to mine). We usually cook for one another on those days.    Lately her meals haven&rsquo;t been as good due to all the dairy substitutes, which is fine. This is where I may be the AH.  I&#39;m nervous OP...  Last night I made her a pasta dish with heavy cream. I told her to take one of her Lactaid pills beforehand and she said she didn&rsquo;t want to deal with the gas afterwards, &amp; demanded I get her something else.  Okay, well did she have to demand that?  This slightly annoyed me because I had put in a lot of work for this dish. I told her that while I was fine with eating her food on Wednesday, I don&rsquo;t want to change my eating habits for her.  I see what OP means but I wonder if he is being a little....unreasonable.   A lot of Dairy free alternatives don&rsquo;t taste as good (dairy free cheese is awful) &amp; I don&rsquo;t see a point in changing my groceries for one meal when she can just take a Lactaid pill.  Oh boy....the drama never ends. She called me a jerk, teared up and went home. I thought she would get over it but she has barely answered my texts. AITA?  Let&#39;s see what Reddit had to say. dangercaterpillar writes:  YTA. I am lactose intolerant. Heavy cream is not a light lactose situation. It isn&rsquo;t like cheese powder in kraft mac n cheese. It is the real deal and knocks you out. Lactaid pills aren&rsquo;t a catch all. They can help somewhat but they don&rsquo;t always just fix it. Gas can HURT. Constant, excessive gas can be difficult to live with.   corsetbrat writes: Also, OP, YTA. Lactose intolerance/allergies can be debilitating and dangerous. And a lactaid pill is not an excuse to eat things with dairy in it whenever, but for situations where you can&#39;t avoid dairy. But get off your high horse and learn empathy.   Magellan-88 writes: Big sighs, whispered &quot;not again&quot; &quot;oh here we go&quot; &amp; &quot;oh now you&#39;re just being dramatic&quot; I can practically hear it all. He sounds so insensitive &amp; like this is just a big inconvenience for him.   Illustriousonion89 writes: I have a rule that I don&#39;t hurt loved ones because I don&#39;t feel like cooking a specific meal I know will cause distress. Well, there you have it folks. OP is TA! But the real AH in this situation is....DAIRY. Why must it ruin so many people&#39;s lives??

When a partner has dietary restrictions, it can potentially be difficult for everyone involved. But is it ever okay to criticize your partner&#39;s new &quot;diet&quot; if it&#39;s affecting your own routine in a negative way? When this...