When this man is furious with his family, he asks Reddit:
I’m really torn on this so I would definitely appreciate some advice. I’ll start off with saying that I have an aunt on my dad’s side of the family, she’s 50 and has 5 kids ranging from 20 all the way to 12.
She’s always been known to be a freeloader and taken advantage of situations and people. One time me and my dad were planning on going to the drive in, and my dad stupidly told her.
She asked if her kids could be incluided too. I felt pissed because this happened every time me and my dad had something fun planned just me and him. I’m hoping that you get the idea with what I’ve given you so far.
But anyway… Last week I wanted to celebrate my little sister from getting her drivers permit and I invited all of our family to Olive Garden (by that I mean all of us who live in the same home).
I told everyone to clear their schedules for Friday afternoon because I didn’t want anyone to feel left out. Well, that’s where I messed up, because my dad told my aunt and told her she could tag along WITHOUT TELLING ME!!!
We showed up to Olive Garden at around 4:30pm and I asked to a table for 5 (Me, My dad, my two sisters and my grandpa) but my dad said that if they could make it a table for 12...
I asked why and that’s when he told me. I was pissed, especially because my aunt and my little sister have history but I didn’t think much of it because I wasn’t expecting what was coming up.
We’re seated and around 30 minutes later she shows up with all her kids. We eventually order and she kept ordering expensive dishes and lots of drinks.
I was kind of in awe… considering she lives off of food stamps (which I don’t shame anyone who does) but she kept ordering like she was Scrooge mcduck on just another Tuesday.
The bill eventually comes up and I ask for it to be split. She says in such a grating voice “what do you mean split bill???! I thought you were paying for us?”
That’s when it clicked… she only came for the free fing food. I immediately glared at my dad, who started blaming me saying “ why would you offer to pay? and then not follow through?” Maybe because I wasn’t expecting to pay for another 6 people??!?.
I ended up asking the waitress how much it would be because I didn’t want to ruin the mood and my little sister’s accomplishment. The bill came out to be about $557.87…
Excluding what me and my family (My dad, my two sisters and my grandpa) ate, it would be about $243.68.
I outright refused to pay for her and her kids’ meals I felt as because two of them are still kids but I never invited her myself, let alone agreed to pay for her bill.
Now my dad is calling me an asshole because he had to pay for it with his credit card. I don’t believe I did anything wrong but that’s the reason I’m here. AITA?
NTA. Very easy NTA. I don't know what is wrong with your dad. He knew you didn't invite her and her kids. He invited them, he can pay for them.
Your aunt is an asshole for trying to freeload off of you. Your father is the asshole for inviting his sister without asking your first. Your father is an asshole for expecting you to pay the bill for this aunt.
Your father is an asshole for getting mad at you for standing up for yourself and refusing to pay the bill for someone that was not invited and unwanted.
So, your father is a triple asshole! You are NTA OP. Do NOT reimburse your father. Keep standing up for yourself!