A clearly hot friend was taken aback by the request of an insecure friend, and she came to Reddit to ask what to do next. You decide who the A-hole is...
My (29F) friend Kate (28) has a boyfriend, Jamie (29), whom she has been with for nearly 3 years. We met Jamie on a night out, and I would say that although he's Kate's bf, I consider him a friend. We share an interest in a particular sport that we text about sometimes and if I have a spare hospitality ticket to one of the sporting fixtures, I will sometimes invite Jamie to go.
Jamie's 30th is coming up and Jamie and Kate planned a big party, and I peripherally helped out with logistics when asked.
A few days ago, Kate texted me. She asked if I wouldn't mind "toning down" my look for the party, and if I could send her a picture of what I was planning to wear.