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Pregnant woman asks fiancé for 'some peace and quite'; he says he won't change.

Pregnant woman asks fiancé for 'some peace and quite'; he says he won't change.


AITA for telling my fiancé to 'get over herself'?

I got a dog 2 years ago (Corgi) and she is very much so my side kick. I've been with my fiance for 5 years. My fiance does like the dog but she is currently pregnant and experiencing massive migraines and has been snapping at everything.

So every morning when I get up I find my fiance already awake and at the table relaxing. As soon as I get out of the bed, my dog goes nuts.

It's like super energy where she is running sideways, barking up a storm, jumping from the bed to the floor a million times (causing the apartment to shake because it's old asf), etc and I will sit there and sing made up songs to her and just f**k around with her. It is pretty noisy and I can be loud. It's just my way of interacting with my pet.

I also have ADHD, so I'm fully aware that I can be ridiculously loud and sometimes I simply forget to tone it down. My fiance has complained about it a few times and I will absolutely try to tone it down for awhile but as f**ked up as it sounds, the second she stops complaining and it's 'out of sight, out of mind', I start doing it again.

If I catch myself I apologize immediately but sometimes I don't even catch myself doing it. So she has been getting up earlier than normal because she says she needs 'peace and quiet away from you and the dog' because she can't hear herself think when we get up and then she starts getting migraines and being overall pissed off.

But now she is complaining because I can sense her not in the bed anymore probably after twenty minutes of her being gone and her warmth no longer there, and then I'm wide awake and the dog senses it and ya know. So she's now getting pissed because she thinks I'm purposely not letting her have space and purposely annoying her with my behaviors.

I'm not, truly but it seems like it I guess. I've tried just laying in bed for awhile so she can relax but I get stir crazy and I also don't feel like I should have to stay in bed so she can be alone when I live here too.

But she flipped this morning. I felt her sneaking out of bed this morning at 5am and tiptoe out of the room. I watched her sit at the table with her book. Well, the dog saw me awake and immediately goes ballistic. Jumping on the bed, whining, barking, etc. She comes in and says 'will you guys calm down so I can have time to myself for once?'

I just side eyed her because I'm getting pissed at this point with her demands. She says 'well?' I tell her to get over herself. Just because she's pregnant doesn't mean I have to change who I am or change how the household works or change my dynamic with my dog. She immediately left after telling me to go f*k myself and won't answer my calls. She's been gone for 6 hours.

Info from OP: Our place lacks space. Prior to this she would go out on our porch with her book and I would leave her alone for the most part. But now it's winter and she cant. Sometimes she still does but she gave herself a cold doing so. Our apartment is 3 bedrooms but it's like.. small.

Here's what people had to say:

lbw12345 writes:

YTA this mindset is how women get branded as 'nags' when in reality their partners can't just hold the smallest bit of consideration for others.

Your partner is literally sneaking out of bed in the early morning hours to just have a moment of peace and quiet to relax and you can't let her have it because if she isn't actively complaining you can't respect her need to a few minutes of quiet!

Smellytangerina writes:

Imagine having this guy in the rest of your life hanging around your kid. Dude can’t even take care of a dog properly without being a jackass, he’ll be the sort of parent who watches his kid run amok and says “he’s just having fun”

Diligent-Activity-70 writes:

Do you think this morning routine is going to be helpful once the baby is born? You're loud every single morning and not caring about the physical distress of a person growing an new human in her body. A new human that I'll assume is also yours...Start working on another way to relate to the dog in the morning that allows other people in the house to have peace. YTA

teachicken writes:

Grab the leash and head to the park for an hour or so, win win for everyone. What the actual f**k.

Heavy_Sand5228 writes:

You are being abusive to your fiancé. Plain and simple. She is pregnant and you’re deliberately doing something that causes her physical pain that she has repeatedly asked you not to do. YTA

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