If there's any situation in which you should lend more money to your partner than you're comfortable with, though, it would be if they were robbed, right?
So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not she was wrong to walk out on her boyfriend when he refused to cover her dinner, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
I had lent my boyfriend some money few weeks ago because of something he needed and he promised to pay me back ASAP. He was supposed to pay me back 5 days ago but something came up and he didn't. I tried to be patient.
Yesterday we had planned to go out with some friends at night for dinner. Yesterday after I came back from work I was robbed in the bus and I had all my money and cards stolen.
I canceled my cards, but the bank customer service told me my new card with my new details (both physical card and the digital details for apple pay) would be available the following morning because the banks were closed that afternoon. So I had no money.
When we went to dinner with my bf and friends I told my bf if he could just pay me back the money or at least pay for my meal since I have no money. He didn't exactly say yes or no, just a simple 'don't worry.'
As we ordered he only ordered for himself and told me that he can't cover for mine at the moment so I better not order anything and just have some bites from his meal.
I was so mad and frustrated because he had promised to give me back the money, he then claimed something came up and couldn't give them back but then ordered a nice meal for himself and just told me to get his scraps because he wouldn't pay me back or at least for my meal. I'd be the only one sitting there with no meal in front of me. I said this is ridiculous and I got up and left.
Our friends now believe it was very low of me to get up and leave and how I should just be polite and stay there. I can't quite understand that logic but is there any way I am the as*hole?
Watching someone you supposedly love scrounge up some scraps for dinner while you help yourself to whatever you want is grotesque enough, but when all your friends also think it's justified? Someone needs to rescue this woman from her entire social circle.
NTA (Not the As*hole). You may want to consider your relationship here. Did you tell your friends or BF that you were robbed? If yes and they acted like this then they are not your friends.
Your friends suck. That’s not basic human decency. The fact that they made you feel bad afterwards shows how selfish and self absorbed they are. I’m sorry this happened to you and if you were my friend I’d have blasted the boyfriend and paid for you myself.
NTA - you need new friends and a new boyfriend. Full stop. Don’t let yourself be treated this way. Do you find yourself being the one to to start everything and reach out to people?
Excuse me, your friends said what? Omg I would be fuming. Your boyfriend completely humiliated you and your friends, who were there, don't see this is a problem? Dump the boyfriend and the friends, NTA.
Excuse me, what? Walk out of that restaurant,and his life. You shouldn't have had to ask him to pay for you in the first place if he was aware you had lost all your belongings. And saying 'don't worry' implies he'll take care of it. Jeez. Leave him and don't look back.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this woman wasn't wrong to storm out on her cheap, rude, ungrateful and disrespectful boyfriend and all of their equally tacky friends. Good luck, everyone!