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<p>Mixing money and love is a bad idea. Money adds stress to any situation if you don&#39;t have an endless amount. Would that be a problem if your financial milestones didn&#39;t line up with your partners?</p><h2>On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w9c19e/aita_for_my_response_when_my_boyfriend_brought_up/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">popular Reddit thread</a>, on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit a woman asks if she was wrong to blow up on her unemployed partner for demanding she wait until marriage before making big financial choices.</h2><blockquote> <p>AITA: for my response when my boyfriend brought up the apartment purchase/ownership in front of his family?</p> </blockquote><h2>OP&#39;s boyfriend is a shy little tote boy.</h2><blockquote> <p>Context: I (F29) have been with my boyfriend Adam (M27) for two and a half years. He&#39;s the quiet/shy type. It&#39;s tough to get him to open up about what bothers him. For now, I&#39;m the one with an income.</p> </blockquote><h2>An insecure tote boy.</h2><blockquote> <p>We get along easily though he can be...a bit unreasonable sometimes. For example, Adam doesn&#39;t cook cause he&#39;s worried I won&#39;t like his food, but he still cooks for himself, and the smell&#39;s pretty telling that his cooking is good. Another example is that he doesn&#39;t do most chores, saying he&#39;s worried he might break/damage something. It&#39;s frustrating, but we&#39;re working on fixing it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>A tote boy with opinions.</h2><blockquote> <p>Now unto the more complicated issue. I&#39;d put money aside since 2015 to buy an apartment, and I&#39;m finally able to get it done this year. When I told him this, he got agitated and said I should wait a little longer til we&#39;re married, but I said no. He started complaining about how bad he feels about seeing me buy the apartment myself without having him contribute.</p> </blockquote><p><span style="color: rgb(74, 74, 74); font-size: 1.5em; font-weight: 600; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">It does sound like a personal problem.</span></p><blockquote> <p>I asked what I was supposed to do because it sounded like a &quot;he problem,&quot; no offense, but he got so worked up and gave me two options. One is I put his name on the title, or two do not buy the apartment til marriage so it&#39;ll become a &quot;shared marital asset.&quot; I said no, which was final, and he should drop it. He did eventually.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>21 Savage said it best, &quot;Power, the money, and the fame make a monster.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>I was taken aback at his family&#39;s house when he started complaining about the apartment. He again told me to either put his name on the title or wait til marriage to buy it cause he feels like there&#39;s a &quot;huge power imbalance&quot; here and that he can&#39;t bring himself to accept it. He also said that it makes him feel like he contributes nothing.</p> </blockquote><h2>Okay, pop off!</h2><blockquote> <p>I snapped and said, &quot;the reason you feel like you contribute nothing is that you contribute nothing. I suggest you fix that by finding a job and having a decent income&quot;. His family looked shocked. He glanced at me, then got up and walked away.</p> </blockquote><h2>Tote boy will not let it go.</h2><blockquote> <p>I waited for him to return but had to go home cause his mom said he felt overwhelmed and wanted some space. She started shaming me for my &quot;statement&quot; and hinting about financial abuse and controlling her son. He&#39;s not home yet, demanding another talk about the apartment probably expecting me to agree to one option.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w9c19e/comment/ihu75lv/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Dis_Is_Hooman</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the A**hole). 1. Sounds like weaponized incompetence 2. He brought it up in front of his family to get momma to back him 3. He sounds like a bit of a sponge tbh 4. Why does he want his name on the title if he hasn&#39;t put money into it?</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w9c19e/comment/ihu6tfv/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Seahorse8021</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. He doesn&rsquo;t cook, clean, or have a job. Why are you with him?</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w9c19e/comment/ihu6xv5/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Mdthomas</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>So basically, he&#39;s insecure about the fact that you have enough money to buy your place. He&#39;s then insisting that you do something that will allow him to have some ownership of it without earning it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Throw in the not doing chores and not cooking for other people, and this guy sounds like a spoiled child.</p> <p>Please tell me you&#39;re not getting engaged?</p> <p>Seriously think about this relationship.</p> <p>NTA</p> </blockquote><h2>Look out, OP! You might be messing with a gold digger.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she was wrong to snap at unemployed BF for trying to control her money.

Mixing money and love is a bad idea. Money adds stress to any situation if you don&#39;t have an endless amount. Would that be a problem if your financial milestones didn&#39;t line up with your partners?On a popular Reddit thread, on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit a woman asks if she was wrong to blow up on her unemployed partner for demanding she wait until marriage before making big financial choices. AITA: for my response when my boyfriend brought up the apartment purchase/ownership in front of his family? OP&#39;s boyfriend is a shy little tote boy. Context: I (F29) have been with my boyfriend Adam (M27) for two and a half years. He&#39;s the quiet/shy type. It&#39;s tough to get him to open up about what bothers him. For now, I&#39;m the one with an income. An insecure tote boy. We get along easily though he can be...a bit unreasonable sometimes. For example, Adam doesn&#39;t cook cause he&#39;s worried I won&#39;t like his food, but he still cooks for himself, and the smell&#39;s pretty telling that his cooking is good. Another example is that he doesn&#39;t do most chores, saying he&#39;s worried he might break/damage something. It&#39;s frustrating, but we&#39;re working on fixing it. A tote boy with opinions. Now unto the more complicated issue. I&#39;d put money aside since 2015 to buy an apartment, and I&#39;m finally able to get it done this year. When I told him this, he got agitated and said I should wait a little longer til we&#39;re married, but I said no. He started complaining about how bad he feels about seeing me buy the apartment myself without having him contribute. It does sound like a personal problem. I asked what I was supposed to do because it sounded like a &quot;he problem,&quot; no offense, but he got so worked up and gave me two options. One is I put his name on the title, or two do not buy the apartment til marriage so it&#39;ll become a &quot;shared marital asset.&quot; I said no, which was final, and he should drop it. He did eventually. 21 Savage said it best, &quot;Power, the money, and the fame make a monster.&quot; I was taken aback at his family&#39;s house when he started complaining about the apartment. He again told me to either put his name on the title or wait til marriage to buy it cause he feels like there&#39;s a &quot;huge power imbalance&quot; here and that he can&#39;t bring himself to accept it. He also said that it makes him feel like he contributes nothing. Okay, pop off! I snapped and said, &quot;the reason you feel like you contribute nothing is that you contribute nothing. I suggest you fix that by finding a job and having a decent income&quot;. His family looked shocked. He glanced at me, then got up and walked away. Tote boy will not let it go. I waited for him to return but had to go home cause his mom said he felt overwhelmed and wanted some space. She started shaming me for my &quot;statement&quot; and hinting about financial abuse and controlling her son. He&#39;s not home yet, demanding another talk about the apartment probably expecting me to agree to one option. Dis_Is_Hooman says: NTA (Not the A**hole). 1. Sounds like weaponized incompetence 2. He brought it up in front of his family to get momma to back him 3. He sounds like a bit of a sponge tbh 4. Why does he want his name on the title if he hasn&#39;t put money into it? Seahorse8021 says: NTA. He doesn&rsquo;t cook, clean, or have a job. Why are you with him? Mdthomas says: So basically, he&#39;s insecure about the fact that you have enough money to buy your place. He&#39;s then insisting that you do something that will allow him to have some ownership of it without earning it.  Throw in the not doing chores and not cooking for other people, and this guy sounds like a spoiled child. Please tell me you&#39;re not getting engaged? Seriously think about this relationship. NTA Look out, OP! You might be messing with a gold digger.

Mixing money and love is a bad idea. Money adds stress to any situation if you don&#39;t have an endless amount. Would that be a problem if your financial milestones didn&#39;t line up with your partners?  On a popular Reddit thread, on...