My boyfriend (30M) has a daughter, Hailey (11f). Hailey's mother left when she was around 1 and my boyfriend is pretty uninvolved as a father.
When Hailey was 6 months old her mom was dealing with some mental health issues so my boyfriend hired a nanny, Laura, to do everything baby related. He had Laura move in within a couple months of Halley’s mom leaving and Laura is still working for my boyfriend today.
Laura is very close with my boyfriend’s family. She’s with the family every holiday and honestly I think they like her better than me. My boyfriend says she’s become a good friend over the years and he and Laura go out at least once a month.
And Laura is extremely involved in Hailey’s life. She’s room mom at her school (I didn’t know you could be room mom without being a mom), she’s at every play, concert, soccer game, etc., she even goes to Hailey’s therapy appointments. Hailey doesn’t do anything for herself because of Laura.