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Teen tells parents she doesn't care about church, they say 'find another place to live.'

Teen tells parents she doesn't care about church, they say 'find another place to live.'


Breaking out of the religious upbringing your parents carved out for you can be really difficult, but it's important to be honest about what you truly believe.

Sadly, religious family members don't always want to hear about your change of heart, and it can create serious rifts in the family dynamic. In some cases for young people, it can even threaten their housing and safety.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a young woman asked if she's wrong for telling her parents she doesn't care about their beliefs.

She wrote:

AITA for telling my parents I'm never stepping foot in church again, and I don't care that it's important to them?

My (18F) parents are catholic, I'm an atheist. I didn't do my confirmation (they tried to make me but that's not how it works) but I stil had to go to church with them. Every f**king Sunday, no matter where I was or what I was doing, 'sundays are for god' they always said, so nothing was as important.

Even on vacations they'd find a church for us. When I went to summer camp they'd pick me up on sunday. My siblings (20F) (15M) don't really care, and my sister still goes even though she's also atheist because it makes them happy.

My 18th birthday was two months ago, and was on a Sunday. I got to sleep in, even though they tried to argue with me. So now, they're telling me I should start to look for someplace else to live, since my 'fun' is more important than god. My sister is backing me up, she's planning to move out with me so we can share a place, but she still thinks I should just play along for our parent's sake.

People quickly shared their takes on the situation.

JeepNaked wrote:

NTA. Aren't religious people the best?

Quellecrist wrote:

Your parents have made a choice here too. They've picked their church over their children, despite the teachings of their religion emphasizing love and tolerance. The mental disconnect is striking. NTA.

ParsimoniousSalad wrote:

NTA. But you now know the price of continuing to live with them: attending church on Sunday. Either comply (do it with them) or live on your own (with your sister if you two can do it).

ChakraMama318 wrote:

NTA. But you need to look at the big picture in terms of your future. If you move out with your sister- have you finished high school and what are your plans to find a sustainable career for yourself that you do not need your parents' financial support to get started in? We’re you looking at a college path? Trades? Military?

All are good options. It may not be the path of your dreams- but your parents will financially cut you off if you move out in order to bring you back home and back to the church. I get it. Left a different church at 18. Totally support you getting out. But I would, in your shoes, make sure you have all your bases covered before the two of you make that leap.

ditzy091313 wrote:

You aren't TA. However, I'm going to just put this out there. A lot of times, people, no matter the age, will leave a situation very quickly without thinking thru several steps ahead.

When you leave, make sure you leave with a good foundation, mentally and financially. A few extra months is not a lot compared to years of, for lack of a better word, freedom. I wish you all the luck and blessings this world has to give you!!! Catholic school survivor 1976-1990 :)

ThomzLC wrote:

NTA - religious freedom is precious but that apples to atheist too. True Christianity is about respecting everyone's freedom to choose his or her religion. But like what many others mentioned, from a practical point of view you might just want to play along till you and your sister are ready, then move out together.

Clearly, OP is NTA, but she might need a plan in place before entirely ditching weekly church.

Sources: Reddit
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