Roommates

<p>Having roommates is great when you want to split your cable bill, but sometimes they can be a real hassle. We&#39;ve all had our share of roommate issues, and Reddit user, <a data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/xoxochelso/">u/xoxochelso</a> is no exception. Things have gotten so bad, she&#39;s taken to putting locks on the cabinets. Now she&#39;s turning to the people of the internet to ask.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/t3spfi/aita_for_putting_locks_on_all_the_cabinets_so_my/">AITA </a>(Am I The As*hole) for putting locks on all the cabinets so my roommate couldn&#39;t access anything?</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I (20F) live in a shared apartment with 2 roommates, let&#39;s call them Mary (20F) and Lucy (20F). We each have our own bedroom but share a kitchen and bathroom. I didn&#39;t know either of them before moving in.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Lucy informed us that she would only be living in the dorm 3 days a week and would be living with her boyfriend for the rest of the week.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We agreed that she could take less of the shared cleaning tasks (vacuuming, taking the trash out) because she was living in the dorm less, but still had to keep her own stuff clean.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We also agreed that she could use our kitchen supplies (dishes, cutlery, pots, pans) to make her food because she didn&#39;t want to bring any of her own stuff.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Very quickly we realized that Lucy was also using our food and never washing her dishes. We even left a bowl of oatmeal in the sink until it was moldy to see if she would ever do it, she didn&#39;t.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We asked her on many occasions to please do her dishes and stop using our food but she kept ignoring us and telling us we were being dramatic. It got to the point where Mary and I were basically paying for another person&#39;s meals for 3 days of the week.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To try to get her to stop, Mary and I put padlocks on every cupboard and cabinet in the kitchen to block Lucy&#39;s access to our stuff. Lucy got the message and finally bought her own food, but we still don&#39;t trust her to do her dishes.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Lucy got incredibly angry and told us were denying access to part of the apartment that she&#39;s paying for and telling us that we are breaking our agreement to let her use our dishes.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Mary and I told her that she needs to buy her own dishes and then we&#39;ll take the padlocks off.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>AITA for leaving the padlocks on until she gets her own stuff?</p> </blockquote><p>The difference between a good roommate and a bad roommate all comes down to boundaries. Respect the living space, respect the people you live with, and you will have no problems.</p><p>In this case, this lazy roommate has three options, she can move out, start pulling her weight or invest in some paper plates. In any case, these padlocking roommates are &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; Reddit agrees with me, and they have solutions.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Illustrious-Horse276/">Illustrious-Horse276</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. Leave a cupboard un-padlocked so she can have her own space to keep food that she buys herself. And she broke the agreement of using the dishes when she failed to clean them.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s the drama queen here.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MissionRevolution306/">MissionRevolution306</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA, give her 1/3 of the cabinet space (empty), and tell her her dishes will be thrown out if not washed within 2 days of using. Put her dirty dishes in a plastic bin by her room door until her 2 days are up and toss them.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Sleepy_felines/">Sleepy_felines</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She needs to pay for her own food and to clean up after herself. She lost the privilege of using your stuff when she proved that she can&rsquo;t be trusted.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Gubblers/">Gubblers</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA - Lucy is a lazy freeloader who needs to learn how to look after herself and respect other people&#39;s things.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mundane-Grape9985/">Mundane-Grape9985</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She didn&#39;t respect your things, even after you had a talk with her. I mean yes it&#39;s childish but when you act like a child people will treat you like one</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Realistic-Animator-3/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">Realistic-Animator-3</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She did not live up to the agreement to clean up after herself, do dishes, disregarded instructions to not eat food she didn&rsquo;t buy so all agreements are off. She can&rsquo;t cherry-pick which she will abide by and which she will ignore</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LetThemEatHay/">LetThemEatHay</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. Ew god she was growing a frickin&#39; science experiment in the sink. If it had gotten too fuzzy, you&#39;d have had to name it!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for putting locks on the cabinets to keep roommates out.

Having roommates is great when you want to split your cable bill, but sometimes they can be a real hassle. We&#39;ve all had our share of roommate issues, and Reddit user, u/xoxochelso is no exception. Things have gotten so bad, she&#39;s taken to putting locks on the cabinets. Now she&#39;s turning to the people of the internet to ask.AITA (Am I The As*hole) for putting locks on all the cabinets so my roommate couldn&#39;t access anything?She writes: I (20F) live in a shared apartment with 2 roommates, let&#39;s call them Mary (20F) and Lucy (20F). We each have our own bedroom but share a kitchen and bathroom. I didn&#39;t know either of them before moving in.  Lucy informed us that she would only be living in the dorm 3 days a week and would be living with her boyfriend for the rest of the week.  We agreed that she could take less of the shared cleaning tasks (vacuuming, taking the trash out) because she was living in the dorm less, but still had to keep her own stuff clean.  We also agreed that she could use our kitchen supplies (dishes, cutlery, pots, pans) to make her food because she didn&#39;t want to bring any of her own stuff.  Very quickly we realized that Lucy was also using our food and never washing her dishes. We even left a bowl of oatmeal in the sink until it was moldy to see if she would ever do it, she didn&#39;t.  We asked her on many occasions to please do her dishes and stop using our food but she kept ignoring us and telling us we were being dramatic. It got to the point where Mary and I were basically paying for another person&#39;s meals for 3 days of the week.  To try to get her to stop, Mary and I put padlocks on every cupboard and cabinet in the kitchen to block Lucy&#39;s access to our stuff. Lucy got the message and finally bought her own food, but we still don&#39;t trust her to do her dishes.  Lucy got incredibly angry and told us were denying access to part of the apartment that she&#39;s paying for and telling us that we are breaking our agreement to let her use our dishes.  Mary and I told her that she needs to buy her own dishes and then we&#39;ll take the padlocks off.  AITA for leaving the padlocks on until she gets her own stuff? The difference between a good roommate and a bad roommate all comes down to boundaries. Respect the living space, respect the people you live with, and you will have no problems.In this case, this lazy roommate has three options, she can move out, start pulling her weight or invest in some paper plates. In any case, these padlocking roommates are &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; Reddit agrees with me, and they have solutions.Illustrious-Horse276 NTA. Leave a cupboard un-padlocked so she can have her own space to keep food that she buys herself. And she broke the agreement of using the dishes when she failed to clean them.  She&#39;s the drama queen here. MissionRevolution306 NTA, give her 1/3 of the cabinet space (empty), and tell her her dishes will be thrown out if not washed within 2 days of using. Put her dirty dishes in a plastic bin by her room door until her 2 days are up and toss them. Sleepy_felines NTA. She needs to pay for her own food and to clean up after herself. She lost the privilege of using your stuff when she proved that she can&rsquo;t be trusted. Gubblers NTA - Lucy is a lazy freeloader who needs to learn how to look after herself and respect other people&#39;s things. Mundane-Grape9985 NTA. She didn&#39;t respect your things, even after you had a talk with her. I mean yes it&#39;s childish but when you act like a child people will treat you like one Realistic-Animator-3 NTA. She did not live up to the agreement to clean up after herself, do dishes, disregarded instructions to not eat food she didn&rsquo;t buy so all agreements are off. She can&rsquo;t cherry-pick which she will abide by and which she will ignore LetThemEatHay NTA. Ew god she was growing a frickin&#39; science experiment in the sink. If it had gotten too fuzzy, you&#39;d have had to name it! 

Having roommates is great when you want to split your cable bill, but sometimes they can be a real hassle. We&#39;ve all had our share of roommate issues, and Reddit user, u/xoxochelso is no exception. Things have gotten so bad, she&#39;s...