Woman doesn't want roommate's friends coming over, so she bans them from 'her' couch.
I have a roommate we are both F23 we have been living together for a few months. I had another roommate before her but she left when the lease was up so I have been in the apt for a year longer then her. It’s a one bedroom apt and since I was there first I have the bedroom and she is in the living room with a privacy screen separating the living room and her “bedroom”.
When she first moved in I had all the living room furniture already so she didn’t have to bring any. Just kitchen stuff and her personal stuff.
Living with her has been ok she has friends over some weekends and they are not the kind of people I would associate with. They haven’t done anything but they give off a certain vibe to other people that I don’t want to be associated with and honestly I just find them gross and don’t trust them. They usually come over for an hour then they go out so I haven’t had to put up with them much.
Last weekend she told me she was having the same friends over but they were gonna spend the night in and hangout and order in some food and asked me if I wanted to join.
I was mad because fine if they are going to come over to hang out before going out but to have to deal with these gross people for a whole night was not something I wanted to deal with in my own home. I don’t want them using my things.
I told her she was free to have her friends over but they couldn’t use any of my stuff including couch, tv, kitchen table anything that I bought. We got in an argument about it and she ended up leaving and going out with her friends anyway.
She came home yesterday afternoon and now everything has been awkward and she hasn’t said a word to me. But it’s my stuff and I’m being nice enough to let her have these people over I don’t think I need to let them use my things too. Maybe if she is mad she should get better friends.
Comments:
monagr says:
Yta - by the way, how is rent split? Because it sounds like the living room is her bedroom...
ruderoommate OP responded:
It’s split 50/50 we are both on the lease
jfpbookworm says:
YTA. If your stuff is in the common areas, it's not like she can put her own furniture there to use. You're denying her use of the common areas.
ruderoommate OP responded:
I don’t want the furniture I paid for be ruined I also don’t trust them not to steal things
janeygigi says:
Have they damaged or stole anything? Or are you assuming because they're not you're type of people? Have they done anything? If they they haven't then YTA
ruderoommate OP responded:
No but only because I’ve been home every time they are over
zOMGLasers_PewPew says:
Update: YTA
you have no reason to think that her friends are 'gross' other than they have different tastes than you. They aren't dirty, they aren't causing the place to smell or be messy. You are making it impossible for your roommate to hang out with her friends in her own home because you are a snob.
ruderoommate OP responded:
Everything about them the way the dress the music they listen to the uneducated way they talk. Her and I went to high school together and came from the same background so idk where she even met them
zOMGLasers_PewPew says:
Is there a hygiene issue that they are dirty and smell bad or is it just that they like different music and have a different style than you?
ruderoommate OP responded:
I have never gotten close enough to smell I usually stay in my room with the door locked when they are over. Their style is trashy and they are trashy
RoyallyOakie says:
YTA...You can't make up rules about common space AFTER the person has moved in simply because you don't like her friends. If you don't want her friends to sit on your furniture, remove it from the living room and go halves on furniture for everyone.