Tattoo

<p><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">It&#39;s what is on the inside that counts, but sometimes a sudden choice to drastically change your appearance can be a sign of larger issues. One man took to </span><a href="http://\https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ymcaa1/my_fiancee_got_a_face_tattoo_without_talking_to/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;" target="_blank">Reddit</a> after his fiancee came home with a startling change.</p><h2>My fiancee got a face tattoo without talking to anyone.</h2><p><a data-click-id="subreddit" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/">TrueOffMyChest</a> ​​​​</p><blockquote> <p>I... am honestly stunned right now.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My fiancee &quot;Kim&quot; I have just learned is completely insane. She took some days off work this week &quot;Sick&quot; and avoided seeing most people in person. She claimed she was feeling sick and just wanted to stay home alone.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She has never given me any indication that she would lie about this in the 6 years we&#39;ve been together. No one in her family had any worries because she was a stable individual who would never do anything crazy.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She got a face tattoo.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She took 3 sick days from work to recover from the fact that she got a face tattoo. She told no one of this plan beforehand. I have never in our time together been talked to about tattoos by Kim.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She showed no indication that she was even interested in getting any. I was not even the first to learn. Her sister visited her because she got worried after Kim canceled meeting with her for lunch on her 3rd day &quot;Sick&quot; and got the grand reveal.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She didn&#39;t tell anyone beforehand because she &quot;Didn&#39;t want to be talked out of it&quot; and hate the results because the swelling and redness were so bad that we would &quot;react badly and not be able to understand the artistic meaning.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Kim is Asian American. She got Japanese symbols going down her forehead and under her eye. I don&#39;t know the meaning of them. I don&#39;t really know if I care to know the meaning of them.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Kim&#39;s parents are Japanese immigrants. According to her sister, who was nice enough to inform me of this whole debacle, this is a big no-no in Japanese culture. Tattoos have links to crime and are looked down upon. Her parents are beside themselves and that is a whole other set of drama I can&#39;t even begin to approach.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Kim talked to me last night about it, and acted offended and started a fight because I told her it was absolutely insane of her to do this. She works a public-facing job. She talks face-to-face with clients in the financial industry.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The minute her boss finds out, the career that she went to school for will be over. She actually didn&#39;t consider her job, or family, or me at all and decided &quot;a long time ago&quot; she was going to express herself freely without any concerns.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m worried about her right now. This is not normal. She blocked my number after our fight and is ghosting me and her sister because we&#39;re trying to help. But, dear lord, this is far beyond me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I cannot comprehend what I&#39;m even supposed to do right now. Kim&#39;s lost her mind. Is there any chance I will be happy married to.... this? A woman who went and got a face tattoo, and hid that fact because she knew we would all talk her out of it? Dear lord, I really need to run don&#39;t I?</p> </blockquote><h2>Reddit comments.</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Conscious_Front5650/">Conscious_Front5650</a></p><blockquote> <p>This is really odd. It sounds like a terrible decision to me as I&rsquo;m not a face-tattoo fan, but my bias aside, she&rsquo;s hiding it from you and her family, she hadn&rsquo;t been talking about getting it. It sounds like a very rash decision. I would try to get her help if she&rsquo;s in crisis, but you also need to think hard about marrying someone who is acting out of impulse like this.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/FigSpecific2502/">FigSpecific2502</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>If she&rsquo;s acting this completely out of character, there might actually be something wrong. I have no idea how to approach it but I&rsquo;d say she needs to see a doctor and be evaluated. I&rsquo;m so sorry. It&rsquo;s a very helpless feeling.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sljbspe3/">sljbspe3</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Could be something she always wanted though and she just didn&#39;t want to listen to the arguments....along the lines of the old saying &quot;It&#39;s better to ask for forgiveness than permission&quot;</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NotAnAlgorithm/">NotAnAlgorithm</a></p><blockquote> <p>&quot;Is there any chance I will be happy married to.&hellip; this?&quot;</p> <p>I hope not because you literally just called your fianc&eacute;e a &ldquo;this&rdquo;. This post reads more like a &ldquo;I value peoples opinions about my girlfriend more than I value my girlfriend&rdquo;.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dodgyduckquacks/">dodgyduckquacks</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Personally I find face and neck but mainly face tattoos (unless permanent makeup which is technically a tattoo) the ugliest and most disgusting things to look at. I don&rsquo;t care if it&rsquo;s tribal, cultural, historical or your dead gran came to you in a dream and told you to do it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I would never date someone with it and if my SO got one without telling me that would end the relationship unless they were willing to get it removed or wear heavy duty makeup the entire time I have to see them.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Again I realise this is an extreme view but you need to think long and hard if this is someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Someone who made an irreversible, life changing decision that impacts both your lives without talking to you first.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CuriousAlice86/">CuriousAlice86</a></p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m sorry but good for her!! I&rsquo;m covered in tats not face but hands neck and forearms. Attitudes are changing towards tattoos it&rsquo;s become so mainstream these days.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When did doing something for you become mental health issues or something really wrong? Perhaps she feels suppressed by everyone else&rsquo;s opinions let her be there&rsquo;s make up to cover and also laser removal. Let her be her not the version you expect/want!</p> </blockquote><h2>The next say, after their post recieved an honslaught of attention, the OP returned with more information:</h2><blockquote> <p>Wow, uh, this got some attention huh?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I read through the replies, but I can&#39;t really respond to all of you so I&#39;ll just update here. The engagement is pretty much off. Kim has told me she never wants to see me again and I woke up this morning with her ring and a box of stuff I gave her on my porch.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I don&#39;t know what&#39;s going on with her. Her sister and family have been trying their best, but nothing on their end is working. I brought up to her sister the idea this is a mental breakdown and they are looking into getting her help. It&#39;s painfully slow, considering Kim is not responding to anything and is refusing to talk to anyone.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I really don&#39;t know what to say here, I guess? To answer some questions, Kim is 29, and I&#39;m 28. In the 7 years, I&#39;ve known her, she has never acted like this at all.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She had a good relationship with her parents and while they were a bit overbearing at times, they supported her in going to college and getting a career rather than starting a family.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>From what I&#39;ve gathered, they probably would have been fine with any tattoo she got as long as it was not on her face, neck, or hands. Even then, this kind of behavior is as far from Kim as I could have imagined.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She just, lost her mind out of nowhere? It&#39;s not like I can do anything about it either. She&#39;s blocked my number and does not want to see me. I&#39;m just at a loss for words. One day I&#39;m engaged, and the next I&#39;m not and my Ex has a face tattoo...</p> </blockquote><h2>People had this today after the update:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Majestic_Jazz_Hands/">Majestic_Jazz_Hands</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m a tattoo artist, I&rsquo;ve been doing this for over 20 years. In my entire career, myself and a very large majority of my coworkers have morals about this issue.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We don&rsquo;t do facial tattoos unless the person is already heavily tattooed and/or they are over an age where they&rsquo;re settled into a career where getting a facial tattoo isn&rsquo;t going to affect whether they will be able to get a good job.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>That&rsquo;s why they&rsquo;re called Everlasting Job Stoppers.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m really disgusted that another artist was that greedy and that immoral that they didn&rsquo;t take the time to get to know this woman even a little bit to find out what she does for a living and how that tattoo could potentially negatively affect her for the rest of her life, or until she&rsquo;s able to get it removed.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/danuhorus/">danuhorus</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>The fact that she&#39;s burning so many bridges (engagement, career, family) in one swoop makes me wonder if this hasn&#39;t been building up for a while.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/informantxgirl/">informantxgirl</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I know some cultures have facial tattoos as something sacred and beautiful and if that were the case, there&#39;d be no problem, but the Japanese taboo is pretty major from what I&#39;ve heard. I mean, you can&#39;t onsen because of them right? Yet this young lady did it. This is...one helluva rebellious moment.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/cloudnineamy1217/">cloudnineamy1217</a></p><blockquote> <p>This poir woman. All the people in her life appear to be selfish a-holes who only care about her decisions in so far as they see them affecting themselves. It took until the very end of this tale before he started questioning a mental break? At that point it seems like he&#39;d already washed his hands of her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Boggles my mind how you can go from let&#39;s get married, I&#39;m going to promise to love you forever and sickness and in health to you made a reckless decision I don&#39;t agree with we&#39;re ending this relationship.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>And I&#39;m not suggesting that someone has to remain in a relationship with someone if they&#39;re refusing to take care of their mental health but it seems like this mental health crisis just started and not a single person in her life cares. They&#39;re too worried about their own shame.</p> </blockquote><h2>What would you do in this situation? Do you think the OP is right and this is a mental health issue, or do you think they are being controlling and closeminded?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

(UPDATED) Woman gets face tattoo, doesn't tell family, fiancé or finance job.

It&#39;s what is on the inside that counts, but sometimes a sudden choice to drastically change your appearance can be a sign of larger issues. One man took to Reddit after his fiancee came home with a startling change.My fiancee got a face tattoo without talking to anyone.TrueOffMyChest ​​​​ I... am honestly stunned right now.  My fiancee &quot;Kim&quot; I have just learned is completely insane. She took some days off work this week &quot;Sick&quot; and avoided seeing most people in person. She claimed she was feeling sick and just wanted to stay home alone.  She has never given me any indication that she would lie about this in the 6 years we&#39;ve been together. No one in her family had any worries because she was a stable individual who would never do anything crazy.  She got a face tattoo.  She took 3 sick days from work to recover from the fact that she got a face tattoo. She told no one of this plan beforehand. I have never in our time together been talked to about tattoos by Kim.  She showed no indication that she was even interested in getting any. I was not even the first to learn. Her sister visited her because she got worried after Kim canceled meeting with her for lunch on her 3rd day &quot;Sick&quot; and got the grand reveal.  She didn&#39;t tell anyone beforehand because she &quot;Didn&#39;t want to be talked out of it&quot; and hate the results because the swelling and redness were so bad that we would &quot;react badly and not be able to understand the artistic meaning.&quot;  Kim is Asian American. She got Japanese symbols going down her forehead and under her eye. I don&#39;t know the meaning of them. I don&#39;t really know if I care to know the meaning of them.  Kim&#39;s parents are Japanese immigrants. According to her sister, who was nice enough to inform me of this whole debacle, this is a big no-no in Japanese culture. Tattoos have links to crime and are looked down upon. Her parents are beside themselves and that is a whole other set of drama I can&#39;t even begin to approach.  Kim talked to me last night about it, and acted offended and started a fight because I told her it was absolutely insane of her to do this. She works a public-facing job. She talks face-to-face with clients in the financial industry.  The minute her boss finds out, the career that she went to school for will be over. She actually didn&#39;t consider her job, or family, or me at all and decided &quot;a long time ago&quot; she was going to express herself freely without any concerns.  I&#39;m worried about her right now. This is not normal. She blocked my number after our fight and is ghosting me and her sister because we&#39;re trying to help. But, dear lord, this is far beyond me.  I cannot comprehend what I&#39;m even supposed to do right now. Kim&#39;s lost her mind. Is there any chance I will be happy married to.... this? A woman who went and got a face tattoo, and hid that fact because she knew we would all talk her out of it? Dear lord, I really need to run don&#39;t I? Reddit comments.Conscious_Front5650 This is really odd. It sounds like a terrible decision to me as I&rsquo;m not a face-tattoo fan, but my bias aside, she&rsquo;s hiding it from you and her family, she hadn&rsquo;t been talking about getting it. It sounds like a very rash decision. I would try to get her help if she&rsquo;s in crisis, but you also need to think hard about marrying someone who is acting out of impulse like this. FigSpecific2502: If she&rsquo;s acting this completely out of character, there might actually be something wrong. I have no idea how to approach it but I&rsquo;d say she needs to see a doctor and be evaluated. I&rsquo;m so sorry. It&rsquo;s a very helpless feeling. sljbspe3: Could be something she always wanted though and she just didn&#39;t want to listen to the arguments....along the lines of the old saying &quot;It&#39;s better to ask for forgiveness than permission&quot; NotAnAlgorithm &quot;Is there any chance I will be happy married to.&hellip; this?&quot; I hope not because you literally just called your fianc&eacute;e a &ldquo;this&rdquo;. This post reads more like a &ldquo;I value peoples opinions about my girlfriend more than I value my girlfriend&rdquo;. dodgyduckquacks: Personally I find face and neck but mainly face tattoos (unless permanent makeup which is technically a tattoo) the ugliest and most disgusting things to look at. I don&rsquo;t care if it&rsquo;s tribal, cultural, historical or your dead gran came to you in a dream and told you to do it.  I would never date someone with it and if my SO got one without telling me that would end the relationship unless they were willing to get it removed or wear heavy duty makeup the entire time I have to see them.  Again I realise this is an extreme view but you need to think long and hard if this is someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Someone who made an irreversible, life changing decision that impacts both your lives without talking to you first. CuriousAlice86 I&rsquo;m sorry but good for her!! I&rsquo;m covered in tats not face but hands neck and forearms. Attitudes are changing towards tattoos it&rsquo;s become so mainstream these days.  When did doing something for you become mental health issues or something really wrong? Perhaps she feels suppressed by everyone else&rsquo;s opinions let her be there&rsquo;s make up to cover and also laser removal. Let her be her not the version you expect/want! The next say, after their post recieved an honslaught of attention, the OP returned with more information: Wow, uh, this got some attention huh?  I read through the replies, but I can&#39;t really respond to all of you so I&#39;ll just update here. The engagement is pretty much off. Kim has told me she never wants to see me again and I woke up this morning with her ring and a box of stuff I gave her on my porch.  I don&#39;t know what&#39;s going on with her. Her sister and family have been trying their best, but nothing on their end is working. I brought up to her sister the idea this is a mental breakdown and they are looking into getting her help. It&#39;s painfully slow, considering Kim is not responding to anything and is refusing to talk to anyone.  I really don&#39;t know what to say here, I guess? To answer some questions, Kim is 29, and I&#39;m 28. In the 7 years, I&#39;ve known her, she has never acted like this at all.  She had a good relationship with her parents and while they were a bit overbearing at times, they supported her in going to college and getting a career rather than starting a family.  From what I&#39;ve gathered, they probably would have been fine with any tattoo she got as long as it was not on her face, neck, or hands. Even then, this kind of behavior is as far from Kim as I could have imagined.  She just, lost her mind out of nowhere? It&#39;s not like I can do anything about it either. She&#39;s blocked my number and does not want to see me. I&#39;m just at a loss for words. One day I&#39;m engaged, and the next I&#39;m not and my Ex has a face tattoo... People had this today after the update:Majestic_Jazz_Hands: I&rsquo;m a tattoo artist, I&rsquo;ve been doing this for over 20 years. In my entire career, myself and a very large majority of my coworkers have morals about this issue.  We don&rsquo;t do facial tattoos unless the person is already heavily tattooed and/or they are over an age where they&rsquo;re settled into a career where getting a facial tattoo isn&rsquo;t going to affect whether they will be able to get a good job.  That&rsquo;s why they&rsquo;re called Everlasting Job Stoppers.  I&rsquo;m really disgusted that another artist was that greedy and that immoral that they didn&rsquo;t take the time to get to know this woman even a little bit to find out what she does for a living and how that tattoo could potentially negatively affect her for the rest of her life, or until she&rsquo;s able to get it removed.  danuhorus: The fact that she&#39;s burning so many bridges (engagement, career, family) in one swoop makes me wonder if this hasn&#39;t been building up for a while. informantxgirl I know some cultures have facial tattoos as something sacred and beautiful and if that were the case, there&#39;d be no problem, but the Japanese taboo is pretty major from what I&#39;ve heard. I mean, you can&#39;t onsen because of them right? Yet this young lady did it. This is...one helluva rebellious moment.  cloudnineamy1217 This poir woman. All the people in her life appear to be selfish a-holes who only care about her decisions in so far as they see them affecting themselves. It took until the very end of this tale before he started questioning a mental break? At that point it seems like he&#39;d already washed his hands of her.  Boggles my mind how you can go from let&#39;s get married, I&#39;m going to promise to love you forever and sickness and in health to you made a reckless decision I don&#39;t agree with we&#39;re ending this relationship.  And I&#39;m not suggesting that someone has to remain in a relationship with someone if they&#39;re refusing to take care of their mental health but it seems like this mental health crisis just started and not a single person in her life cares. They&#39;re too worried about their own shame. What would you do in this situation? Do you think the OP is right and this is a mental health issue, or do you think they are being controlling and closeminded?

It&#39;s what is on the inside that counts, but sometimes a sudden choice to drastically change your appearance can be a sign of larger issues. One man took to Reddit after his fiancee came home with a startling change.  My fiancee got a...