TIFU

<p>Is it toxic to go through your partner&#39;s DMs without their consent? Yes, but only if you find nothing. On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/wrbt12/tifu_by_opening_my_fianc%C3%A9s_dms/">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Today I F*cked Up Subreddit, a woman digs through her partner&#39;s DMs and actually finds some suspect messages.</p><blockquote> <p>TIFU by opening my fianc&eacute;&#39;s dms</p> </blockquote><p>The wound is still fresh, so bear with me.</p><h2><strong>The Discovery</strong></h2><blockquote> <p>I had a rough day, and my fianc&eacute;&#39;s algorithms are top-notch, so I was scrolling through his apps to entertain myself,f hoping for a pick-me-up. He went to take a shower. I opened his Instagram and noticed he had a couple of new DMs. We don&#39;t snoop through each other&#39;s phones, but we don&#39;t hide anything either (or so I thought), so I clicked on them to see if they were important because he doesn&#39;t check Insta that often.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>WELL. I see the DMs are from a deleted account???, thus sparking my interest. So I click, and I scroll. Messages go <em>years</em> back--maybe twenty to thirty messages total. Some winky faces, some slightly sexual memes, and a few lingerie photos. Nothing outright incriminating but... <em>who is this b*tch</em>? My heart dropped. We&#39;re getting married in less than five months. These messages aren&#39;t okay. I started to see red.</p> </blockquote><h2><strong>The Confrontation</strong></h2><blockquote> <p>I put on my big girl pants, wiped my tears, and stormed into the bathroom. Rip open the shower curtain, revealing this idiot&#39;s (albeit glorious) naked body. He, though quite startled, raises his eyebrows and smirks. He says, &quot;Looking to join?&quot; Wrong move, buddy.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I go off. You know, like a bada**. My fiance denies it. You know, like a liar. I hold his towel hostage and toss his phone, so he can see for himself. He scrolls and pulls off this wildly confused demeanor. I see the blood leave his face. He kinda says, stuttering, &quot;...baby, I don&#39;t know?&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We go back and forth. He swears up and down. He has no idea who this could be. &quot;I&#39;m just as surprised as you are!!!&quot; He claims, criminally. So, I take his phone to quote this &quot;other woman&quot; for emphasis.</p> </blockquote><p><strong>The Reveal</strong></p><blockquote> <p>I ready my best valley girl voice and scroll to the most recently received messages. I noticed for the first time a picture <em>she</em> sent of a Guinea pig. I think, &quot;Aw hell, I love Guinea pigs.&quot; Then I remember <em>I have seen this Guinea pig before</em>.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Then I realize. This girl is me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I deleted all my social media almost a year ago. Neither of us remembered any of the messages we sent. I start laughing and happy crying. My fianc&eacute; looks like he just won the lottery and received the death penalty simultaneously.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><strong>The Aftermath</strong></p><blockquote> <p>Now we sit, <em>both</em> recently showered, debating whether or not we should welcome a Guinea pig into our family. I am so embarrassed. He is so relieved. We are crazy, stupid, and so in love.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/wrbt12/comment/iks5tni/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">MalteseFalcon7</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>If you like pina coladas...</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/wrbt12/comment/iks5p0q/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">raindroppingacid</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>My wife found a woman&#39;s silver bracelet in the back seat of my car. She didn&#39;t outright accuse me of cheating, but it was very suspect. I also had no idea where this bracelet could have come from so I was also confused about it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>A couple of years later we were looking at pictures of a wedding we had gone to years before. In one of the photos, clear as day, there&#39;s my wife wearing the bracelet. It was a gift from the bride to my wife for being a bridesmaid.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/wrbt12/comment/ikro13d/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">ArmadilloDays</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>Get two Guinea pigs - they need company.</p> </blockquote><h2>Congrats, OP! Not catching your partner cheating on you is the foundation upon which all good marriages are built.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman confronts fiancé after suspecting him of cheating only to find out he wasn't.

Is it toxic to go through your partner&#39;s DMs without their consent? Yes, but only if you find nothing. On a popular Reddit thread in the Today I F*cked Up Subreddit, a woman digs through her partner&#39;s DMs and actually finds some suspect messages. TIFU by opening my fianc&eacute;&#39;s dms The wound is still fresh, so bear with me.The Discovery I had a rough day, and my fianc&eacute;&#39;s algorithms are top-notch, so I was scrolling through his apps to entertain myself,f hoping for a pick-me-up. He went to take a shower. I opened his Instagram and noticed he had a couple of new DMs. We don&#39;t snoop through each other&#39;s phones, but we don&#39;t hide anything either (or so I thought), so I clicked on them to see if they were important because he doesn&#39;t check Insta that often.  WELL. I see the DMs are from a deleted account???, thus sparking my interest. So I click, and I scroll. Messages go years back--maybe twenty to thirty messages total. Some winky faces, some slightly sexual memes, and a few lingerie photos. Nothing outright incriminating but... who is this b*tch? My heart dropped. We&#39;re getting married in less than five months. These messages aren&#39;t okay. I started to see red. The Confrontation I put on my big girl pants, wiped my tears, and stormed into the bathroom. Rip open the shower curtain, revealing this idiot&#39;s (albeit glorious) naked body. He, though quite startled, raises his eyebrows and smirks. He says, &quot;Looking to join?&quot; Wrong move, buddy.  I go off. You know, like a bada**. My fiance denies it. You know, like a liar. I hold his towel hostage and toss his phone, so he can see for himself. He scrolls and pulls off this wildly confused demeanor. I see the blood leave his face. He kinda says, stuttering, &quot;...baby, I don&#39;t know?&quot;  We go back and forth. He swears up and down. He has no idea who this could be. &quot;I&#39;m just as surprised as you are!!!&quot; He claims, criminally. So, I take his phone to quote this &quot;other woman&quot; for emphasis. The Reveal I ready my best valley girl voice and scroll to the most recently received messages. I noticed for the first time a picture she sent of a Guinea pig. I think, &quot;Aw hell, I love Guinea pigs.&quot; Then I remember I have seen this Guinea pig before.  Then I realize. This girl is me.  I deleted all my social media almost a year ago. Neither of us remembered any of the messages we sent. I start laughing and happy crying. My fianc&eacute; looks like he just won the lottery and received the death penalty simultaneously. The Aftermath Now we sit, both recently showered, debating whether or not we should welcome a Guinea pig into our family. I am so embarrassed. He is so relieved. We are crazy, stupid, and so in love. MalteseFalcon7 says: If you like pina coladas... raindroppingacid says: My wife found a woman&#39;s silver bracelet in the back seat of my car. She didn&#39;t outright accuse me of cheating, but it was very suspect. I also had no idea where this bracelet could have come from so I was also confused about it.  A couple of years later we were looking at pictures of a wedding we had gone to years before. In one of the photos, clear as day, there&#39;s my wife wearing the bracelet. It was a gift from the bride to my wife for being a bridesmaid. ArmadilloDays says: Get two Guinea pigs - they need company. Congrats, OP! Not catching your partner cheating on you is the foundation upon which all good marriages are built.

Is it toxic to go through your partner&#39;s DMs without their consent? Yes, but only if you find nothing. On a popular Reddit thread in the Today I F*cked Up Subreddit, a woman digs through her partner&#39;s DMs and actually finds some...