Wedding

<p>When this bride feels conflicted, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/y8w14i/aita_for_not_wanting_to_be_part_of_my_stepmothers/?sort=controversial">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for not wanting to be part of my stepmother&#39;s family tradition with my step and half sister?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>So my stepmother has this tradition her family does regarding weddings where all the sisters wear the same piece from a family member&#39;s wedding outfit. Typically it&#39;s something from your mother or grandmother&#39;s wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My stepmother and all her sisters wore their mother&#39;s veil. Stepmother&#39;s nieces by her older sister all wore their mother&#39;s wedding pearls. You get the picture.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m engaged. My stepmother sat me, my stepsister and half sister down to discuss what our item would be. I told her I was planning to wear something of my mom&#39;s and that would be all the extra&#39;s I would go with.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She told me it was an important tradition to continue. I told her it was nice of her to think of me but it wasn&#39;t my tradition. She then said the simple answer would be let them wear the necklace when their wedding days come around.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>They thought that was a great idea and said if it was the piece they were thinking it was, it was the most beautiful thing ever and they&#39;d love to wear it. I said that wasn&#39;t going to happen. That it was a piece of my mom I could have during my wedding since I can&#39;t have her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My not wanting to do this tradition has caused some arguing. My step and half sister were upset I wouldn&#39;t do it with them. My stepmother is upset that I don&#39;t want to embrace a tradition from her family. The tradition has no interest to me at all. And I would never share something of my mom&#39;s with my step or half sister.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My dad tried to talk me into it. He told me it would mean so much and would I not like to finally feel like they are just my mom and sister&#39;s instead of having step and half in front of their titles. I told him no.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I have a mom. And her being dead doesn&#39;t change that or mean I need to see someone else as my mom too.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My stepmother told me she has always tried to make me a true part of her family, a true daughter, and I&#39;m an asshole for rejecting that as an adult when it doesn&#39;t just hurt her, but my &quot;sisters&quot; as well.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>AITA for not wanting to do this/turning it down?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PepperVL/">peppervl </a>writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Definitely NTA for not wanting to make your mom&#39;s necklace the item that you all wear, but I don&#39;t understand why you&#39;re so adamantly against wearing something of your stepmom&#39;s too that your stepsisters could also wear.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Wearing something small like a bracelet or hair clip would be meaningful in a different way than wearing your mom&#39;s necklace. And it could be your &quot;something borrowed&quot; as well. (And then your mom&#39;s necklace is your &quot;something old&quot; so it&#39;s part of that tradition too.)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jambomo/">jambomo</a> disagrees:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA - not for not sharing your mums necklace but for your horrible attitude towards your step-mum and step-sisters.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Reddit has some weird doormat approach to step-parents that they should look after you and be kind but never expect you to acknowledge or thank them in any way.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>In the real world sure you don&rsquo;t have to acknowledge someone who has cared and looked after you for years, you don&rsquo;t have to acknowledge their traditions or wear a small thing for them, but it does make you a massive AH.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, jury&#39;s out on this one. Is OP TA? Or is Reddit being too harsh?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride rejects stepmom's wedding accessory tradition; family calls her 'selfish.'

When this bride feels conflicted, she asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for not wanting to be part of my stepmother&#39;s family tradition with my step and half sister?&quot; So my stepmother has this tradition her family does regarding weddings where all the sisters wear the same piece from a family member&#39;s wedding outfit. Typically it&#39;s something from your mother or grandmother&#39;s wedding.  My stepmother and all her sisters wore their mother&#39;s veil. Stepmother&#39;s nieces by her older sister all wore their mother&#39;s wedding pearls. You get the picture.  I&#39;m engaged. My stepmother sat me, my stepsister and half sister down to discuss what our item would be. I told her I was planning to wear something of my mom&#39;s and that would be all the extra&#39;s I would go with.  She told me it was an important tradition to continue. I told her it was nice of her to think of me but it wasn&#39;t my tradition. She then said the simple answer would be let them wear the necklace when their wedding days come around.  They thought that was a great idea and said if it was the piece they were thinking it was, it was the most beautiful thing ever and they&#39;d love to wear it. I said that wasn&#39;t going to happen. That it was a piece of my mom I could have during my wedding since I can&#39;t have her.  My not wanting to do this tradition has caused some arguing. My step and half sister were upset I wouldn&#39;t do it with them. My stepmother is upset that I don&#39;t want to embrace a tradition from her family. The tradition has no interest to me at all. And I would never share something of my mom&#39;s with my step or half sister.  My dad tried to talk me into it. He told me it would mean so much and would I not like to finally feel like they are just my mom and sister&#39;s instead of having step and half in front of their titles. I told him no.  I have a mom. And her being dead doesn&#39;t change that or mean I need to see someone else as my mom too.  My stepmother told me she has always tried to make me a true part of her family, a true daughter, and I&#39;m an asshole for rejecting that as an adult when it doesn&#39;t just hurt her, but my &quot;sisters&quot; as well.  AITA for not wanting to do this/turning it down? Let&#39;s find out.peppervl writes: Definitely NTA for not wanting to make your mom&#39;s necklace the item that you all wear, but I don&#39;t understand why you&#39;re so adamantly against wearing something of your stepmom&#39;s too that your stepsisters could also wear.  Wearing something small like a bracelet or hair clip would be meaningful in a different way than wearing your mom&#39;s necklace. And it could be your &quot;something borrowed&quot; as well. (And then your mom&#39;s necklace is your &quot;something old&quot; so it&#39;s part of that tradition too.) jambomo disagrees: YTA - not for not sharing your mums necklace but for your horrible attitude towards your step-mum and step-sisters.  Reddit has some weird doormat approach to step-parents that they should look after you and be kind but never expect you to acknowledge or thank them in any way.  In the real world sure you don&rsquo;t have to acknowledge someone who has cared and looked after you for years, you don&rsquo;t have to acknowledge their traditions or wear a small thing for them, but it does make you a massive AH. Well, jury&#39;s out on this one. Is OP TA? Or is Reddit being too harsh?

When this bride feels conflicted, she asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for not wanting to be part of my stepmother&#39;s family tradition with my step and half sister?&quot;   So my stepmother has this tradition her family does regarding weddings...