Wedding

<h2>Anyone who has planned a wedding knows that accommodating all those guests is no easy feat. But what if the most demanding person is the one who promised to pay for the event?</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/gooseheadgoose/">u/gooseheadgoose</a> has had a deal with her dad for years that he&#39;d pay for her wedding, but dad&#39;s new vegan girlfriend has a &#39;moral obligation&#39; to make sure the wedding is 100% vegan. Dad took his girlfriend&#39;s side so OP <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10skz7u/aita_for_uninviting_my_dad_to_my_wedding_because/" target="_blank">went to Reddit</a> to ask:</p><h2>&#39;AITA (am I the a-hole) for uninviting my dad to my wedding because he refuses to pay anything towards it unless it is vegan?&#39;</h2><p>I am 30. Since I was a child he has always said he would pay for my wedding.</p><blockquote> <p>About 5 years ago he started a relationship with lady with quite extreme views. She is a vegan, which is fine but she is very judgemental to how I live. She doesn&rsquo;t agree with cancer scans (like smear tests, mammograms etc) because vegans &ldquo;don&rsquo;t get cancer.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When I had my daughter she said I should be feeding her almond milk. She once came to my house for dinner and I cooked a chicken for me and my family and a nut roast for my father and her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She later dug a hole in my garden to give the chicken bones a proper funeral because she was so &ldquo;heartbroken to see us eating it&rsquo;s blood and flesh&rdquo;. I wish I was joking.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She has also accused me of trying to steal her fathers house. I have never met her father, I have never set foot in her fathers house. All I know is he died recently. I had communicated some cost of living worries to my dad (not asking for money) and she ran with it and said I was trying to manipulate her into giving me her inheritance. I do not want her inheritance.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Long story short, my father will only pay for my wedding if it&rsquo;s vegan. This not only includes food, but shoes, alcohol, what other people wear (E.g. leather) and anything else you can think of. I might have been ok with vegan food, but I&rsquo;m not ok with policing what others wear or food they may bring for their babies (even formula) etc.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>This has upset me. It&rsquo;s not really about the money, we are having a very small and cheap do anyway. In the run up to the wedding this woman has also been extremely rude to my mother. On reflection I have now decided it&rsquo;s best all round that they do not attend.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s now telling my dad&rsquo;s side of the family that it&rsquo;s just about the money and that I am bitter because I didn&rsquo;t get her dad&rsquo;s house (Why on Earth would I be given her dads house?!) and that my dad isn&rsquo;t paying for my wedding, but to be honest it&rsquo;s not really about the money.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I don&rsquo;t want to be controlled over what I can and can&rsquo;t do on my wedding day. I&rsquo;m sick of her judgement (and his, now she&rsquo;s gotten her claws into him) and I just think it will be better for me, my siblings and my mother if they do not come.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I also don&rsquo;t want to be lectured over milk, dairy, honey, palm oil you name it, on my wedding day and I don&rsquo;t want to put my guests through it either. AITA (am I the a-hole)?</p> </blockquote><h2>So who is in the wrong here? Let&#39;s see if Reddit users are on OP&#39;s side or told her not to be a &#39;pill&#39;.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/northstarette/">northstarette</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (not the a-hole). I think you&rsquo;re right that it will be better if they don&rsquo;t come since they can&rsquo;t keep themselves from trying to control everything and everyone around them. It&rsquo;s insufferable and you don&rsquo;t need that headache on your wedding day.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Archpharaoh/">Archpharaoh</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I&rsquo;d tell him he&rsquo;s become someone else because a sad, crazy woman has subjected him to a series of very stupid lies. If he wants to fix the problem, he&rsquo;s welcome to do so. The woman he&rsquo;s with is poison.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Keep them away. (I recognize how painful this must be.) Being vegan is like a lot of things. It needs to be something that people opt into, not be forced into.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Idontlikesoup1/">Idontlikesoup1</a> has a plan:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Just invite your dad without a plus one. Mention that a vegan option will be available just to show you&#39;re taking the fist step. Of course he will refuse to come alone and then, you just say how sorry your are he can&#39;t make it. Checkmate in one move. Problem solved.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/realstareyes/">realstareyes</a> says the &#39;chicken&#39; isn&#39;t only grave Dad&#39;s gf has dug:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (not the a-hole). He broke a promise, tries to make everything about him and his new partner causes tension, which is definitely not what a wedding is for. It&lsquo;s your wedding and your decision. They dug their own grave and basically uninvited themselves.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP, you&#39;re safe. Seems like Reddit users said she&#39;s NTA (not the a-hole).</h2><p>Veganism can be the right choice for some, and they may feel strongly that everyone &#39;should&#39; make the same choice. But does it serve one to try to &#39;shame&#39; other people into making that choice? According to Reddit, Dad&#39;s girlfriend went too far. </p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad and 'moral' gf demand daughter's wedding is 100% vegan; she un-invites them.

Anyone who has planned a wedding knows that accommodating all those guests is no easy feat. But what if the most demanding person is the one who promised to pay for the event?u/gooseheadgoose has had a deal with her dad for years that he&#39;d pay for her wedding, but dad&#39;s new vegan girlfriend has a &#39;moral obligation&#39; to make sure the wedding is 100% vegan. Dad took his girlfriend&#39;s side so OP went to Reddit to ask:&#39;AITA (am I the a-hole) for uninviting my dad to my wedding because he refuses to pay anything towards it unless it is vegan?&#39;I am 30. Since I was a child he has always said he would pay for my wedding. About 5 years ago he started a relationship with lady with quite extreme views. She is a vegan, which is fine but she is very judgemental to how I live. She doesn&rsquo;t agree with cancer scans (like smear tests, mammograms etc) because vegans &ldquo;don&rsquo;t get cancer.&quot;  When I had my daughter she said I should be feeding her almond milk. She once came to my house for dinner and I cooked a chicken for me and my family and a nut roast for my father and her.  She later dug a hole in my garden to give the chicken bones a proper funeral because she was so &ldquo;heartbroken to see us eating it&rsquo;s blood and flesh&rdquo;. I wish I was joking.  She has also accused me of trying to steal her fathers house. I have never met her father, I have never set foot in her fathers house. All I know is he died recently. I had communicated some cost of living worries to my dad (not asking for money) and she ran with it and said I was trying to manipulate her into giving me her inheritance. I do not want her inheritance.  Long story short, my father will only pay for my wedding if it&rsquo;s vegan. This not only includes food, but shoes, alcohol, what other people wear (E.g. leather) and anything else you can think of. I might have been ok with vegan food, but I&rsquo;m not ok with policing what others wear or food they may bring for their babies (even formula) etc.  This has upset me. It&rsquo;s not really about the money, we are having a very small and cheap do anyway. In the run up to the wedding this woman has also been extremely rude to my mother. On reflection I have now decided it&rsquo;s best all round that they do not attend.  She&rsquo;s now telling my dad&rsquo;s side of the family that it&rsquo;s just about the money and that I am bitter because I didn&rsquo;t get her dad&rsquo;s house (Why on Earth would I be given her dads house?!) and that my dad isn&rsquo;t paying for my wedding, but to be honest it&rsquo;s not really about the money.  I don&rsquo;t want to be controlled over what I can and can&rsquo;t do on my wedding day. I&rsquo;m sick of her judgement (and his, now she&rsquo;s gotten her claws into him) and I just think it will be better for me, my siblings and my mother if they do not come.  I also don&rsquo;t want to be lectured over milk, dairy, honey, palm oil you name it, on my wedding day and I don&rsquo;t want to put my guests through it either. AITA (am I the a-hole)? So who is in the wrong here? Let&#39;s see if Reddit users are on OP&#39;s side or told her not to be a &#39;pill&#39;.northstarette says: NTA (not the a-hole). I think you&rsquo;re right that it will be better if they don&rsquo;t come since they can&rsquo;t keep themselves from trying to control everything and everyone around them. It&rsquo;s insufferable and you don&rsquo;t need that headache on your wedding day. Archpharaoh writes: NTA. I&rsquo;d tell him he&rsquo;s become someone else because a sad, crazy woman has subjected him to a series of very stupid lies. If he wants to fix the problem, he&rsquo;s welcome to do so. The woman he&rsquo;s with is poison.  Keep them away. (I recognize how painful this must be.) Being vegan is like a lot of things. It needs to be something that people opt into, not be forced into. Idontlikesoup1 has a plan: NTA. Just invite your dad without a plus one. Mention that a vegan option will be available just to show you&#39;re taking the fist step. Of course he will refuse to come alone and then, you just say how sorry your are he can&#39;t make it. Checkmate in one move. Problem solved. realstareyes says the &#39;chicken&#39; isn&#39;t only grave Dad&#39;s gf has dug: NTA (not the a-hole). He broke a promise, tries to make everything about him and his new partner causes tension, which is definitely not what a wedding is for. It&lsquo;s your wedding and your decision. They dug their own grave and basically uninvited themselves. OP, you&#39;re safe. Seems like Reddit users said she&#39;s NTA (not the a-hole).Veganism can be the right choice for some, and they may feel strongly that everyone &#39;should&#39; make the same choice. But does it serve one to try to &#39;shame&#39; other people into making that choice? According to Reddit, Dad&#39;s girlfriend went too far. 

Anyone who has planned a wedding knows that accommodating all those guests is no easy feat. But what if the most demanding person is the one who promised to pay for the event?  u/gooseheadgoose has had a deal with her dad for years that...