Wedding

<p>When this friend is shocked by her friend&#39;s wedding demands, she asks <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ykqvzt/aita_for_telling_my_friend_her_demanded_wedding/">Reddit:</a></p><h2>&quot;AITA for telling my friend her demanded wedding gift is inappropriate and that I don&#39;t feel comfortable with it while doubting the legitimacy of the &quot;custom&quot;?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m flying out to Belgium to from the UK to attend my friends weddings, thanks to the internet we&#39;ve been friends for a little over a decade. She&#39;s getting married in march next year and wanted me to attend as we&#39;re very close friends, I agreed happily.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She recently reached out to tell me what i&#39;d be expected to bring as a wedding gift. I had been planning a gift already, a custom piece of art to commemorate their day made up with their birthstones all in all a cute design that i&#39;ve seen online that I thought would be nice but i&#39;d not yet ordered it so I was of course happy to hear what she wanted instead.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was told I had to bring a minimum of &pound;250 cash as my wedding gift to them I was shocked by this as that&#39;s a lot of money especially considering that I have to fly out and get a hotel.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>When I questioned her about this she said it was the bare minimum every guest had to bring and that anyone who didn&#39;t wasn&#39;t allowed into the wedding. This has me shocked as thats....extremely rude right?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I confronted her about that and told her it wasn&#39;t really appropriate to make such demands of her guests and that I wasn&#39;t comfortable with this.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She brushed it off saying it was normal and customary in Belgium as all the money goes towards getting the newlyweds a house...ok I can see some grounds in that and would be happy to throw a little cash towards that if it&#39;s what she wants.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>But the demanding and set price seems fishy to me and this isn&#39;t a small wedding, she has 97 guests coming... it seems like a cash grab to me and i&#39;ve not been able to see any hint of this being a tradition on my online searches.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told her as much and she had a meltdown saying if I wasn&#39;t comfortable paying it wouldn&#39;t be fair to the other guests who were paying and she wouldn&#39;t be comfortable with me being there then even bragged about how her father had promised her three grand as his gift.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her if she felt that way I wasn&#39;t sure I wanted to come and thanked her for the invitation.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s been freaking out online over my disrespect of her customs and my rudeness in questioning her and even crying to other friends about how i&#39;m trying to spite her day...am I out of line for not feeling comfortable with this?</p> </blockquote><h2>Let&#39;s find out.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Elfmerelda/">elfemerelda</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA, that&rsquo;s not a custom. Sounds like she figured out the cost per person and tacked on additional money to profit off her wedding. Tacky.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Tricky-Flamingo-7491/">trickyflamingo7491</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA She is absolutely lying to you. Cash gifts are custom in many cultures. You know what is not a custom ANYWHERE? Dictating the amount that you have to gift. She&#39;s being greedy. You already know she&#39;s lying though, and you&#39;re right, it really is just a cash grab.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The obvious answer here is don&#39;t go to the wedding. You&#39;d have to spend a bunch of money to fly out and attend her wedding. Flights and hotel alone will add up fast, nevermind other related expenses and the wedding gift.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s shown her true colors, and I doubt she was a very close friend if she&#39;s treated you so poorly, so she probably did you a favor going full Bridezilla before you wasted all your time and money on her wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Chances are your mutual friends aren&#39;t going to be too pleased with her either, so I certainly would not worry about her complaining about you to them. But the fact she&#39;s holding this against you certainly just makes it all the more clear what a giant asshole she is.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, looks like this bride is nuts. What do YOU think is really going on here?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Wedding guest shocked when bride says 'bring $250 cash to the wedding or don't come.'

When this friend is shocked by her friend&#39;s wedding demands, she asks Reddit:&quot;AITA for telling my friend her demanded wedding gift is inappropriate and that I don&#39;t feel comfortable with it while doubting the legitimacy of the &quot;custom&quot;?&quot; I&#39;m flying out to Belgium to from the UK to attend my friends weddings, thanks to the internet we&#39;ve been friends for a little over a decade. She&#39;s getting married in march next year and wanted me to attend as we&#39;re very close friends, I agreed happily.  She recently reached out to tell me what i&#39;d be expected to bring as a wedding gift. I had been planning a gift already, a custom piece of art to commemorate their day made up with their birthstones all in all a cute design that i&#39;ve seen online that I thought would be nice but i&#39;d not yet ordered it so I was of course happy to hear what she wanted instead.  I was told I had to bring a minimum of &pound;250 cash as my wedding gift to them I was shocked by this as that&#39;s a lot of money especially considering that I have to fly out and get a hotel.  When I questioned her about this she said it was the bare minimum every guest had to bring and that anyone who didn&#39;t wasn&#39;t allowed into the wedding. This has me shocked as thats....extremely rude right?  I confronted her about that and told her it wasn&#39;t really appropriate to make such demands of her guests and that I wasn&#39;t comfortable with this.  She brushed it off saying it was normal and customary in Belgium as all the money goes towards getting the newlyweds a house...ok I can see some grounds in that and would be happy to throw a little cash towards that if it&#39;s what she wants.  But the demanding and set price seems fishy to me and this isn&#39;t a small wedding, she has 97 guests coming... it seems like a cash grab to me and i&#39;ve not been able to see any hint of this being a tradition on my online searches.  I told her as much and she had a meltdown saying if I wasn&#39;t comfortable paying it wouldn&#39;t be fair to the other guests who were paying and she wouldn&#39;t be comfortable with me being there then even bragged about how her father had promised her three grand as his gift.  I told her if she felt that way I wasn&#39;t sure I wanted to come and thanked her for the invitation.  She&#39;s been freaking out online over my disrespect of her customs and my rudeness in questioning her and even crying to other friends about how i&#39;m trying to spite her day...am I out of line for not feeling comfortable with this? Let&#39;s find out.elfemerelda writes: NTA, that&rsquo;s not a custom. Sounds like she figured out the cost per person and tacked on additional money to profit off her wedding. Tacky. trickyflamingo7491 writes: NTA She is absolutely lying to you. Cash gifts are custom in many cultures. You know what is not a custom ANYWHERE? Dictating the amount that you have to gift. She&#39;s being greedy. You already know she&#39;s lying though, and you&#39;re right, it really is just a cash grab.  The obvious answer here is don&#39;t go to the wedding. You&#39;d have to spend a bunch of money to fly out and attend her wedding. Flights and hotel alone will add up fast, nevermind other related expenses and the wedding gift.  She&#39;s shown her true colors, and I doubt she was a very close friend if she&#39;s treated you so poorly, so she probably did you a favor going full Bridezilla before you wasted all your time and money on her wedding.  Chances are your mutual friends aren&#39;t going to be too pleased with her either, so I certainly would not worry about her complaining about you to them. But the fact she&#39;s holding this against you certainly just makes it all the more clear what a giant asshole she is. Well, looks like this bride is nuts. What do YOU think is really going on here?

When this friend is shocked by her friend&#39;s wedding demands, she asks Reddit:  &quot;AITA for telling my friend her demanded wedding gift is inappropriate and that I don&#39;t feel comfortable with it while doubting the legitimacy of...