Wedding

Ideally, when you get married, your partner will become good friends with your entire family, and everyone will live in gorgeous harmony.But personality differences, petty squabbles, and basic incompatibilities get in the way of that, which means there can be trouble in paradise with the in-laws.The easiest course of action is to keep the peace in person, then go off and complain later behind closed doors. But there are times when people simply cannot contain their dislike of an in-law, and it makes everyone around them uncomfortable.<h2>In a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11t5594/aita_for_not_defending_my_sister_after_my_husband/" target="_blank">popular post on the AITA subreddit</a>, a woman asked if she&#39;s wrong for not defending her sister after her husband took a jab at her.</h2>She wrote:<blockquote> AITA for not defending my sister after my husband said &ldquo;good luck, you&rsquo;ll need it marrying her&rdquo; to her fianc&eacute;? </blockquote><blockquote> My husband used to get along with my family until my sister falsely accused him of cheating on me. He understandably doesn&rsquo;t like her anymore but he&rsquo;s usually civil toward her. My sister recently announced her engagement and while everybody congratulated her my husband turned to her fianc&eacute; and said &ldquo;good luck, you&rsquo;ll need it marrying her.&rdquo; </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I was shocked he would say something like that, especially in front of my parents, but I never said anything as I didn&rsquo;t want to fight with him in front of everybody. My sister kept giving me a look like she expected me to say something and when I didn&rsquo;t she yelled at him herself. </blockquote><blockquote> I made us leave because I could see us being there wasn&rsquo;t helping the situation. My sister has been texting me about what happened, mostly to take digs at my husband. She gets angry every time I ask her to stop and thinks I&rsquo;m siding with him when he was in the wrong. </blockquote><blockquote> Things have gotten worse after I told her I wouldn&rsquo;t be going wedding dress shopping with her as she&rsquo;s blaming my husband for that too. She sent him some messages directly and he fanned the flames by saying he wouldn&rsquo;t let me go and she would be lucky if we even attended the wedding. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I&rsquo;ve spoken to my husband and asked him to stop making things worse. He has agreed to stop responding to her but she wants me to make him apologize and to agree to visit when she wants to go wedding dress shopping to prove I&rsquo;m not siding with him which I can&#39;t do. AITA? </blockquote><h2>The internet was quick to add their thoughts.</h2><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Milskidasith/">Milskidasith</a> wrote:<blockquote> There are two situations here: </blockquote><blockquote> The sister accused your husband of cheating on you in a malicious or very public way that created a lot of burned bridges, in which case you should probably be defending your husband here, or at least keeping him away from events with somebody he justifiably hates. </blockquote><blockquote> The sister accused your husband of cheating privately out of genuine concern or due to a misunderstanding, in which case him being frosty is reasonable but he absolutely shouldn&#39;t be making a public scene about it if he&#39;s still agreeing to actually meet up with or hang out with your sister. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Either way, multiple people involved are behaving badly, yourself in all situations, so this is a clear ESH. You also cannot play peacekeeper without telling your sister, clearly, &quot;my husband will never want anything to do with you due to the cheating accusation, and that is not a problem you can solve.&quot; </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ok-Entrepreneur61/">Ok-Entrepreneur61</a> wrote:<blockquote> NTA reading some of these comments amazed me, SHE FALSELY accused him of cheating, and she wants an apology. I agree with him, good look to her fianc&eacute;, he is marrying a two-faced liar. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NidorinoBeano/">NidorinoBeano</a> asked for some clarification about the cheating accusations.<blockquote> INFO can you expand more on the past, about her accusing him? </blockquote>To which OP quickly responded.<blockquote> Yeah, sure... So my sister was staying with us for a while and she thought it was weird that he wasn&#39;t home that often and that he was always on his phone or on his laptop so she was convinced he was cheating. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I told her repeatedly that he wasn&#39;t and that he was working but she wouldn&#39;t let it go. She tried to prove it by taking pictures of him with/kissing his female friend&#39;s cheek but I told her they didn&#39;t prove anything. She thought I was in denial so she sent them to our family because she thought they would talk &quot;sense&quot; into me but it&#39;s just caused unnecessary drama. She&#39;s never apologised to him directly. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Unit-00/">Unit-00</a> wrote:<blockquote> NTA in this situation, but honestly I think it&#39;s incredibly rude to your husband that you still associate with your sister at all. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ParsimoniousSalad/">ParsimoniousSalad</a> wrote:<blockquote> ESH. If I were in your position at that moment, I would have rolled my eyes and told the fiance not to worry about it, that your husband and sister had a feud going. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Sister should have apologized to you and your husband back when it was revealed that the accusation she made was false. Your husband should have been gracious enough to accept it (and remain civil thereafter even if he wasn&#39;t going to like her again). </blockquote><blockquote> Your husband didn&#39;t need to act out in this way. It was petty. There is no reason you can&#39;t go wedding dress shopping with your sister. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RedhandjillNA/">RedhandjillNA</a> wrote: <blockquote> NTA she tried to destroy your marriage. Your husband will never forgive her. He hates her. Sometimes our rude but real feelings come out. Chose a side - your husband or your sister. Chose rightly. </blockquote>The votes are split, but one thing seems clearly agreed upon: OP is going to have to &quot;pick a side&quot; at some point, because this dynamic can&#39;t continue indefinitely.<div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman doesn't defend sister after her husband takes jab at her in front of the family.

Ideally, when you get married, your partner will become good friends with your entire family, and everyone will live in gorgeous harmony.But personality differences, petty squabbles, and basic incompatibilities get in the way of that, which means there can be trouble in paradise with the in-laws.The easiest course of action is to keep the peace in person, then go off and complain later behind closed doors. But there are times when people simply cannot contain their dislike of an in-law, and it makes everyone around them uncomfortable.In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she&#39;s wrong for not defending her sister after her husband took a jab at her.She wrote: AITA for not defending my sister after my husband said &ldquo;good luck, you&rsquo;ll need it marrying her&rdquo; to her fianc&eacute;?  My husband used to get along with my family until my sister falsely accused him of cheating on me. He understandably doesn&rsquo;t like her anymore but he&rsquo;s usually civil toward her. My sister recently announced her engagement and while everybody congratulated her my husband turned to her fianc&eacute; and said &ldquo;good luck, you&rsquo;ll need it marrying her.&rdquo;  I was shocked he would say something like that, especially in front of my parents, but I never said anything as I didn&rsquo;t want to fight with him in front of everybody. My sister kept giving me a look like she expected me to say something and when I didn&rsquo;t she yelled at him herself.  I made us leave because I could see us being there wasn&rsquo;t helping the situation. My sister has been texting me about what happened, mostly to take digs at my husband. She gets angry every time I ask her to stop and thinks I&rsquo;m siding with him when he was in the wrong.  Things have gotten worse after I told her I wouldn&rsquo;t be going wedding dress shopping with her as she&rsquo;s blaming my husband for that too. She sent him some messages directly and he fanned the flames by saying he wouldn&rsquo;t let me go and she would be lucky if we even attended the wedding.  I&rsquo;ve spoken to my husband and asked him to stop making things worse. He has agreed to stop responding to her but she wants me to make him apologize and to agree to visit when she wants to go wedding dress shopping to prove I&rsquo;m not siding with him which I can&#39;t do. AITA? The internet was quick to add their thoughts.Milskidasith wrote: There are two situations here:  The sister accused your husband of cheating on you in a malicious or very public way that created a lot of burned bridges, in which case you should probably be defending your husband here, or at least keeping him away from events with somebody he justifiably hates.  The sister accused your husband of cheating privately out of genuine concern or due to a misunderstanding, in which case him being frosty is reasonable but he absolutely shouldn&#39;t be making a public scene about it if he&#39;s still agreeing to actually meet up with or hang out with your sister.  Either way, multiple people involved are behaving badly, yourself in all situations, so this is a clear ESH. You also cannot play peacekeeper without telling your sister, clearly, &quot;my husband will never want anything to do with you due to the cheating accusation, and that is not a problem you can solve.&quot; Ok-Entrepreneur61 wrote: NTA reading some of these comments amazed me, SHE FALSELY accused him of cheating, and she wants an apology. I agree with him, good look to her fianc&eacute;, he is marrying a two-faced liar. NidorinoBeano asked for some clarification about the cheating accusations. INFO can you expand more on the past, about her accusing him? To which OP quickly responded. Yeah, sure... So my sister was staying with us for a while and she thought it was weird that he wasn&#39;t home that often and that he was always on his phone or on his laptop so she was convinced he was cheating.  I told her repeatedly that he wasn&#39;t and that he was working but she wouldn&#39;t let it go. She tried to prove it by taking pictures of him with/kissing his female friend&#39;s cheek but I told her they didn&#39;t prove anything. She thought I was in denial so she sent them to our family because she thought they would talk &quot;sense&quot; into me but it&#39;s just caused unnecessary drama. She&#39;s never apologised to him directly. Unit-00 wrote: NTA in this situation, but honestly I think it&#39;s incredibly rude to your husband that you still associate with your sister at all. ParsimoniousSalad wrote: ESH. If I were in your position at that moment, I would have rolled my eyes and told the fiance not to worry about it, that your husband and sister had a feud going.  Sister should have apologized to you and your husband back when it was revealed that the accusation she made was false. Your husband should have been gracious enough to accept it (and remain civil thereafter even if he wasn&#39;t going to like her again).  Your husband didn&#39;t need to act out in this way. It was petty. There is no reason you can&#39;t go wedding dress shopping with your sister. RedhandjillNA wrote:  NTA she tried to destroy your marriage. Your husband will never forgive her. He hates her. Sometimes our rude but real feelings come out. Chose a side - your husband or your sister. Chose rightly. The votes are split, but one thing seems clearly agreed upon: OP is going to have to &quot;pick a side&quot; at some point, because this dynamic can&#39;t continue indefinitely.

Ideally, when you get married, your partner will become good friends with your entire family, and everyone will live in gorgeous harmony.  But personality differences, petty squabbles, and basic incompatibilities get in the way of that,...