22 yo bride bans 20 yo friend from her 'childfree' wedding for being too young.

"AITA for wanting a childfree wedding?"

I (22f) am getting married soon. Since my fiancé and I are childfree and because we plan to have alcohol at our wedding, we decided to have a childfree wedding with the age cutoff at 21.

This requirement so far has gone over well with most of our invitees (most of our invitees don’t even have kids anyway so it doesn’t make a difference for them).

I have one friend, “Mel” (20f), that I had to exclude from the wedding. After realizing that pretty much everyone else from the same social circle had been invited except her, she confronted me and demanded to know why she wasn’t invited.

I tried to explain that it wasn’t personal and that I just didn’t want to have to worry about underage drinking going on under my nose on my wedding day.

But Mel kept accusing me of being a bad friend. She argued that since we had drank together before it shouldn’t be such a big deal, but I told her that it was different since we were both underage at the time (I was 20 and she was 18-19ish when we started drinking together).

Now as an adult, I feel like I have a responsibility to prevent underage drinking, and as the bride, I feel like I have the right to have a childfree wedding.

Mel is unconvinced and keeps talking bad about me behind my back to our mutual friends and making snarky comments about me feeling superior. I don’t see why she can’t just relax and let me have my wedding day the way I like. So, AITA?

Here's what people had to say:

glitchandgo says:

You are massively immature in your thinking. You didn't magically become an adult at 21. You were already legally an adult since 18, you just gained the ability to legally drink. Your friend is not a child, she's legally recognized as an adult, just as you are. She's just acting like more of one that you are right now.

DragonCelica writes:

I'm dying over the sharp turn this took from drinking with her at 20, to calling herself an 'adult,' and acting morally superior. I couldn't contain my laughter with how those sentences were back to back, yet OP claims she's surprised by the former friends reaction. Hypocrisy, thy name is OP.

mmartinez59 says:

I'm betting Mel is an attractive person that OP is worried might take some of her shine. Whatever the reasoning, OP: YTA (You're the A-hole).

UnbelievableTxn6969 sided with OP:

NTA (Not the A-hole). You’d be providing alcohol to a minor.

MaybeAWalrus pointed out:

It's weird that you would consider someone that is a year younger than you 'a child'... yet think that YOU are old enough to get married ?! So close to being a child?! YTA (You're the A-hole).

And OP responded:

I’m 22, so it would be people who are 2 years younger would be considered children, not 1.

What do YOU think?

Is OP wrong to exclude her friend?