Weddings

<h2>Sometimes it&#39;s hard for chronically online people to understand that there are some plates that don&#39;t need to be posted, and some moments that don&#39;t need to be seen by thousands of internet strangers...</h2><p>Is the perfect dinner photo worth it if it forces a waiter to tell you that you&#39;re a safety hazard? So, when a conflicted bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to have her own sister kicked out of her engagement party, people were ready to deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11mctf6/aita_for_kicking_my_sister_out_of_my_engagement/" target="_blank">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for kicking my sister out of my engagement dinner because she wouldn&#39;t stop taking photos and made a scene?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m blessed to be marrying the love of my life. My engagement party was booked at an upscale restaurant, and prior to the day I sat my sister down and told her that I wanted the party to be focused on the wedding and to please not go above and beyond to take photos for her social media page.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I might get flack for this part, but my sister is trying <em>really</em> hard to become famous online. I&#39;ve never said anything to her because she&#39;s an adult and this is her life, but for my wedding I really didn&#39;t want her to pull any of her antics.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Because she doesn&#39;t just take a few photos to post. She&#39;s the embarrassing (IMO) caricature of the perpetually online influencer. She&#39;ll order two dishes at a restaurant: one to take photos of because it&#39;s prettier, and the second to actually eat.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s stopped traffic before to take outfit photos in the street. She&#39;s also staged &quot;fake&quot; things to post online (one time she started crying in a Starbucks and made a fake story up about how the barista bullied her).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I want to make it clear that I did not bar my sister from taking photos. I just didn&#39;t want her doing something that would embarrass me. Everything was ok, until she literally stood on top of her chair to take a top down photo of her meal.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Everyone was staring and in shock, and a waiter had to come and ask her to sit down. She refused to, and started to loudly argue with the waiter, saying that she was the sister of the bride, and then started to loudly sob that she was getting bullied.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I was mortified and immediately had the groomsmen escort her out of the room. She&#39;s since blasted me on social media calling me an AH for not handling the situation with more &quot;grace and empathy.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She says that I could have given her a warning instead of kicking her immediately out. I was kind of panicking so I wonder if I could have handled it better.</p> </blockquote><h2>Of course, the jury of wedding shamers was eager to weigh in on this influencer dinner disaster. Here&#39;s what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SolitaryTeaParty/">SolitaryTeaParty</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). She&rsquo;s an attention addict - and the sort that always makes herself out to be the victim when she knows she was the one who effed up. $20 says she finds a way to pull this type of sh!t at your wedding if she attends.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/HannahPoppyMommy/">HannahPoppyMommy</a> said:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. You did give her a warning. You did sit her down and told her what exactly she isn&#39;t supposed to do. And she did that anyway. So this is not on you. If a waiter had to come over and ask her to sit down, it is very evident that she was in fact creating a scene.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>People who create scenes and upstage special events get kicked out. That&#39;s the rule. I don&#39;t see how much more gracefully you could have handled this situation. This is your engagement party. It should not be and is not a content source for Miss Influencer.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ornery_Pen4842/">Ornery_Pen4842</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA I am wondering, if your sister can&#39;t even behave for an engagement dinner, how bad will the actual wedding be? Maybe you shouldn&#39;t have instantly kicked her out, but she ignored your request, so she brought this jpon herself.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Hoseoksnshoes/">Hoseoksnshoes</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA and I suggest that if she attends your wedding, it&#39;s under the condition that she give up any device with a camera &amp; access to social media to an agreed upon third party for the duration of the event. If she screams about bullying for being asked to stop acting out in public, I wouldn&#39;t put it past her to make a scene on purpose the day of your nuptials.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Guilty-Paramedic-572/">Guilty-Paramedic-572</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA she got her warning when you asked her to control herself like an adult. There&rsquo;s no reason she couldn&rsquo;t go a dinner without posting.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it...</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this bride wasn&#39;t at all wrong to have her sister escorted out of her engagement dinner, with or without a proper warning. There are tragically some events in this life that can&#39;t become &quot;content.&quot; Light a candle for this wedding, everyone.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride kicks influencer sister out of engagement dinner for 'embarrassing' scene.

Sometimes it&#39;s hard for chronically online people to understand that there are some plates that don&#39;t need to be posted, and some moments that don&#39;t need to be seen by thousands of internet strangers...Is the perfect dinner photo worth it if it forces a waiter to tell you that you&#39;re a safety hazard? So, when a conflicted bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not she was wrong to have her own sister kicked out of her engagement party, people were ready to deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for kicking my sister out of my engagement dinner because she wouldn&#39;t stop taking photos and made a scene? I&#39;m blessed to be marrying the love of my life. My engagement party was booked at an upscale restaurant, and prior to the day I sat my sister down and told her that I wanted the party to be focused on the wedding and to please not go above and beyond to take photos for her social media page.  I might get flack for this part, but my sister is trying really hard to become famous online. I&#39;ve never said anything to her because she&#39;s an adult and this is her life, but for my wedding I really didn&#39;t want her to pull any of her antics.  Because she doesn&#39;t just take a few photos to post. She&#39;s the embarrassing (IMO) caricature of the perpetually online influencer. She&#39;ll order two dishes at a restaurant: one to take photos of because it&#39;s prettier, and the second to actually eat.  She&#39;s stopped traffic before to take outfit photos in the street. She&#39;s also staged &quot;fake&quot; things to post online (one time she started crying in a Starbucks and made a fake story up about how the barista bullied her).  I want to make it clear that I did not bar my sister from taking photos. I just didn&#39;t want her doing something that would embarrass me. Everything was ok, until she literally stood on top of her chair to take a top down photo of her meal.  Everyone was staring and in shock, and a waiter had to come and ask her to sit down. She refused to, and started to loudly argue with the waiter, saying that she was the sister of the bride, and then started to loudly sob that she was getting bullied.  I was mortified and immediately had the groomsmen escort her out of the room. She&#39;s since blasted me on social media calling me an AH for not handling the situation with more &quot;grace and empathy.&quot;  She says that I could have given her a warning instead of kicking her immediately out. I was kind of panicking so I wonder if I could have handled it better. Of course, the jury of wedding shamers was eager to weigh in on this influencer dinner disaster. Here&#39;s what people had to say:SolitaryTeaParty said: NTA (Not the As*hole). She&rsquo;s an attention addict - and the sort that always makes herself out to be the victim when she knows she was the one who effed up. $20 says she finds a way to pull this type of sh!t at your wedding if she attends. HannahPoppyMommy said: NTA. You did give her a warning. You did sit her down and told her what exactly she isn&#39;t supposed to do. And she did that anyway. So this is not on you. If a waiter had to come over and ask her to sit down, it is very evident that she was in fact creating a scene.  People who create scenes and upstage special events get kicked out. That&#39;s the rule. I don&#39;t see how much more gracefully you could have handled this situation. This is your engagement party. It should not be and is not a content source for Miss Influencer. Ornery_Pen4842 said: NTA I am wondering, if your sister can&#39;t even behave for an engagement dinner, how bad will the actual wedding be? Maybe you shouldn&#39;t have instantly kicked her out, but she ignored your request, so she brought this jpon herself. Hoseoksnshoes said: NTA and I suggest that if she attends your wedding, it&#39;s under the condition that she give up any device with a camera &amp; access to social media to an agreed upon third party for the duration of the event. If she screams about bullying for being asked to stop acting out in public, I wouldn&#39;t put it past her to make a scene on purpose the day of your nuptials. Guilty-Paramedic-572 said: NTA she got her warning when you asked her to control herself like an adult. There&rsquo;s no reason she couldn&rsquo;t go a dinner without posting. So, there you have it...Everyone agreed unanimously here that this bride wasn&#39;t at all wrong to have her sister escorted out of her engagement dinner, with or without a proper warning. There are tragically some events in this life that can&#39;t become &quot;content.&quot; Light a candle for this wedding, everyone.

Sometimes it&#39;s hard for chronically online people to understand that there are some plates that don&#39;t need to be posted, and some moments that don&#39;t need to be seen by thousands of internet strangers...  Is the perfect dinner...

Bride kicks influencer sister out of engagement dinner for 'embarrassing' scene.

Sometimes it's hard for chronically online people to understand that there are some plates that don't need to be posted, and some moments that don't need to be seen by thousands of internet strangers...

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for kicking my sister out of my engagement dinner because she wouldn't stop taking photos and made a scene?