Weddings

<h2>Bridesmaidzillas aren&#39;t as common in the wild woods of wedding wonderland, but that doesn&#39;t mean they don&#39;t exist...</h2><p>So, when a frustrated (yet relieved) bride decided to vent to the gloriously petty &quot;Wedding Shaming&quot; group of Reddit about her ex-friend and former bridesmaid, people were eager to hear the horror story.</p><h2>I cut off one of my bridesmaids the day after my wedding...</h2><blockquote> <p>We were roommates for a good portion of the things that happened. She also had no issue going into my bedroom and going through my stuff when I wasn&rsquo;t home. I kept my wedding dress in my bedroom so I was worried she would destroy it when I wasn&rsquo;t home one day (door didn&rsquo;t have a lock, couldn&rsquo;t afford to get one). I didn&rsquo;t get out and into a better situation (aka living with my husband) until very close to the wedding.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I (25F) had a friend named Marie (25F) that I cut off the day after my wedding last week. I had met Marie through a mutual friend a few years back. We lived in the same town and became good friends.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We would talk a lot, hang out, and even went on a trip together. She even called me her best friend. But ever since she acted the way she did at my wedding, I&#39;ve been seeing everything she ever did in a completely different light...</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I didn&rsquo;t really start to notice until I met and started dating my husband. He&rsquo;s a great guy who really wanted to like her, but he didn&rsquo;t. He was always nice to her whenever she was around, but he couldn&rsquo;t stand her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She was entitled, rude, and self-absorbed. She tokenized people of color. She always seemed to have some kind of justification for her sh*tty behavior. She always seemed to have some kind of complaint about her friends.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Things didn&rsquo;t really start to take a turn in our friendship until I got engaged. We decided we wanted to get married in another state so that my husband&rsquo;s family could be there.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Because of this, I didn&rsquo;t put any pressure on my friends to be there because I knew the flight would be pricey. However, she was insistent on going so that she could be a bridesmaid. However, I had no intention of asking. She pressured me into making her one.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Then, when I was trying to decide what to have my bridesmaids wear, she turned it into an entire discussion so that whatever was worn would be something she would like, even though what I wanted was to have something simple that would allow for my bridesmaids to all find something they liked but still maintain uniformity.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I eventually settled on everyone wearing a maxi dress in the same shade of green. She immediately took issue with the length of the dress because she didn&rsquo;t like it. I told her I wasn&rsquo;t changing it solely for her and even said if she didn&rsquo;t like it she didn&rsquo;t have to be in the bridal party. She finally gave in and found herself a dress.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I would also like to add, my parents were very hard to plan this wedding with. I was also in my last semester of nursing school while trying to plan all of this. So between being busy with school and work, I also had to get my parents to help plan because they were paying for it. This is relevant later in this story.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At my bridal shower, she tried to take the attention off me throughout all of it. even pulling me away to take pictures of her. Not with her. Of her. She also tried to make everyone else feel as if they weren&rsquo;t as good of friends with me as she was, even though there were people there I had known much longer who knew me better. I did not invite her to my bachelorette party because of how she acted. My wedding weekend finally came.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>The wedding day itself was beautiful! It was everything I had wanted! However, she arrived at the venue late when my other bridesmaids and I were almost done getting ready.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>One of them (Elise, 30f) was also doing my makeup. Marie tried to go through Elise&rsquo;s makeup bag and find a lip gloss without asking and when Elise told her she didn&rsquo;t have one, she quickly got upset. Other things like this kept happening.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Elise and another friend (Maddy, 26F) brought their friend (Leanne, 25f) who was in the middle of steaming my dress when Marie came over and demanded she stop to steam her dress.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>And then we started on pictures. The photographer did a lot of pictures of me and my bridesmaids. Marie kept on trying to make people switch places with her so she could be as close to the center as possible, she even complained to the photographer about being on the end in several pictures.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>We also did individual ones of me with every bridesmaid. When the photographer took pictures of me with Elise, she said that we had great chemistry in our pictures and jokingly said we must be soulmates. Marie did not take kindly to that comment.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After pictures were done Elise, Maddy, and Leanne went to get something to eat before the ceremony, mainly so they could get me a snack and something to drink. This will also be relevant here in a sec.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We went through with the ceremony, it was beautiful! After we walked out I ran to grab a comfier pair of shoes. While I was gone marie approached my husband and began to complain. She said she felt excluded from planning.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She complained about Elise, Maddy, and Leanne not inviting her to go get food (she had her mom with her for the record). She also called Elise a b*tch and said she got bad vibes from her. She said all of this with other people being able to hear her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My husband obviously told me all of this right after it happened. Obviously I was not happy, but I wanted to enjoy my day. Later in the night we had a few things planned such as toasts.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To avoid them going on too long we each asked one friend, one sibling, and one parent to each give one. I asked Elise to give one, it was heartfelt and both my husband and I shed a few tears. However, Marie was giving Elise the stink eye the entire time.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The next day I started to process everything she had done. I was angry. I decided to tell her I knew what she said to my husband. She denied everything and when I told her how many people heard her she tried to downplay it. I told her what she did was inappropriate and told her our friendship was done and blocked her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>The next morning someone that I knew was a friend of hers reached out to me and asked me if she was my Maid of Honor. This was obviously not true because I had asked my SIL to be my maid of honor. I found out that she had apparently gone around and told everyone she knew that she was.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This same girl also told me about how Marie had said awful things about me after I got engaged. The main complaint was how I had acted when my then fianc&eacute; and I went to a concert with her. It should be noted that she roped us into this concert when we were both financially struggling. She bought the tickets without talking to us about it first and then said we owed her $125 (stupid of us to say yes, I know-we paid her back very very piecemeal over time).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We went to the concert and my husband was in a separate section from us at the venue. He has epilepsy and felt like he was going to have a seizure during the show. this obviously made me really anxious and worried, and I spent the entire show worrying about him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She got mad at me for it and claimed I ruined the concert for her. However, she told people that i was complaining about having to sit with her instead of my husband. I explained this to the girl in my dms and she said that because of that she would not be associating with her after this.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This girl was obviously not my friend, just a means to have her ego stroked. But now she&rsquo;s blocked and gone from my life for good. I&rsquo;m trying to stop myself from getting angry so i can enjoy my honeymoon which is why I&#39;m here. She doesn&rsquo;t deserve anymore of my thoughts or energy than she&rsquo;s already gotten.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>What a journey, a wild ride, and overall turbulent tale this one was. Of course, the jury of wedding shamers was dying to weigh in here. Here&#39;s what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mesapholis/">Mesapholis</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;She complained to the photographer about always standing at the end&quot; - no girl, the photographer was not going to make that edit job harder on themselves, if you ask to remove her from every single photo you had with her that day, lol. They absolutely knew why they positioned her there.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/_uglybird/">_uglybird</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>That is the strongest case of an emotional vampire I&rsquo;ve ever read. So sorry that happened to you. You made the right call in the end.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/creatingmybliss/">creatingmybliss</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>We get angry when we see or feel an injustice, when something needs protecting. Your anger is valid! You did so much better than I would&rsquo;ve done by speaking your truth to her. Onwards and upwards.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/woahxmary/">woahxmary</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>My MOH was the exact same way. She was my childhood best friend and she constantly tried to put my other bridesmaids down and act like she was the superior friend. Among other things.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She even got mad when I didn&rsquo;t cry during her MOH speech&hellip;Which she was drunk and slurring during. I just cut her off as well. 1 year after my wedding. Toxic friendships are not worth it in the end, you did good to cut her off when you did!</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/becksby/">becksby</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>You&rsquo;ve successfully evicted a narcissist from your life. Congrats on your nuptials! Go enjoy your honeymoon!</p> </blockquote><h2>Good riddance to the energy vamp and congratulations to this couple...</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride reveals why she cut off bridesmaid/roommate the day after the wedding.

Bridesmaidzillas aren&#39;t as common in the wild woods of wedding wonderland, but that doesn&#39;t mean they don&#39;t exist...So, when a frustrated (yet relieved) bride decided to vent to the gloriously petty &quot;Wedding Shaming&quot; group of Reddit about her ex-friend and former bridesmaid, people were eager to hear the horror story.I cut off one of my bridesmaids the day after my wedding... We were roommates for a good portion of the things that happened. She also had no issue going into my bedroom and going through my stuff when I wasn&rsquo;t home. I kept my wedding dress in my bedroom so I was worried she would destroy it when I wasn&rsquo;t home one day (door didn&rsquo;t have a lock, couldn&rsquo;t afford to get one). I didn&rsquo;t get out and into a better situation (aka living with my husband) until very close to the wedding.   I (25F) had a friend named Marie (25F) that I cut off the day after my wedding last week. I had met Marie through a mutual friend a few years back. We lived in the same town and became good friends.  We would talk a lot, hang out, and even went on a trip together. She even called me her best friend. But ever since she acted the way she did at my wedding, I&#39;ve been seeing everything she ever did in a completely different light...  I didn&rsquo;t really start to notice until I met and started dating my husband. He&rsquo;s a great guy who really wanted to like her, but he didn&rsquo;t. He was always nice to her whenever she was around, but he couldn&rsquo;t stand her.  She was entitled, rude, and self-absorbed. She tokenized people of color. She always seemed to have some kind of justification for her sh*tty behavior. She always seemed to have some kind of complaint about her friends.  Things didn&rsquo;t really start to take a turn in our friendship until I got engaged. We decided we wanted to get married in another state so that my husband&rsquo;s family could be there.  Because of this, I didn&rsquo;t put any pressure on my friends to be there because I knew the flight would be pricey. However, she was insistent on going so that she could be a bridesmaid. However, I had no intention of asking. She pressured me into making her one.  Then, when I was trying to decide what to have my bridesmaids wear, she turned it into an entire discussion so that whatever was worn would be something she would like, even though what I wanted was to have something simple that would allow for my bridesmaids to all find something they liked but still maintain uniformity.  I eventually settled on everyone wearing a maxi dress in the same shade of green. She immediately took issue with the length of the dress because she didn&rsquo;t like it. I told her I wasn&rsquo;t changing it solely for her and even said if she didn&rsquo;t like it she didn&rsquo;t have to be in the bridal party. She finally gave in and found herself a dress.  I would also like to add, my parents were very hard to plan this wedding with. I was also in my last semester of nursing school while trying to plan all of this. So between being busy with school and work, I also had to get my parents to help plan because they were paying for it. This is relevant later in this story.  At my bridal shower, she tried to take the attention off me throughout all of it. even pulling me away to take pictures of her. Not with her. Of her. She also tried to make everyone else feel as if they weren&rsquo;t as good of friends with me as she was, even though there were people there I had known much longer who knew me better. I did not invite her to my bachelorette party because of how she acted. My wedding weekend finally came.  The wedding day itself was beautiful! It was everything I had wanted! However, she arrived at the venue late when my other bridesmaids and I were almost done getting ready.  One of them (Elise, 30f) was also doing my makeup. Marie tried to go through Elise&rsquo;s makeup bag and find a lip gloss without asking and when Elise told her she didn&rsquo;t have one, she quickly got upset. Other things like this kept happening.  Elise and another friend (Maddy, 26F) brought their friend (Leanne, 25f) who was in the middle of steaming my dress when Marie came over and demanded she stop to steam her dress.  And then we started on pictures. The photographer did a lot of pictures of me and my bridesmaids. Marie kept on trying to make people switch places with her so she could be as close to the center as possible, she even complained to the photographer about being on the end in several pictures.   We also did individual ones of me with every bridesmaid. When the photographer took pictures of me with Elise, she said that we had great chemistry in our pictures and jokingly said we must be soulmates. Marie did not take kindly to that comment.  After pictures were done Elise, Maddy, and Leanne went to get something to eat before the ceremony, mainly so they could get me a snack and something to drink. This will also be relevant here in a sec.  We went through with the ceremony, it was beautiful! After we walked out I ran to grab a comfier pair of shoes. While I was gone marie approached my husband and began to complain. She said she felt excluded from planning.  She complained about Elise, Maddy, and Leanne not inviting her to go get food (she had her mom with her for the record). She also called Elise a b*tch and said she got bad vibes from her. She said all of this with other people being able to hear her.  My husband obviously told me all of this right after it happened. Obviously I was not happy, but I wanted to enjoy my day. Later in the night we had a few things planned such as toasts.  To avoid them going on too long we each asked one friend, one sibling, and one parent to each give one. I asked Elise to give one, it was heartfelt and both my husband and I shed a few tears. However, Marie was giving Elise the stink eye the entire time.  The next day I started to process everything she had done. I was angry. I decided to tell her I knew what she said to my husband. She denied everything and when I told her how many people heard her she tried to downplay it. I told her what she did was inappropriate and told her our friendship was done and blocked her.  The next morning someone that I knew was a friend of hers reached out to me and asked me if she was my Maid of Honor. This was obviously not true because I had asked my SIL to be my maid of honor. I found out that she had apparently gone around and told everyone she knew that she was.  This same girl also told me about how Marie had said awful things about me after I got engaged. The main complaint was how I had acted when my then fianc&eacute; and I went to a concert with her. It should be noted that she roped us into this concert when we were both financially struggling. She bought the tickets without talking to us about it first and then said we owed her $125 (stupid of us to say yes, I know-we paid her back very very piecemeal over time).  We went to the concert and my husband was in a separate section from us at the venue. He has epilepsy and felt like he was going to have a seizure during the show. this obviously made me really anxious and worried, and I spent the entire show worrying about him.  She got mad at me for it and claimed I ruined the concert for her. However, she told people that i was complaining about having to sit with her instead of my husband. I explained this to the girl in my dms and she said that because of that she would not be associating with her after this.  This girl was obviously not my friend, just a means to have her ego stroked. But now she&rsquo;s blocked and gone from my life for good. I&rsquo;m trying to stop myself from getting angry so i can enjoy my honeymoon which is why I&#39;m here. She doesn&rsquo;t deserve anymore of my thoughts or energy than she&rsquo;s already gotten.  What a journey, a wild ride, and overall turbulent tale this one was. Of course, the jury of wedding shamers was dying to weigh in here. Here&#39;s what people had to say:Mesapholis said: &quot;She complained to the photographer about always standing at the end&quot; - no girl, the photographer was not going to make that edit job harder on themselves, if you ask to remove her from every single photo you had with her that day, lol. They absolutely knew why they positioned her there. _uglybird said: That is the strongest case of an emotional vampire I&rsquo;ve ever read. So sorry that happened to you. You made the right call in the end. creatingmybliss said: We get angry when we see or feel an injustice, when something needs protecting. Your anger is valid! You did so much better than I would&rsquo;ve done by speaking your truth to her. Onwards and upwards. woahxmary said: My MOH was the exact same way. She was my childhood best friend and she constantly tried to put my other bridesmaids down and act like she was the superior friend. Among other things.  She even got mad when I didn&rsquo;t cry during her MOH speech&hellip;Which she was drunk and slurring during. I just cut her off as well. 1 year after my wedding. Toxic friendships are not worth it in the end, you did good to cut her off when you did! becksby said: You&rsquo;ve successfully evicted a narcissist from your life. Congrats on your nuptials! Go enjoy your honeymoon! Good riddance to the energy vamp and congratulations to this couple...

Bridesmaidzillas aren&#39;t as common in the wild woods of wedding wonderland, but that doesn&#39;t mean they don&#39;t exist...  So, when a frustrated (yet relieved) bride decided to vent to the gloriously petty &quot;Wedding...