Bride wants to ban woman she bullied from wedding; she's not an 'ugly duckling' now.
'WIBTA for not wanting a woman I used to bully at my wedding?'
I wasn't a great person in high school. My friends and I had our own little click and we weren't nice to some of our classmates. I tried going to college but it wasn't for me. I got a job at a car dealership and eventually started selling cars. I'm pretty good at it so I make a good living.
My younger brother did great in university and he has a pretty good future ahead of him.
After he graduated he started working in the city and there is a club there for graduates from his university. He ran into a girl that I wasn't very nice to in high school. She is a couple of years older than him but they started dating. I don't think she realized he was my brother. He likes that they grew up in the same town.
They are at the meeting the family stage and he brought her home for Christmas. My parents had sold their home after we all moved out so they didn't live in the same town anymore.
She recognized me right away. I didn't recognize her. I guess she got past the ugly duckling part of growing up. She is very physically attractive. She is also doing well in life.
She didn't say anything until I approached her after dinner. She asked if I honestly couldn't remember her. I didn't. Until she reminded me of the stuff I used to do to her. I felt sick to my stomach. I immediately apologized for everything and said that I had been an asshole kid and that I had grown up since then. She said that she was glad and that she accepted my apology.
I sent out my wedding invitations recently and my brother RSVP'd with his plus one. I asked him who he was bringing. He said that he was bringing his girlfriend. The girl from Christmas. So I guess she never mentioned me.
I kind of want to ask him not to bring her. A lot of my old friends will be at the wedding and I don't want any thing to happen. She forgave me but I still think it is kind of shady that she never brought up our past to my brother. Would it be an asshole move if I asked him not to bring her to my wedding?
Here's what people had to say:
YTA. You bullied her but she's the shady one?
Significant_Win6431 writes:
YTA. You don't sound like you've grown into as much of a better person since high-school as you credit yourself with. 'Ugly duckling phase' you're still in your 'mean girls phase'. Let the last be the past.
sakuratee writes:
Also, if she’s “physically attractive” now and doing well financially (assuming.. university graduate, living in the “city” etc..) it seems the tables have turned a bit.. I have a feeling OP is more hurt their prey has blossomed while they plateaued.
zigwaldo writes:
Sucks to peak in high school.
ReenMo writes:
Really OP should be the one to tell his own brother about being a bully. YTA