My fiancé and I are getting married. He comes from a conservative family and his mom has been up in the wedding planning posing as 'supervisor' to oversee and to 'catch & elminate' anything that could be seen as 'offensive'.
After the wedding dress fiasco (I was told to get a dress that wasn't showing too much 'skin'...came the makeup issue. I showed my fiancé some looks I wanted to choose from and he gasped and said his mom would have a stroke if she saw 'these.'
I in frustration asked what should I do and next thing I knew but did not expect was for her to send me 'looks' of models with almost no makeup or light makeup. No eyeshadow, no glowy lipstick just...plain look
I refused to choose from any of her suggestions and we had an argument. My fiancé came home and argued about how I'm planning on humiliating him and family at the wedding by wanting to look like a...'clown' and make a joke out of BOTH of us.
I snapped and called him delusional to think I'll let his mom get a say in what makeup I should wear since it's my face. He said there's no such thing as 'mine' and 'yours' in marriage and that I'm clearly too 'immature' for it.
He has been avoiding me while saying 'you know why I'm avoiding you...' and his mom sent a text about how she has my best interest at heart. AITA?
Here's what people had to say:
Info: why are you two getting married? You don't seem to be on the same page about anything?
Lth35467 OP responded:
The wedding wasn't supposed to happen anytime soon but since I found out I was pregnant, his parents wanted us to get married as soon as possible. I'm 24F and he's 27M.
DO NOT compound and accident with a BAD DECISION! It is better to be a single mom, than a single divorced Mom. He is NOT behaving like a man!
NTA. Do not marry this person. Do not marry this person. Do NOT marry this person. Unless you really wanna marry his mom, because that's whose calling all the shots here. But seriously. Don't marry someone who would call you a clown and an embarrassment. You deserve better.
BIG RED FLAG!
Abort mission, I repeat, abort mission
Him letting his mother call the shots is one strike. Him apparently agreeing with his mother, and being more concerned with this woman he supposedly loves 'humiliating' HIS FAMILY at her wedding is... strike two. Actually calling her a clown? STRIKE THREE.
Do.Not.Marry.This.Clown. Ever, under any circumstances. Love yourself enough to recognize abuse. This is 100% the start of a very bad story. You will regret the ending. NTA