Weddings

<h2>There&#39;s a very fine line between asking family members and friends to use their skills and talents to help cut some costs for the wedding of your dreams and exploiting people you love...</h2><p>If you have to guilt your sibling into giving you a 5-star wedding catering menu for free, it&#39;s not exactly a &quot;gift.&quot; Just because your cousin happens to be a bartender doesn&#39;t mean she wants to work an unpaid shift full of specialty couples mojitos on your wedding day. So, when a frustrated chef&#39;s rant ended up on the gloriously petty and judgmental <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/zxfxdy/choosing_beggar_brother_demands_thousands_of/" target="_blank">&quot;Wedding Shaming&quot;</a> group of Reddit, people were eager to roast this entitled groom.</p><h2>Choosing beggar brother demands thousands of dollars of catered food for wedding...</h2><blockquote> <p>My POS brother dropped a bomb on us on Christmas that he was finally marrying his long-time girlfriend. Since he lost all of his inheritance (mostly stocks we all received when we turned 18) on cryptocurrency, he is broke, so he is having everyone in the family cover certain expenses.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Since I worked for years in fancy restaurants, including as a sous for a James Beard award-winning chef, I get to cover the meal. After pressure from my parents, I relented. This morning he called to tell me what he wanted.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Attendees = 250 invites, all with a plus one allowed</p> <p>Cocktail hour, with tray passed hors d&#39;oeuvres, he&#39;s still working on what that will entail</p> <p>Attendees = 250 invites, all with a plus one allowed</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Cocktail hour, with tray passed hors d&#39;oeuvres, he&#39;s still working on what that will entail</p> <p>Main course (plated, not buffet style):</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Beef dish - Filet mignon, served with Yorkshire pudding and roasted asparagus</p> <p>Poultry dish - Red current glazed duck breast, with fondant potatoes and grilled brussels sprouts</p> <p>Veg dish - Chickpea bolognese, with cauliflower pasta and mushroom gratin</p> <p>Dessert - a collection of choux pastries, other pastries, and mini cheesecakes</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To make matters worse, the kitchen rental at the venue is $1,000, which includes the cleaning fee, but not any cookware or utensils. I&#39;ll have to pay for additional cooks, servers, bartenders, bussing staff, and the serving ware.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I am beyond livid. More frustrating is my parents have always babied him, and so when I called to let them know that I wasn&#39;t going to do it, not if he&#39;s going to be demanding all this when getting it for free, I was told that I should call up my restaurant contacts and see if they would be willing to donate their time or the ingredients.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Later, they updated the post to include:</h2><blockquote> <p>My parents had a heart-to-heart with him, after discovering that he&#39;s been taking money from other relatives as well for a few years. They gave him an option of not taking any money for the wedding, and they would pay for courses so he would learn how to be more responsible with his money, or they put an undisclosed amount of money in an account and hire a wedding planner who can use the money from that account, but they would cut off all contact with him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>There was apparently a lot of crying on both sides, but ultimately he decided to take the cash. We were told to no longer help him out financially, and (they recommended) not contacting him either. Is there a word for feeling happy, sad, relieved, and disappointed, all at the same time?</p> </blockquote><h2>Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this family catering drama. Here&#39;s what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/linseygar83/">linseygar83</a> said:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Who the heck in this economy with cost of living increases is going to donate free time and food for this entitled prick just decline the invitation.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Literally_-_Hitler/">Literally_-_Hitler</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>Counter offer a 25 dollar McDonald&#39;s gift card.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Naftoor/">Naftoor</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>&ldquo;Why yes, our restaurant would LOVE to donate multiple thousands in ingredients, equipment and man hours. We find exposure is really the best payment plan. We also accept thoughts and prayers.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MilkshakeMolly/">MilkshakeMolly</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>Why are you all going along with this? He can&#39;t afford a 250 person wedding. Trip to the courthouse maybe. I would relish the chance to tell him to pound sand on this, your parents also.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tuppence07/">tuppence07</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>So he has decided that because he doesn&#39;t have his inheritance anymore he is going to use yours. Back out now. If he wants this sort of wedding HE pays for it.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/libulatimmeh/">libulatimmeh</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>Yeah, NO. To everything. Hire a pizza truck for a couple of hours and tell him to f*ck the f*cking f*ck off with those absurd demands.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it...</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this chef doesn&#39;t have to cater (literally or metaphorically to their brother), but hopefully they can attempt to repair the relationship in the future. Who doesn&#39;t love wedding pizza?</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

'Choosing Beggar' Groom demands thousands of dollars in free wedding food.

There&#39;s a very fine line between asking family members and friends to use their skills and talents to help cut some costs for the wedding of your dreams and exploiting people you love...If you have to guilt your sibling into giving you a 5-star wedding catering menu for free, it&#39;s not exactly a &quot;gift.&quot; Just because your cousin happens to be a bartender doesn&#39;t mean she wants to work an unpaid shift full of specialty couples mojitos on your wedding day. So, when a frustrated chef&#39;s rant ended up on the gloriously petty and judgmental &quot;Wedding Shaming&quot; group of Reddit, people were eager to roast this entitled groom.Choosing beggar brother demands thousands of dollars of catered food for wedding... My POS brother dropped a bomb on us on Christmas that he was finally marrying his long-time girlfriend. Since he lost all of his inheritance (mostly stocks we all received when we turned 18) on cryptocurrency, he is broke, so he is having everyone in the family cover certain expenses.  Since I worked for years in fancy restaurants, including as a sous for a James Beard award-winning chef, I get to cover the meal. After pressure from my parents, I relented. This morning he called to tell me what he wanted.  Attendees = 250 invites, all with a plus one allowed Cocktail hour, with tray passed hors d&#39;oeuvres, he&#39;s still working on what that will entail Attendees = 250 invites, all with a plus one allowed  Cocktail hour, with tray passed hors d&#39;oeuvres, he&#39;s still working on what that will entail Main course (plated, not buffet style):  Beef dish - Filet mignon, served with Yorkshire pudding and roasted asparagus Poultry dish - Red current glazed duck breast, with fondant potatoes and grilled brussels sprouts Veg dish - Chickpea bolognese, with cauliflower pasta and mushroom gratin Dessert - a collection of choux pastries, other pastries, and mini cheesecakes  To make matters worse, the kitchen rental at the venue is $1,000, which includes the cleaning fee, but not any cookware or utensils. I&#39;ll have to pay for additional cooks, servers, bartenders, bussing staff, and the serving ware.  I am beyond livid. More frustrating is my parents have always babied him, and so when I called to let them know that I wasn&#39;t going to do it, not if he&#39;s going to be demanding all this when getting it for free, I was told that I should call up my restaurant contacts and see if they would be willing to donate their time or the ingredients. Later, they updated the post to include: My parents had a heart-to-heart with him, after discovering that he&#39;s been taking money from other relatives as well for a few years. They gave him an option of not taking any money for the wedding, and they would pay for courses so he would learn how to be more responsible with his money, or they put an undisclosed amount of money in an account and hire a wedding planner who can use the money from that account, but they would cut off all contact with him.  There was apparently a lot of crying on both sides, but ultimately he decided to take the cash. We were told to no longer help him out financially, and (they recommended) not contacting him either. Is there a word for feeling happy, sad, relieved, and disappointed, all at the same time? Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this family catering drama. Here&#39;s what people had to say:linseygar83 said: Who the heck in this economy with cost of living increases is going to donate free time and food for this entitled prick just decline the invitation. Literally_-_Hitler said: Counter offer a 25 dollar McDonald&#39;s gift card. Naftoor said: &ldquo;Why yes, our restaurant would LOVE to donate multiple thousands in ingredients, equipment and man hours. We find exposure is really the best payment plan. We also accept thoughts and prayers.&quot; MilkshakeMolly said: Why are you all going along with this? He can&#39;t afford a 250 person wedding. Trip to the courthouse maybe. I would relish the chance to tell him to pound sand on this, your parents also. tuppence07 said: So he has decided that because he doesn&#39;t have his inheritance anymore he is going to use yours. Back out now. If he wants this sort of wedding HE pays for it. libulatimmeh said: Yeah, NO. To everything. Hire a pizza truck for a couple of hours and tell him to f*ck the f*cking f*ck off with those absurd demands. So, there you have it...Everyone agreed unanimously here that this chef doesn&#39;t have to cater (literally or metaphorically to their brother), but hopefully they can attempt to repair the relationship in the future. Who doesn&#39;t love wedding pizza?

There&#39;s a very fine line between asking family members and friends to use their skills and talents to help cut some costs for the wedding of your dreams and exploiting people you love...  If you have to guilt your sibling into giving...