Cousin-of-the-bride invites kids to child-free wedding, demands menu, assigns roles.
Letting your kids crash a child-free wedding is not only incredibly rude to the couple getting married, but also to the staff who now has to scramble to find a box of mac-and-cheese and high chairs...
What about when you decide that your children should also have roles in the wedding they're not invited to, though? So, when a conflicted bride decided to vent to the fabulously petty and brutal 'Wedding Shaming' group of Reddit about her boldly entitled cousin, the jury of shamers was eager to pile on.
Cousin tries to self-invite her family to my wedding and requests their own food and that her kids be in the wedding...
Shaming my cousin for my upcoming wedding. I'm getting married in October…initially we were concerned with guest lists and being able to invite our whole families (between both our families we were at 125 people already). My mom had told my Aunts and Uncles that cousins may not all be invited, and definitely no kids of our cousins will be invited.
Cue last weekend- one of my cousins who I havent seen or really talked to in 5+ years messages me to ask when my wedding date is so they can block off work bc they want to also use my wedding to kick off a vacation week for their kids and need to begin planning so they can save money.
She also says, that if i invite one of her sisters (who she is estranged from) i need to make sure they are seated across the room as far as possible from her, preferably out of line of site.
But I really should consider not inviting her sister anyways bc she has mental health and PTSD issues so will probably just waste my money by no-showing last minute or taking her food and eating it in her hotel room alone.
She then goes on to say she would love her kids to be the flower girls and ring bearers and already has the perfect outfits for them in mind (my fiance and me will be having our nieces and nephews filling these roles).
Also her kids want chicken tenders, pasta with butter, cheese fries, and pepperoni pizza with root beer for dinner, and chocolate soft serve ice cream with rainbow sprinkles for dessert. So make sure I order that for them.
GUYS THE ENTITLEMENT!!! (I was going to invite her and her husband anyways), but she said all of this before even knowing if shes invited!!!! I told her the date but said we weren’t sure on our guest lists yet with family bc of costs, and if we do invite cousins thay their kids aren’t allowed. Now I'm tempted to delay her save the date a week or two so she sees her sisters get the first lol.
She will also be sitting with her entire family (estranged sister and all) per my seating charts. (She only doesn’t like her sister bc she feels her parents are wasting her possible inheritance money on paying for her sisters therapists and treatment programs—-my aunt and uncle are quite well off).
And I will be making it clear no kids—-this is a child free wedding with the exception of our immediate nieces and nephews. If she tries to bring kids they will not be allowed in. But seriously, im still in awe at the entitlement to assume she’s invited and the list of demands.
Of course, the jury of wedding shamers was eager to weigh in on this mess. Here's what people had to say...
TasteMyLightning122 said:
I’d be hesitant to invite her at all after that. She seems the type to show up with her kids regardless, and also spend the whole time complaining about things.
nerdyfitgrl said:
How embarrassing for her. This woman would not be invited to my wedding after this.
PaintedLady1 said:
Unless you’re getting married at a TGI Fridays, I think cheese fries and plain pasta won’t be on the menu? Imagine walking around in your best clothes with sticky cheese fingers. Ma’am this isn’t a birthday party.
bingbobadeggins said:
I find it particularly bizarre that she was expecting her children whom you probably barely know would be in your wedding party even though you have immediate nieces and nephews. Some people are just so insular and self absorbed they just cannot look beyond themselves. Everything is about them. Unbelievable.
VardaofStars said
Has this woman ever attended a wedding before?? The audacity of that dinner order for her kids alone is insane, but then to demand her kids be in the wedding all while ASSUMING they’re invited at all…wow. Honestly, they sound like drama and a headache, I just wouldn’t invite them.