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Destination wedding organizes guest list by 'people who can afford to come;' AITA?

Destination wedding organizes guest list by 'people who can afford to come;' AITA?


Attending a local wedding is often an expensive endeavor between the outfit, the gift, and all the other wedding-related events, but fancy destination weddings aren't always the 'you can make it your own vacation' trips couples have in mind...

Traveling to an expensive beach resort to celebrate a friend or family member's wedding is a fun idea in theory, but the bills can severely add up. So, when a conflicted soon-to-be newlywed decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not they should organize their guest list according to income, internet strangers and wedding shamers everywhere were eager to help.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not inviting my poorer relatives to my wedding for a good reason?

I am getting married in June. I sent out my invitations in January to give everyone time to RSVP.

We are having a destination wedding at a great resort in the Dominican Republic.

Our invitations were expensive. And we thought it was a good place to economize if we only sent invitations to people who could afford to come.

Right now my mom says she is very disappointed with me. I've upset so many people. My mom says that I was rude to judge people by their income.

I didn't judge anyone. I just picked the people I thought could afford to go. AITA?

Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this destination wedding drama. Here's what people had to say:

Buck_Slamchest said:

At the time my (former) best friend got married, he'd apparently decided on a destination wedding in Nepal, as his wife to be was Nepalese.

I'd known him for some 30 years at this point so it was just assumed that I'd be the best man whenever the day came. I found out that not only was I not the best man but that I wasn't invited to the wedding either because I was also perceived as 'poor.' So yes, YTA (You're the As*hole). Big time.

Willing-Pangolin9108 said:

“I didn’t judge anyone” actually that’s exactly what you did YTA.

Known_Nerve2043 said:

YTA - if you don’t want to invite those people to your wedding that’s fine - but this is a ridiculous cost cutting measure and it’s very rude to assume their ability to pay on their behalf. You could have easily sent an email invitation or a cheaper invite and then allowed them to decide for themselves.

SlightMammoth1949 said:

I think YTA. I’m still trying to get my mind around how is it that you’re affording a destination wedding and saying invites are expensive.

diminishingpatience said:

YTA. The irony of not being able to afford expensive invitations for people who you think would not be able to afford to go to your expensive wedding.

So, there you have it!

Everyone agreed unanimously here that this couple would be completely wrong to invite guests based on their income as attending the wedding should be a choice that's left up to the guests. It's one thing to have a destination wedding, but do the invitations also need to break the bank? With this behavior, they'll be lucky if anyone is willing to take the trip...

Sources: Reddit
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