Weddings

<h2>It&#39;s not truly a wedding without a tiny bit of family drama after one too many signature cocktails, but what do you do when security needs to escort some of your guests off the dance floor?</h2><p>So, when a conflicted newlywed decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about an unearthed fight that coincidentally happened to bubble over at their wedding reception, beautifully judgmental strangers everywhere were eager to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11nl8lf/aita_for_telling_my_aunt_and_uncle_they_had_no/" target="_blank">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for telling my aunt and uncle they had no right to start a family argument at my wedding?</h2><blockquote> <p>I got married three weeks ago and my day ended up spoiled by my family when an argument erupted during the reception that led to four people being kicked out/leaving and a whole bunch of family drama aired for everyone to hear.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>BG, for those who will ask what it was about: I have two uncles and one aunt on my mom&#39;s side. My mom&#39;s oldest brother is Liam and he has been widowered for almost 25 years now. She was sick briefly and passed quickly and left him and their son, my cousin Ben behind. Ben is 32 and lost his mom when he was only 7.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>At some point a year or two after Liam&#39;s wife passed away, Ben had mentioned maybe dating again to his siblings and then a few weeks later had told them he changed his mind and when asked, he said Ben didn&#39;t want him to date and replace his mom and he didn&#39;t want to upset his son or force a new person on him if he wanted things to stay the same.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He said it would be more trouble than it was worth (exact quote as told to me by mom a couple of years ago). My aunt and other uncle were furious that Ben would say that to Liam and that Liam would swear off dating for a child. But Liam insisted he was fine.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Liam has never been on a single date or had any kind of romantic relationship with anyone since his wife died. There are times he seems lonely, but he and Ben are very close and he spends time with his grandkids a lot also.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Apparently my aunt and other uncle never ever got over the fact Ben never gave his dad permission to date and the fact he knows Liam hasn&#39;t dated and still doesn&#39;t encourage it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This all bubbled over at my wedding. I had no idea the anger was still so strong. But while Ben and his wife were dancing, and Liam was dancing with his grandkids, my aunt and other uncle went over to confront Ben and started yelling and calling him selfish.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>In the space of about twenty minutes everyone in attendance knew an 8/9 year old Ben had asked his dad not to date, and that Liam listened, and had never dated since his wife died. Security had to step in. Ben, his wife, their kids and Liam all left and my aunt and uncle were kicked out.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was angry. The whole thing caused such a disruption and shifted the whole focus away from the party. I called my aunt a few days later and told her she needed to apologize and she said she couldn&#39;t believe I would ask for one and wasn&#39;t on their side.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Then three days ago, I saw her and my uncle and told them they had no right to start an argument at my wedding and should be ashamed of themselves. They said I should care enough about Liam to stand by them and be willing to let my wedding take the place of when it would happen. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Of course, the jury of internet strangers couldn&#39;t get enough of this family wedding war. Here&#39;s what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/miafrunt/">miafrunt</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>Totally NTA Ben really shouldn&rsquo;t have any say now that he&rsquo;s 32. Liam should be able to do whatever he wants to now. Your family members shouldn&rsquo;t have brought that up at your wedding. That was very disrespectful to you. Those people probably were planning on doing this and wanted to cause a stink. They should really apologize.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/katatak121/">katatak121</a> said:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. That honor goes to anyone who would stir up decades-old happenings that aren&#39;t even any of their business, ie, your aunt. The fact that she did it at your wedding makes it even worse. Good luck getting an apology out of her...I wouldn&#39;t be surprised if she&#39;s the type of person who is always right, so never needs to apologize.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/diminishingpatience/">diminishingpatience</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Regardless of the background, they must have had plenty of opportunities over the years to harass Ben but they chose your wedding to do it. It is beyond my imagination to come up with any reasons why they would be so invested in the idea of Liam dating, or why they would be angry because he was trying to do the best by his son.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/megzy0828/">megzy0828</a> said:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA- question for you OP was this the first time they were seeing Ben in over the 25 years since it happened? Sorry it happened at your wedding that&rsquo;s not cool of them. I&rsquo;m just curious as to why they haven&rsquo;t said anything in the whole time since it happened and was this the first opportunity for them to attack Ben for it. Not that their behavior was anyways excusable.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Charming-Argument693/">Charming-Argument693</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Aunt could have waited until after the party to confront Ben, doing so on the dance floor was disrespectful. Not only to the bride and groom, but to Liam too, who now has had details of his private life spilled for an entire wedding party to hear. I&#39;m guessing there were several people there who he didn&#39;t know as well.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/xXx_TheWolfKing_xXx/">xXx_TheWolfKing_xXx</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>Definitely NTA. They had no right to get involved in that in the first place let alone at your wedding.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Radiant_Composer_454/">Radiant_Composer_454</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your Aunt and Uncle were bang out of order brining this up. Ultimately Liam&rsquo;s dating life isn&rsquo;t their issue and they&rsquo;ve got no right bringing it up with him ever, let alone at YOUR WEDDING.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it...</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this newlywed wasn&#39;t at all wrong to confront their family about causing a scene and disrupting a very expensive and important day. Everyone involved should apologize and send some serious cash toward the honeymoon. Good luck at the next family holiday, team.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Family members 'spoil' wedding with old drama, 'you should be ashamed,' AITA?

It&#39;s not truly a wedding without a tiny bit of family drama after one too many signature cocktails, but what do you do when security needs to escort some of your guests off the dance floor?So, when a conflicted newlywed decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about an unearthed fight that coincidentally happened to bubble over at their wedding reception, beautifully judgmental strangers everywhere were eager to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for telling my aunt and uncle they had no right to start a family argument at my wedding? I got married three weeks ago and my day ended up spoiled by my family when an argument erupted during the reception that led to four people being kicked out/leaving and a whole bunch of family drama aired for everyone to hear.  BG, for those who will ask what it was about: I have two uncles and one aunt on my mom&#39;s side. My mom&#39;s oldest brother is Liam and he has been widowered for almost 25 years now. She was sick briefly and passed quickly and left him and their son, my cousin Ben behind. Ben is 32 and lost his mom when he was only 7.  At some point a year or two after Liam&#39;s wife passed away, Ben had mentioned maybe dating again to his siblings and then a few weeks later had told them he changed his mind and when asked, he said Ben didn&#39;t want him to date and replace his mom and he didn&#39;t want to upset his son or force a new person on him if he wanted things to stay the same.  He said it would be more trouble than it was worth (exact quote as told to me by mom a couple of years ago). My aunt and other uncle were furious that Ben would say that to Liam and that Liam would swear off dating for a child. But Liam insisted he was fine.  Liam has never been on a single date or had any kind of romantic relationship with anyone since his wife died. There are times he seems lonely, but he and Ben are very close and he spends time with his grandkids a lot also.  Apparently my aunt and other uncle never ever got over the fact Ben never gave his dad permission to date and the fact he knows Liam hasn&#39;t dated and still doesn&#39;t encourage it.  This all bubbled over at my wedding. I had no idea the anger was still so strong. But while Ben and his wife were dancing, and Liam was dancing with his grandkids, my aunt and other uncle went over to confront Ben and started yelling and calling him selfish.  In the space of about twenty minutes everyone in attendance knew an 8/9 year old Ben had asked his dad not to date, and that Liam listened, and had never dated since his wife died. Security had to step in. Ben, his wife, their kids and Liam all left and my aunt and uncle were kicked out.  I was angry. The whole thing caused such a disruption and shifted the whole focus away from the party. I called my aunt a few days later and told her she needed to apologize and she said she couldn&#39;t believe I would ask for one and wasn&#39;t on their side.  Then three days ago, I saw her and my uncle and told them they had no right to start an argument at my wedding and should be ashamed of themselves. They said I should care enough about Liam to stand by them and be willing to let my wedding take the place of when it would happen. AITA? Of course, the jury of internet strangers couldn&#39;t get enough of this family wedding war. Here&#39;s what people had to say:miafrunt said: Totally NTA Ben really shouldn&rsquo;t have any say now that he&rsquo;s 32. Liam should be able to do whatever he wants to now. Your family members shouldn&rsquo;t have brought that up at your wedding. That was very disrespectful to you. Those people probably were planning on doing this and wanted to cause a stink. They should really apologize. katatak121 said: NTA. That honor goes to anyone who would stir up decades-old happenings that aren&#39;t even any of their business, ie, your aunt. The fact that she did it at your wedding makes it even worse. Good luck getting an apology out of her...I wouldn&#39;t be surprised if she&#39;s the type of person who is always right, so never needs to apologize. diminishingpatience said: NTA. Regardless of the background, they must have had plenty of opportunities over the years to harass Ben but they chose your wedding to do it. It is beyond my imagination to come up with any reasons why they would be so invested in the idea of Liam dating, or why they would be angry because he was trying to do the best by his son. megzy0828 said: NTA- question for you OP was this the first time they were seeing Ben in over the 25 years since it happened? Sorry it happened at your wedding that&rsquo;s not cool of them. I&rsquo;m just curious as to why they haven&rsquo;t said anything in the whole time since it happened and was this the first opportunity for them to attack Ben for it. Not that their behavior was anyways excusable. Charming-Argument693 said: NTA. Aunt could have waited until after the party to confront Ben, doing so on the dance floor was disrespectful. Not only to the bride and groom, but to Liam too, who now has had details of his private life spilled for an entire wedding party to hear. I&#39;m guessing there were several people there who he didn&#39;t know as well. xXx_TheWolfKing_xXx said: Definitely NTA. They had no right to get involved in that in the first place let alone at your wedding. Radiant_Composer_454 said: NTA. Your Aunt and Uncle were bang out of order brining this up. Ultimately Liam&rsquo;s dating life isn&rsquo;t their issue and they&rsquo;ve got no right bringing it up with him ever, let alone at YOUR WEDDING. So, there you have it...Everyone agreed unanimously here that this newlywed wasn&#39;t at all wrong to confront their family about causing a scene and disrupting a very expensive and important day. Everyone involved should apologize and send some serious cash toward the honeymoon. Good luck at the next family holiday, team.

It&#39;s not truly a wedding without a tiny bit of family drama after one too many signature cocktails, but what do you do when security needs to escort some of your guests off the dance floor?  So, when a conflicted newlywed decided to...