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Guest allows 'picky eater' son to bring fast food to wedding with buffet; AITA?

Guest allows 'picky eater' son to bring fast food to wedding with buffet; AITA?


Who doesn't want their expensive, fancy wedding food served with a side of leftover fast food french fries from the college kid who can't stomach a vegetable?

Kids are understandably picky eaters which is why many couples settle on child-free weddings and dodge a separate menu of buttered noodles and unseasoned chicken fingers. A 22-year-old and his parent, however, are old enough to know better. So, when a conflicted parent decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about their son's behavior at a recent family wedding, people were eager to help deem a verdict.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for letting my son get fast food and bring it into a wedding reception?

My son (22m) is a picky eater. My cousin was getting married and had a lovely reception with a nice buffet. “Johnny” wasn’t a fan of what was served so I let him leave and get some food. Word spread amongst our family where he was going and a few people asked him to bring things back so he did.

We are at a table near the dance floor and you could probably smell it there but nobody in our immediate family had a chance problem (even the bride and groom).

Apparently the venue and the family of the bride were appalled and I don’t understand why. It was a great party but he wanted something different and other people did too. So AITA?

Later, they edited the post to include:

Edit: he’s 22 years old and in college. He has no medical issues; he just has a limited palate.

When I said “let” I meant, let him take my car since we all rode together.

Further edit: the food was served buffet style: a nice soup, salad, tenderloin, bbq beef, pasta, a few other selections. It was actually really good for wedding food.

Everyone else who partook in the fast food did so because, well, it was there and tasted good. They didn’t have a problem with the venue's food.

Also, as some people said, one or two chicken bones did end up in the floor in the venue. That was unfortunate.

Of course, the jury of internet strangers and wedding etiquette professors was ready to weigh in on this fast food fiasco. Here's what people had to say:

sandiercy said:

YTA (You're the As*hole) for sure, you should have arranged something beforehand instead of doing it like this. Oh, and stop enabling your adult son, he is 22 ffs.

ilp456 said:

And he couldn’t even go quietly. There was enough of a fuss that other guests got wind of it and made requests. Now bride and groom are left with the message that people would rather eat crap than the meals they provided at great expense. YTA.

Wolfpawn said:

He could have slipped out silently and got some food, ate it in the car and slipped back in silently if he had any sense. If anyone asked where he was 'getting some air' and 'he needed to grab something in the town and will be back in 20' would have sufficed. You can be a picky b*st@rd without being an insensitive one. That said, at 22, learn to eat some £ucking food like a grown up.

Pair_of_Pearls said

YTA. At most, he should have slipped out, eaten, and returned quietly. Letting it be known and eating at the reception is a VERY AH move. You were rude, disrespectful and trashy. Apologize and teach your son better. Also he's 22. Ummm, enable much?

SearchApprehensive35 said:

YTA. It's fast food. It's not a meal one lingers over for hours, it's a meal that one scarfs down in a couple minutes. He should have discreetly slipped out of the events, eaten his fast food off-site, and slipped back in without anyone being the wiser.

The bride and groom may not have minded him eating fast food, but they very much minded him bringing the food back to their reception (at a restaurant no less!), and passing it out to their guests.

That's insulting behavior, and it also probably got them in trouble with the restaurant and possibly charged a penalty fee. The business could have gotten a health code violation citation over it, so they would absolutely have emphasized in the contract that no outside food can be brought in.

Dcc456 said:

YTA. It doesn't matter who did or didn't have a problem with it. That's incredibly rude and most likely broke a health code. He's 22, not 2. He can either eat beforehand since he knew he wouldn't like the food, or he can wait til after. Or, here's a crazy thought: he can try new things and just eat what is served.

So, there you have it...

Everyone agreed unanimously here that this parent and their adult son were completely wrong to indulge in this tacky wedding faux pas. If he truly couldn't eat anything from the buffet, he could've left quietly, eaten quickly, and returned to the dance floor with minimal distractions, smells, or bones. Nobody wants to have the scent of a KFC deep-fryer wafting over the father-daughter dance and maid of honor speeches.

Sources: Reddit
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