Weddings

<h2>We&#39;ve all heard of the controversial faux pas that is a cash bar at a wedding, but was about a...cash dinner?</h2><p>So, when a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about a wedding that charged guests for food, people were ready to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11guvq1/aita_for_leaving_a_wedding_to_eat_at_mcdonalds/" target="_blank">AITA</a> (Am I the A*shole) for leaving a wedding to eat at McDonald&#39;s?</h2><blockquote> <p>Hi, I&#39;m F25. Recently, my colleague (F31) invited me to her wedding, which happened yesterday. I was super excited and happy for her. Just in case, I asked her if there was any guest fees - she said &quot;No, you don&#39;t need to pay me anything.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>On the day itself, everything went well until it the reception (dinner time). To my shock, I was presented with a wedding menu that had <em>prices</em> on it. (For example: Steak ---- $50) Everything was ridiculously expensive, including the vegetarian options.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At first, I wanted to question her because well, she lied to me that I didn&#39;t have to pay for anything. But it <em>was</em> her wedding and I didn&#39;t want to spoil her day by embarrassing her in front of everyone.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>However, the only other option was to simply not eat, as I didn&#39;t bring enough money for both a meal and a ride back. But this was completely unfavorable as I had skipped my lunch to &#39;save space&#39; for the wedding meal and was pretty hungry.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Suddenly, I remembered that I saw a McDonald&#39;s about five minutes away from the hotel. As tactfully as I could, I asked the bride if I could make a quick stop to McDonald&#39;s as I didn&#39;t bring enough money for the reception meal. I said that I&#39;d be back in time for the gift ceremony and cake.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I thought she&#39;d agree, but to my horror - she got really upset. She said that she put in so much effort to get this &quot;Michelin-star restaurant service&quot; yet I still wasn&#39;t happy. That I was trying to bring her down by saying that I&#39;d rather eat McDonald&#39;s.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Alarmed, I said that I didn&#39;t mean it that way - I just didn&#39;t have the cash for it. She then scoffed, saying - &quot;Who&#39;s fault is that?&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Although I was trying to keep in my anger, those words really pissed me off, so I told her &quot;You were the one who lied that I didn&#39;t need to pay anything!&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Getting angry as well, she replied: &quot;What I meant was there is no <em>attendance fee</em>! You literally assumed that you&#39;d get a free five-course dinner. Wow, you&#39;re cheaper than I thought!&quot; With a glare, she asked me to leave her wedding. I did, struckdumb and rather hurt.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>(...And on my way home, I grabbed a Big Mac lol). Back at home, I told my boyfriend everything and asked if I was an as*hole. He thought it was a funny story but said I was an AH - if I didn&#39;t have the money I could always pay her back later. In his exact words, he said &quot;You chose the wrong time to be stingy.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My other friends agree as well, saying that it was not tactful of me for doing that at the wedding - and although she lied, I should have just brushed it off instead of dampening her happy spirits.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After hearing their opinions, I felt quite guilty and embarrassed. However, that one little part of me still thinks that it&#39;s justified because 1) she lied to me, and 2) publicly humiliated me. Please help me out. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Of course, the jury of internet strangers was prepared to judge this tacky mess of a reception. Here&#39;s what people had to say...</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Artichoke-8951/">Artichoke-8951</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve never been to a wedding where the guests pay for their meal. NTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PhoenixxFoxx/">PhoenixxFoxx</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA - But I think you handled it wrong. You shouldn&#39;t have asked her if it was okay to leave and get McDonald&#39;s. You should have done it and come back. The bride/your colleague does sound like a bit of a jerk and she shouldn&#39;t have humiliated you that way.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve never been to a wedding where I had to pay for my own food, and I&#39;ve been to some cheap a*s weddings and some expensive a*s weddings. Next time, you&#39;ll know to be prepared. Also did you buy her a gift? Because if you didn&#39;t and showed up to get a free meal, then you&#39;re a bit of an as*hole.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MasterK999/">MasterK999</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I have never heard of a wedding where the guests are expected to pay for dinner. Especially without any notice. The Bride&#39;s response is BS too. &quot;Attendance Fees&quot; are not a thing at weddings. You asked and she said there was no cost. The misunderstanding is on her.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jewpacabreh24/">Jewpacabreh24</a> said:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I have never heard of a wedding having a menu where a guest had to pay for the dinner. The bride &amp; groom are a*sholes for not having that put on the invitations for everyone to know ahead of time.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Rranranru/">Rranranru</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Never before heard of a wedding where you have to pay for the food. If there&#39;s a food fee, she should have told you or it should have been clarified in the invitation. I do think that you handled it a bit clumsily - you should have just gone to McDonald&#39;s in secret and came back later. When asked, you could just say you wasn&#39;t feeling well and didn&#39;t want to eat.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this guest wasn&#39;t wrong to sneak out to get some fast food, but she should&#39;ve left the cheap bride out of it entirely. Note: next time you attend a wedding with a cash dinner, pay attention to wear the nearest restaurant is.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guest gets McDonald's at wedding with priced menu, 'you're cheaper than I thought.'

We&#39;ve all heard of the controversial faux pas that is a cash bar at a wedding, but was about a...cash dinner?So, when a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about a wedding that charged guests for food, people were ready to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the A*shole) for leaving a wedding to eat at McDonald&#39;s? Hi, I&#39;m F25. Recently, my colleague (F31) invited me to her wedding, which happened yesterday. I was super excited and happy for her. Just in case, I asked her if there was any guest fees - she said &quot;No, you don&#39;t need to pay me anything.&quot;  On the day itself, everything went well until it the reception (dinner time). To my shock, I was presented with a wedding menu that had prices on it. (For example: Steak ---- $50) Everything was ridiculously expensive, including the vegetarian options.  At first, I wanted to question her because well, she lied to me that I didn&#39;t have to pay for anything. But it was her wedding and I didn&#39;t want to spoil her day by embarrassing her in front of everyone.  However, the only other option was to simply not eat, as I didn&#39;t bring enough money for both a meal and a ride back. But this was completely unfavorable as I had skipped my lunch to &#39;save space&#39; for the wedding meal and was pretty hungry.  Suddenly, I remembered that I saw a McDonald&#39;s about five minutes away from the hotel. As tactfully as I could, I asked the bride if I could make a quick stop to McDonald&#39;s as I didn&#39;t bring enough money for the reception meal. I said that I&#39;d be back in time for the gift ceremony and cake.  I thought she&#39;d agree, but to my horror - she got really upset. She said that she put in so much effort to get this &quot;Michelin-star restaurant service&quot; yet I still wasn&#39;t happy. That I was trying to bring her down by saying that I&#39;d rather eat McDonald&#39;s.  Alarmed, I said that I didn&#39;t mean it that way - I just didn&#39;t have the cash for it. She then scoffed, saying - &quot;Who&#39;s fault is that?&quot;  Although I was trying to keep in my anger, those words really pissed me off, so I told her &quot;You were the one who lied that I didn&#39;t need to pay anything!&quot;  Getting angry as well, she replied: &quot;What I meant was there is no attendance fee! You literally assumed that you&#39;d get a free five-course dinner. Wow, you&#39;re cheaper than I thought!&quot; With a glare, she asked me to leave her wedding. I did, struckdumb and rather hurt.  (...And on my way home, I grabbed a Big Mac lol). Back at home, I told my boyfriend everything and asked if I was an as*hole. He thought it was a funny story but said I was an AH - if I didn&#39;t have the money I could always pay her back later. In his exact words, he said &quot;You chose the wrong time to be stingy.&quot;  My other friends agree as well, saying that it was not tactful of me for doing that at the wedding - and although she lied, I should have just brushed it off instead of dampening her happy spirits.  After hearing their opinions, I felt quite guilty and embarrassed. However, that one little part of me still thinks that it&#39;s justified because 1) she lied to me, and 2) publicly humiliated me. Please help me out. AITA? Of course, the jury of internet strangers was prepared to judge this tacky mess of a reception. Here&#39;s what people had to say...Artichoke-8951 said: I&#39;ve never been to a wedding where the guests pay for their meal. NTA. PhoenixxFoxx said: NTA - But I think you handled it wrong. You shouldn&#39;t have asked her if it was okay to leave and get McDonald&#39;s. You should have done it and come back. The bride/your colleague does sound like a bit of a jerk and she shouldn&#39;t have humiliated you that way.  I&#39;ve never been to a wedding where I had to pay for my own food, and I&#39;ve been to some cheap a*s weddings and some expensive a*s weddings. Next time, you&#39;ll know to be prepared. Also did you buy her a gift? Because if you didn&#39;t and showed up to get a free meal, then you&#39;re a bit of an as*hole. MasterK999 said: NTA. I have never heard of a wedding where the guests are expected to pay for dinner. Especially without any notice. The Bride&#39;s response is BS too. &quot;Attendance Fees&quot; are not a thing at weddings. You asked and she said there was no cost. The misunderstanding is on her. Jewpacabreh24 said: I have never heard of a wedding having a menu where a guest had to pay for the dinner. The bride &amp; groom are a*sholes for not having that put on the invitations for everyone to know ahead of time. Rranranru said: NTA. Never before heard of a wedding where you have to pay for the food. If there&#39;s a food fee, she should have told you or it should have been clarified in the invitation. I do think that you handled it a bit clumsily - you should have just gone to McDonald&#39;s in secret and came back later. When asked, you could just say you wasn&#39;t feeling well and didn&#39;t want to eat. So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this guest wasn&#39;t wrong to sneak out to get some fast food, but she should&#39;ve left the cheap bride out of it entirely. Note: next time you attend a wedding with a cash dinner, pay attention to wear the nearest restaurant is.

We&#39;ve all heard of the controversial faux pas that is a cash bar at a wedding, but was about a...cash dinner?  So, when a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s...

Guest gets McDonald's at wedding with priced menu, 'you're cheaper than I thought.'

We've all heard of the controversial faux pas that is a cash bar at a wedding, but was about a...cash dinner?

AITA (Am I the A*shole) for leaving a wedding to eat at McDonald's?