Weddings

<p>Weddings seem to bring out the worst in some people. And it doesn&#39;t get much worse than talking trash about a 5-year-old girl on the internet, especially when that girl considers you her &quot;aunt&quot; and was going to be your flower girl.</p><p>A guy recently <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/c94rxx/aita_for_pulling_my_child_from_my_friends_wedding/" target="_blank">shared his wedding horror story</a> on Reddit, asking people to weigh in on whether he&#39;s an &quot;a**hole&quot; for wanting to pull his daughter from his friend&#39;s wedding after discovering his friend had trashed his 5-year-old daughter in a public post. Needless to say, the internet deemed him &quot;not the a**hole&quot; for this one.</p><p>Basically, he and his husband were going to attend the wedding and their daughter was going to be the flower girl. He explains:</p><blockquote> <p>The wedding is in 6 months. To be clear, my husband and I are gay and we were going to attend the wedding but I wasn&#39;t going to be in it. (It was discussed at length, but I didn&rsquo;t want to be the one bridesgroom or whatever).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My friend &quot;V&quot; has a great relationship with my 5 y/o and is like an aunt. V asked if she could at least be a flower girl; I was honored and agreed.</p> </blockquote><p>But then things took a turn after V asked if she could bring her &quot;niece&quot; dress shopping with her. The girl&#39;s dad agreed, but explained she would need to be supervised, since she&#39;s, you know, five. He continues:</p><blockquote> <p>Two weeks ago, V and some friends/family went dress shopping. I couldn&rsquo;t because my grandma was having surgery that day and I was the only one available/willing to help out. V was a bit bummed and asked if she could bring my kid. I agreed, but explained she&rsquo;d have to supervise if she went. V said there&#39;d be plenty of people to watch her, so I let her go. When V dropped her off, everyone was all smiles.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My kid apparently had a ball. But several days later a mutual friend sent me a link to a post (not Reddit) that she said was written by V. It was technically anon. But once I read it, it was obvious our mutual was right. V hadn&#39;t bothered changing many identifying details and just *ranted* about my kid.</p> </blockquote><p>The dad said that the post is now gone (good call on deleting it, V, better call would&#39;ve been not posting it in the first place). He shares some highlights, the parts that centered on his kid&#39;s &quot;bratty&quot; behavior:</p><blockquote> <p>The post is now gone, but I copied the text it into a draft email. Technically the whole post didn&#39;t center on my kid. But I&#39;ll provide some quotes that did:</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>*Not usually bratty but def thinks the sun rises and sets on her IMO. I told her in the car she had to behave and be helpful bc this day was important. But after we got there, she had ppl fussing over her and giving her dresses to try on (when I already said we were not buying her dress today!!) - basically making sure shed be the center of attention.*</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>*She interrupted more than once when ppl commented on the dresses I tried on bc her opinion just HAD to be heard. Usually the comments were not too useful and a tad bit rude IMO. Like I tried on one lacy formfitting dress that I looooved. Before anyone else could say a word she pipes up with &ldquo;I think its kinda ugly!&rdquo; Like thaaaanks kid. Geez.*</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>*Knocked over a rack of very expensive accessories - after being told TWICE that most things in this shop were fragile and to touch things gently OR NOT AT ALL. I could&#39;ve died but nothing was damaged - thankfully - but I&rsquo;m like FFS.*</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>There were also a few other bizarre comments mixed in about how, although V &ldquo;loves&rdquo; my daughter, she &ldquo;just has to remind everyone all the time that she&rsquo;s adorable!!!&rdquo;. Honestly, I&rsquo;m not even sure what that means?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Of course, we&#39;ve all met a bratty kid whose behavior is bad enough to make you want to vent to all your friends. And that is what GROUP TEXTS were invented for, specifically. But this kid&#39;s behavior sounds like fairly typical 5-year-old behavior tbh. What 5-year-old doesn&#39;t interrupt, speak their mind, and accidentally knock things over?! It&#39;s basically their whole MO.</p><p>The dad says that he confronted V after finding the post, and she offered up a lame excuse:</p><blockquote> <p>I was hurt and confronted V. To her credit, V fessed up/apologized. V said it was just a long day and she was venting. I admit I snapped a bit. First off, I never intended to send my kid in the first place! And if there was a problem, why wouldn&#39;t you tell me rather than make a post that anyone could find?</p> </blockquote><p>Her excuse? &quot;It was just a long day and she was venting.&quot; I mean, okay, I reiterate: SAVE IT FOR THE GROUP TEXT.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The dad decided to pull his kid from the wedding, for reasons which make a lot of sense to me. And he adds that he and his husband are now thinking of not attending at all:</p><blockquote> <p>I ultimately told V my kid will no longer be in the wedding and that my husband and I think it&rsquo;s best we just don&#39;t attend. Our friend group is split in terms of who they&rsquo;ve sided with. AITA?*</p> </blockquote><p>*Am I The A**hole?</p><p>Apparently his friend group is divided. But Reddit is not, with commenters almost unanimously coming to the dad&#39;s defense, calling the bride &quot;petty&quot; and the worst wedding insult of all, &quot;bridezilla.&quot;</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Nonsuperstites/">Nonsuperstites</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Competing with a 5 year old for attention and rants about it online. Mother of all pettiness.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mamabearette/">mamabearette</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>The ultimate bridezilla. Can&rsquo;t stand the competition from a 5 year old. I wouldn&rsquo;t even attend this wedding. It will be a shit show.</p> </blockquote><p>FACTS.</p><p>Others are pointing out how cruel it is to criticize a 5-year-old for behaving like a 5-year-old. It&#39;s literally the only thing they know how to do?!</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DestructorNZ/">DestructorNZ</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>5 year olds don&#39;t know they are being self-centered, they don&#39;t know much at all really, this is a really horrible list of things to say about a poor kid who got dragged out shopping.</p> </blockquote><p>This woman sounds horrible, so it makes sense that half of her friends and family would take her side. Because horrible people tend to attract other horrible people. I hope this guy and his husband and daughter GTFO of this &quot;friendship&quot; and find a new &quot;aunt&quot; for their kid. Just FYI, if you&#39;re reading this guys, I&#39;m available!!! And personally I think knocking things over is the most fun part of shopping.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy asks if he's wrong to skip wedding of woman who insulted his daughter.

Weddings seem to bring out the worst in some people. And it doesn&#39;t get much worse than talking trash about a 5-year-old girl on the internet, especially when that girl considers you her &quot;aunt&quot; and was going to be your flower girl.A guy recently shared his wedding horror story on Reddit, asking people to weigh in on whether he&#39;s an &quot;a**hole&quot; for wanting to pull his daughter from his friend&#39;s wedding after discovering his friend had trashed his 5-year-old daughter in a public post. Needless to say, the internet deemed him &quot;not the a**hole&quot; for this one.Basically, he and his husband were going to attend the wedding and their daughter was going to be the flower girl. He explains: The wedding is in 6 months. To be clear, my husband and I are gay and we were going to attend the wedding but I wasn&#39;t going to be in it. (It was discussed at length, but I didn&rsquo;t want to be the one bridesgroom or whatever).  My friend &quot;V&quot; has a great relationship with my 5 y/o and is like an aunt. V asked if she could at least be a flower girl; I was honored and agreed. But then things took a turn after V asked if she could bring her &quot;niece&quot; dress shopping with her. The girl&#39;s dad agreed, but explained she would need to be supervised, since she&#39;s, you know, five. He continues: Two weeks ago, V and some friends/family went dress shopping. I couldn&rsquo;t because my grandma was having surgery that day and I was the only one available/willing to help out. V was a bit bummed and asked if she could bring my kid. I agreed, but explained she&rsquo;d have to supervise if she went. V said there&#39;d be plenty of people to watch her, so I let her go. When V dropped her off, everyone was all smiles.  My kid apparently had a ball. But several days later a mutual friend sent me a link to a post (not Reddit) that she said was written by V. It was technically anon. But once I read it, it was obvious our mutual was right. V hadn&#39;t bothered changing many identifying details and just *ranted* about my kid. The dad said that the post is now gone (good call on deleting it, V, better call would&#39;ve been not posting it in the first place). He shares some highlights, the parts that centered on his kid&#39;s &quot;bratty&quot; behavior: The post is now gone, but I copied the text it into a draft email. Technically the whole post didn&#39;t center on my kid. But I&#39;ll provide some quotes that did:  *Not usually bratty but def thinks the sun rises and sets on her IMO. I told her in the car she had to behave and be helpful bc this day was important. But after we got there, she had ppl fussing over her and giving her dresses to try on (when I already said we were not buying her dress today!!) - basically making sure shed be the center of attention.*   *She interrupted more than once when ppl commented on the dresses I tried on bc her opinion just HAD to be heard. Usually the comments were not too useful and a tad bit rude IMO. Like I tried on one lacy formfitting dress that I looooved. Before anyone else could say a word she pipes up with &ldquo;I think its kinda ugly!&rdquo; Like thaaaanks kid. Geez.*  *Knocked over a rack of very expensive accessories - after being told TWICE that most things in this shop were fragile and to touch things gently OR NOT AT ALL. I could&#39;ve died but nothing was damaged - thankfully - but I&rsquo;m like FFS.*  There were also a few other bizarre comments mixed in about how, although V &ldquo;loves&rdquo; my daughter, she &ldquo;just has to remind everyone all the time that she&rsquo;s adorable!!!&rdquo;. Honestly, I&rsquo;m not even sure what that means? Of course, we&#39;ve all met a bratty kid whose behavior is bad enough to make you want to vent to all your friends. And that is what GROUP TEXTS were invented for, specifically. But this kid&#39;s behavior sounds like fairly typical 5-year-old behavior tbh. What 5-year-old doesn&#39;t interrupt, speak their mind, and accidentally knock things over?! It&#39;s basically their whole MO.The dad says that he confronted V after finding the post, and she offered up a lame excuse: I was hurt and confronted V. To her credit, V fessed up/apologized. V said it was just a long day and she was venting. I admit I snapped a bit. First off, I never intended to send my kid in the first place! And if there was a problem, why wouldn&#39;t you tell me rather than make a post that anyone could find? Her excuse? &quot;It was just a long day and she was venting.&quot; I mean, okay, I reiterate: SAVE IT FOR THE GROUP TEXT.The dad decided to pull his kid from the wedding, for reasons which make a lot of sense to me. And he adds that he and his husband are now thinking of not attending at all: I ultimately told V my kid will no longer be in the wedding and that my husband and I think it&rsquo;s best we just don&#39;t attend. Our friend group is split in terms of who they&rsquo;ve sided with. AITA?* *Am I The A**hole?Apparently his friend group is divided. But Reddit is not, with commenters almost unanimously coming to the dad&#39;s defense, calling the bride &quot;petty&quot; and the worst wedding insult of all, &quot;bridezilla.&quot;Nonsuperstites writes: NTA. Competing with a 5 year old for attention and rants about it online. Mother of all pettiness. And mamabearette writes: The ultimate bridezilla. Can&rsquo;t stand the competition from a 5 year old. I wouldn&rsquo;t even attend this wedding. It will be a shit show. FACTS.Others are pointing out how cruel it is to criticize a 5-year-old for behaving like a 5-year-old. It&#39;s literally the only thing they know how to do?!DestructorNZ writes: 5 year olds don&#39;t know they are being self-centered, they don&#39;t know much at all really, this is a really horrible list of things to say about a poor kid who got dragged out shopping. This woman sounds horrible, so it makes sense that half of her friends and family would take her side. Because horrible people tend to attract other horrible people. I hope this guy and his husband and daughter GTFO of this &quot;friendship&quot; and find a new &quot;aunt&quot; for their kid. Just FYI, if you&#39;re reading this guys, I&#39;m available!!! And personally I think knocking things over is the most fun part of shopping.

Weddings seem to bring out the worst in some people. And it doesn&#39;t get much worse than talking trash about a 5-year-old girl on the internet, especially when that girl considers you her &quot;aunt&quot; and was going to be your flower...