Is it weird to invite your college ex-boyfriend to your wedding without a plus-one?

Nothing can ruin a sentimental and romantic wedding moment quite like looking back at the crowd of smiling family and friends and seeing your partner's ex...

Many people are capable of maintaining healthy and happy friendships with former partners, but do you really want them present on your wedding day? Do you care if your future spouse invites their exes to your wedding? There isn't really a standard wedding etiquette rule on whether or not this situation is a faux pas, but I'm sure there are at least ten Taylor Swift songs about it. So, when a concerned wife decided to consult the gloriously petty Reddit group, 'Wedding Shaming,' about her husband's ex-girlfriend's wedding, people were quick to pile on.

My husband’s ex-girlfriend (from college) sent him a wedding invitation...

I’ve been with my husband for almost 8 years now and they dated 10 years ago when they were in college. I guess they ended on good terms, but it’s not like they ever have talked since the break up. I never met her nor have I brought her up, so I was surprised to see her wedding invitation in the mail today.

She’s friends with him on FB and although he’s not active on there, I’ve tagged him in many posts over the years, so it’s definitely obvious that we’re married.

The invite is only addressed to him, not Mr. and Mrs., but just straight up Mr...I’m not sure what I’m even more peeved about, the fact that this ex decided to pop out of nowhere or the fact that I’m not even addressed in the invite. To make matters worse, it’s a destination wedding and we’d have to fly to Central America.

I asked him how she even got our address (again, they haven’t talked since college) — I guess she reached out for the address.

I’m not a jealous type and sure, people can be friends with their exes and end things amicably, but I definitely don’t think we’re going. Have any of you guys been in this same situation or maybe you invited an ex to your wedding?

Of course, the jury of internet strangers had a lot to add to this discussion. Here's what people had to say...

Highrisegirl4639 said:

I think this bride wants a lot of gifts. A lot of people give gifts even if they don’t plan on going. She’s getting married in Central America, hasn’t seen OP’s husband in 10yrs so would likely know he’s not going to fly there by himself to watch her get married…but he’d probably send a gift.

Wistastic said:

Gift grab/humble brag?

mintgreentile said:

I don’t think this all that weird or a big deal. Despite what you’re saying, you’re coming off as the jealous type. Just RSVP no, damn.

donkeyinamansuit said:

I invited my ex to my wedding. But we were still actively friends, and I also invited his partner (at the time). I went to his wedding as well (with my husband). I also asked another ex if he would like an invitation to my wedding (as we were still friends but it was a more recent break up) and he politely declined so that was fine.

16 years later we were close friends again and I see him and his long-term partner all the time. I think inviting exes in general to your wedding is totally ok, but inviting an ex you've not spoken to in ten years is odd that's for sure.

ladieswholurk said:

She might just want to close the chapter and feel like she invited everyone that was once special to her. It doesn’t need to make sense but maybe it helped her? Just let it go and move on. Everyone is happy in this story.

So, there you have it!

While the opinions were slightly divided for this one, most people agreed that if she and her husband aren't comfortable going to the wedding, nobody has to go. That being said, the invitation itself isn't particularly weird and any jealousy surrounding it seems a bit petty. Clearly she's happy with someone else if she's getting married...does this woman think her husband was invited so he could interrupt during the 'speak now or forever hold your peace' moment? Good luck, everyone!