'AITA for not kicking my BFF out of my wedding after she 'spilled' a drink on my SIL?'
From 27dressesinmaine on Reddit comes an interesting story of exacting justice on an inconsiderate wedding guest.
"AITA for not kicking my best friend out of my wedding after she 'spilled' a drink on my SIL at my wedding?"
Around three months ago, I, 25F, got married to husband 27M. Since then I’ve been hearing about this from my in-laws nonstop.
Here's the story...
My husband has younger sister, Alice, 22F, who in my opinion is a total brat. Alice had some type of childhood sickness, but she overcame it, however his parents were extremely lenient with her to the point where she cannot be corrected in any form without it being a big deal.
She has been let go from multiple jobs because of this and she doesn’t have many friends, and always has to be the center of attention. At my other SIL’s birthday, their parents got Alice a gift just in case she got jealous.
I am only child, and the only sisterly figure I have has to be my best friend Marie. We met in third grade, and since we’re both only children, we instantly clicked. We are fiercely protective of each other.
Husband and I decided to have a summer wedding, and to my surprise, Alice shows up wearing a lacy white dress. If you told me she picked this out of a wedding catalog, I would’ve believed you.
Between the wedding and the main reception, we had a cocktail hour. People kept asking me about Alice, and I was becoming visibly annoyed. A lot of people thought she was my husband’s ex instead of his sister.
I could tell the situation was pissing Marie off, and I watched Marie walk over to my husband’s family, greet them, and on her way back she “tripped” and fell by Alice, while holding a glass full of red wine. Alice ran into the bathroom, with MIL following her, and his dad came up to us and started to demand that Marie leave.
I told them no, Marie is a lightweight and it was a mistake. Husband backed me up and said that since Marie is thin she can’t handle as much alcohol, but we’d make sure she sobered up before the reception.
At the reception, Alice was wearing a beautiful green dress brought to you by Ross, and Marie magically felt better. My in laws have been bringing up the incident nonstop, but I have a hard time feeling bad, even though I know it wasn’t an accident.
27dressesinmaine OP's added:
I have a lot of people commenting and DMing me saying my post is fake because it’s so common. What you guys fail to realize is that it’s so common because people are fucking crazy and entitled. There are so many narcissistic women who CANNOT let anyone else shine in their presence.
My SIL is that type of woman. I’ve seen her cry because she didn’t get a Turkey leg during Thanksgiving dinner. At the ripe age of 20.
Agitated_Cheek4890 asked:
Why haven't you suggested to them that Alice was an AH for wearing white? Stop putting up with their behaviour. Marie is a fucking legend and needs a medal.
27dressesinmaine OP's response:
It’s a very touchy subject. Anytime anybody has ever told them anything about Alice, it’s always met with “She had it rough during her childhood disease”. It’s not my place to tell them how to parent their daughter. My husband and my other SIL have given up saying anything about it because it has always been met with dismissiveness, even when they were kids.
Now as adults, they have distanced themselves from their parents, and they (in laws) are either blind or acting blind as to why. They ruined any chance of Alice having normality because she’s treated like a fragile doll.
tara_masalata asked:
Can someone explain the reference 'brought to you by Ross'?
27dressesinmaine OP's response:
Ross is an outlet store that sells clothing and home stuff.
Squirrel-mama said:
NTA your in-laws created a monster and your friend was just fixing the white dress issue. Everyone knows you don't wear a white dress to a wedding! Clearly they had a back up dress so what's the problem?
27dressesinmaine OP responded:
They didn’t have a back up dress, but there were outlet shops close to the venue, and MIL and SIL got a last minute dress at a Ross.
tiffibean13 says:
I don't think this is real, nor any of the other 'so and so wore white to my wedding stories.' Especially because they all say people came us and asked them about so and so wearing white.
What oblivious dingbats of friends and family would continually go ask the bride about it? Pointing out something the bride obviously noticed? Nahhhhh.
27dressesinmaine OP responded:
While I understand that this a common theme in AITA, I never thought that it would happen at my wedding. Nobody ever thinks someone is gonna show up to your wearing white, and when she did??? At first I was shocked and try to ignore it. I had no words.
thirdtryisthecharm asked:
INFO - Was it a mistake?
27dressesinmaine OP responded:
Honestly, I don’t know. Marie has never been the best drinker but the reception had barely started.
Updates from OP:
I have a lot of people commenting and dming me saying my post is fake because it’s so common. What you guys fail to realize is that it’s so common because people are f^%$ing crazy and entitled.
There are so many narcissistic women who CANNOT let anyone else shine in their presence. My SIL is that type of woman. I’ve seen her cry because she didn’t get a Turkey leg during Thanksgiving dinner. At the ripe age of 20.
While I understand that this a common theme in AITA, I never thought that it would happen at my wedding. Nobody ever thinks someone is gonna show up to your wearing white, and when she did??? At first I was shocked and try to ignore it. I had no words.
Also, I had a small wedding of 66 people, and the people that came up to me and asked were my college friends whom I meet up frequently, as well my aunt whom I have a very close relationship. If you think a little alcohol doesn’t make people bold enough to ask who the woman wearing white at another person’s wedding is, you haven’t been around many social circles.
[deleted] says:
NTA your in-laws created a monster and your friend was just fixing the white dress issue. Everyone knows you don't wear a white dress to a wedding! Clearly they had a back up dress so what's the problem?
27dressesinmaine OP responded:
they didn’t have a back up dress, but there were outlet shops close to the venue, and MIL and SIL got a last minute dress at a Ross.
Agitated_Cheek4890 asks:
Why haven't you suggested to them that Alice was an AH for wearing white? Stop putting up with their behaviour. Marie is a fucking legend and needs a medal.
27dressesinmaine OP responded:
It’s a very touchy subject. Anytime anybody has ever told them anything about Alice, it’s always met with “She had it rough during her childhood disease”. It’s not my place to tell them how to parent their daughter.
My husband and my other SIL have given up saying anything about it because it has always been met with dismissiveness, even when they were kids. Now as adults, they have distanced themselves from their parents, and they (in laws) are either blind or acting blind as to why. They ruined any chance of Alice having normality because she’s treated like a fragile doll.