Weddings

<h2>When you invite kids to weddings, you can bet on one thing, there&#39;s going to be chaos.</h2><p>Reddit user <a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SILISMADATME32/">u/SILISMADATME32</a> tried to warn her sister-in-law about an unruly nephew spoiling her upcoming wedding, but she didn&#39;t listen. As predicted, the nephew caused a ruckus and left the bride in tears. </p><h2>Now, this woman is asking the internet, &quot;<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wd28yt/aita_for_saying_i_told_you_so_at_my_sil_and/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA</a> (Am I The A**hole) for saying &ldquo;I told you so&rdquo; at my SIL and Brothers wedding?&quot;</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I (27F) have known for SIL for three years. She&rsquo;s the type of person that always needs to be right and needs to be in charge of everything. She&rsquo;s very demanding as well.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My SIL&rsquo;s family members are very disrespectful and rude. They don&rsquo;t clean up after themselves, expect everyone to act like maids or servants around them and they think very highly of themselves. They can never be wrong and think they can do no wrong.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Because of this, my SIL&rsquo;s family doesn&rsquo;t really punish their kids. Like they have no consequences. They aren&rsquo;t even like the gentle parenting type either.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My SIL&rsquo;s sister has a son and he&rsquo;s extremely chaotic. He throws tantrums if he doesn&rsquo;t get something and he has to be the center of attention 24/7. When there are birthdays he needs a gift or opens the gifts and needs to blow out candles. It&rsquo;s frustrating which is why I&rsquo;m not usually around at family gatherings and other stuff.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was with my SIL since her friend canceled on her and I was helping make invitations. I saw one of the names was SIL&rsquo;s nephew. I asked if she wanted him to go and she said yeah. She then asked why. So I told her why.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I talked about his tantrums and how he&rsquo;ll probably throw a fit during the reception and other stuff. She got mad and said that she didn&rsquo;t know what I was talking about. She told my family and her sister which caused her sister to write me a message saying how I was wrong and other stuff like that.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Well, the day of the wedding comes. Everyone comes in happy except for the nephew. He&rsquo;s crying and is about to throw a fit. When my SIL came out he literally started screaming. The poor Pastor had to stop and wait for the parents to leave.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>During the after-party, he was back and again crying. When they were cutting the cake he screamed extremely loud he pushed my SIL who was holding a glass of wine and spilled it on her. She started crying. She turned around to leave and I looked at her and said &ldquo;I told you so&rdquo; she started crying even more.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When I got home my mom called me extremely immature and wants me to apologize. So, AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>She posted an update:</h2><blockquote> <p>When I went on Facebook I saw a long post from SIL&rsquo;s sister. Basically saying that SIL knew how her nephew (9) was, and how if she didn&rsquo;t want him to throw a tantrum she should&rsquo;ve never invited them.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She also called SIL selfish saying she should&rsquo;ve offered to let the nephew cut the cake with her. SIL&rsquo;s family also agreed and called SIL selfish. So I went over to SIL&rsquo;s house with a bottle of wine.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She told me that I was right and that she should&rsquo;ve never invited them. I still apologized though because I did kick her while she was down. I offered to pay to get her wedding dress cleaned but she said that it was fine.</p> </blockquote><p>Saying &quot;I told you so,&quot; is always kind of an a-hole move, but sometimes it&#39;s way too satisfying to resist. I don&#39;t blame her one bit for her comment. The OP (original poster) may be a jerk for kicking her SIL when she was down, but her sister-in-law did not have to tell the entire family what she said about the nephew. This family sounds exhausting.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Reddit was mixed on their judgments. Some say she&#39;s &quot;The A**hole&quot; for making the bride cry (even more) on her wedding day, others say she was justified in saying, &quot;I told you so,&quot; and there were several &quot;Everyone Sucks Here&quot; votes. What do you think?</p><p>From <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/imsohungrydudee/">imsohungrydudee</a></p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Just because you have an opinion doesn&rsquo;t mean you always need to share it, even if you&rsquo;re right.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p>From <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/g_mein_d/">g_mein_d</a></p><blockquote> <p>Given the circumstances, where OP was made out to be the bad guy in public for predicting this exact thing happening, I will give them a pass.. NTA for me.. if the SILs family is as exhausting constantly, I really wouldn&#39;t feel any remorse for saying something of the sort in the moment</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>From <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PositivelySingleMom/">PositivelySingleMom</a></p><blockquote> <p>My favorite part of the story was when she said that SIL has to be right about everything. Meanwhile&hellip;.</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/OddAsk9838/">OddAsk9838</a></p><blockquote> <p>Ya OP, YTA. Way to rub salt in the wound. She just had her wedding and dress destroyed. You were, indeed, immature in that moment.</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Swimming_Outside_563/">Swimming_Outside_563</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Come on, &quot;I told you so&quot; is one of the greatest satisfactions with certain people.</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Irish_beast/">Irish_beast</a></p><blockquote> <p>ESH The SIL for enabling a problem child. &quot;I told you so&quot; is up there with &quot;just relax.&quot; Feels great to say it. Doesn&#39;t help in the slightest.Makes the problem worse.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Both_Face_4593/">Both_Face_4593</a></p><blockquote> <p>How is this not an ESH? SIL&rsquo;s family are AH for raising a kid like that or at least bringing him to important life events until his behavior improves. SIL is an AH for vilifying OP to the whole family. OP is an AH for the timing of her &ldquo;I told you so.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Kharos/">Kharos</a></p><blockquote> <p>The bride sicced her family on OP. I told you so is completely justified here. If the bride wants an apology, the bride should apologize first herself.</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hetkleinezusje/">hetkleinezusje</a></p><blockquote> <p>You and me both. NTA, OP. The kid is out of control and it&#39;s past time that the family (esp the parents) needs to be doing something about it. Possibly adding insult to injury, but she brought it on herself.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/FindingHorror/">FindingHorror</a></p><blockquote> <p>ESH. Bad moment to say something like that but man I wish I was there to see it. They got mad at you for trying to save the wedding from drama, then you&#39;re proven right, and now it&#39;s suddenly not okay.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Again, bad timing, but I love the pettiness.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Much_Ad470/">Much_Ad470</a></p><blockquote> <p>Was she totally right about the nephew? Abso-fucking-lutely. Was she excessively petty and lacking tact in her delivery? Without question. <strong>ESH</strong> should be <em>the</em> verdict.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Murky-Firefighter-56/">Murky-Firefighter-56</a></p><blockquote> <p>you are 100% NTA, OP. everything has consequences and it just so happens that you telling her &ldquo;i told you so&rdquo; was part of it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mindless_Anywhere_74/">Mindless_Anywhere_7</a></p><blockquote> <p>I told you so is only rude when you do it to nice people. I told you so to unpleasent people isn&#39;t rude, it&#39;s karma. NTA</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if it was wrong to say 'I told you so' after kid ruined SIL's wedding

When you invite kids to weddings, you can bet on one thing, there&#39;s going to be chaos.Reddit user u/SILISMADATME32 tried to warn her sister-in-law about an unruly nephew spoiling her upcoming wedding, but she didn&#39;t listen. As predicted, the nephew caused a ruckus and left the bride in tears. Now, this woman is asking the internet, &quot;AITA (Am I The A**hole) for saying &ldquo;I told you so&rdquo; at my SIL and Brothers wedding?&quot;She writes: I (27F) have known for SIL for three years. She&rsquo;s the type of person that always needs to be right and needs to be in charge of everything. She&rsquo;s very demanding as well.  My SIL&rsquo;s family members are very disrespectful and rude. They don&rsquo;t clean up after themselves, expect everyone to act like maids or servants around them and they think very highly of themselves. They can never be wrong and think they can do no wrong.  Because of this, my SIL&rsquo;s family doesn&rsquo;t really punish their kids. Like they have no consequences. They aren&rsquo;t even like the gentle parenting type either.  My SIL&rsquo;s sister has a son and he&rsquo;s extremely chaotic. He throws tantrums if he doesn&rsquo;t get something and he has to be the center of attention 24/7. When there are birthdays he needs a gift or opens the gifts and needs to blow out candles. It&rsquo;s frustrating which is why I&rsquo;m not usually around at family gatherings and other stuff.  I was with my SIL since her friend canceled on her and I was helping make invitations. I saw one of the names was SIL&rsquo;s nephew. I asked if she wanted him to go and she said yeah. She then asked why. So I told her why.  I talked about his tantrums and how he&rsquo;ll probably throw a fit during the reception and other stuff. She got mad and said that she didn&rsquo;t know what I was talking about. She told my family and her sister which caused her sister to write me a message saying how I was wrong and other stuff like that.  Well, the day of the wedding comes. Everyone comes in happy except for the nephew. He&rsquo;s crying and is about to throw a fit. When my SIL came out he literally started screaming. The poor Pastor had to stop and wait for the parents to leave.  During the after-party, he was back and again crying. When they were cutting the cake he screamed extremely loud he pushed my SIL who was holding a glass of wine and spilled it on her. She started crying. She turned around to leave and I looked at her and said &ldquo;I told you so&rdquo; she started crying even more.  When I got home my mom called me extremely immature and wants me to apologize. So, AITA? She posted an update: When I went on Facebook I saw a long post from SIL&rsquo;s sister. Basically saying that SIL knew how her nephew (9) was, and how if she didn&rsquo;t want him to throw a tantrum she should&rsquo;ve never invited them.  She also called SIL selfish saying she should&rsquo;ve offered to let the nephew cut the cake with her. SIL&rsquo;s family also agreed and called SIL selfish. So I went over to SIL&rsquo;s house with a bottle of wine.  She told me that I was right and that she should&rsquo;ve never invited them. I still apologized though because I did kick her while she was down. I offered to pay to get her wedding dress cleaned but she said that it was fine. Saying &quot;I told you so,&quot; is always kind of an a-hole move, but sometimes it&#39;s way too satisfying to resist. I don&#39;t blame her one bit for her comment. The OP (original poster) may be a jerk for kicking her SIL when she was down, but her sister-in-law did not have to tell the entire family what she said about the nephew. This family sounds exhausting.Reddit was mixed on their judgments. Some say she&#39;s &quot;The A**hole&quot; for making the bride cry (even more) on her wedding day, others say she was justified in saying, &quot;I told you so,&quot; and there were several &quot;Everyone Sucks Here&quot; votes. What do you think?From imsohungrydudee YTA. Just because you have an opinion doesn&rsquo;t mean you always need to share it, even if you&rsquo;re right.  From g_mein_d Given the circumstances, where OP was made out to be the bad guy in public for predicting this exact thing happening, I will give them a pass.. NTA for me.. if the SILs family is as exhausting constantly, I really wouldn&#39;t feel any remorse for saying something of the sort in the moment From PositivelySingleMom My favorite part of the story was when she said that SIL has to be right about everything. Meanwhile&hellip;. From​​​​​​​ OddAsk9838 Ya OP, YTA. Way to rub salt in the wound. She just had her wedding and dress destroyed. You were, indeed, immature in that moment. From​​​​​​​ Swimming_Outside_563 NTA. Come on, &quot;I told you so&quot; is one of the greatest satisfactions with certain people. From​​​​​​​ Irish_beast ESH The SIL for enabling a problem child. &quot;I told you so&quot; is up there with &quot;just relax.&quot; Feels great to say it. Doesn&#39;t help in the slightest.Makes the problem worse. From​​​​​​​ Both_Face_4593 How is this not an ESH? SIL&rsquo;s family are AH for raising a kid like that or at least bringing him to important life events until his behavior improves. SIL is an AH for vilifying OP to the whole family. OP is an AH for the timing of her &ldquo;I told you so.&rdquo; From​​​​​​​ Kharos The bride sicced her family on OP. I told you so is completely justified here. If the bride wants an apology, the bride should apologize first herself. From​​​​​​​ hetkleinezusje You and me both. NTA, OP. The kid is out of control and it&#39;s past time that the family (esp the parents) needs to be doing something about it. Possibly adding insult to injury, but she brought it on herself. From​​​​​​​ FindingHorror ESH. Bad moment to say something like that but man I wish I was there to see it. They got mad at you for trying to save the wedding from drama, then you&#39;re proven right, and now it&#39;s suddenly not okay.  Again, bad timing, but I love the pettiness. Much_Ad470 Was she totally right about the nephew? Abso-fucking-lutely. Was she excessively petty and lacking tact in her delivery? Without question. ESH should be the verdict. Murky-Firefighter-56 you are 100% NTA, OP. everything has consequences and it just so happens that you telling her &ldquo;i told you so&rdquo; was part of it.  Mindless_Anywhere_7 I told you so is only rude when you do it to nice people. I told you so to unpleasent people isn&#39;t rude, it&#39;s karma. NTA 

When you invite kids to weddings, you can bet on one thing, there&#39;s going to be chaos.  Reddit user u/SILISMADATME32 tried to warn her sister-in-law about an unruly nephew spoiling her upcoming wedding, but she didn&#39;t listen. As...

Woman asks if it was wrong to say 'I told you so' after kid ruined SIL's wedding

When you invite kids to weddings, you can bet on one thing, there's going to be chaos.

Now, this woman is asking the internet, "AITA (Am I The A**hole) for saying “I told you so” at my SIL and Brothers wedding?"