Weddings

<h2>Most wedding traditions are just plain weird. The dad &quot;giving&quot; the daughter away, the bride and groom not seeing each other before the wedding, and of course the bouquet and garter toss. </h2><p>Reddit user <a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kingifshortkings/">u/kingifshortkings</a> was accused of ruining his sister&#39;s wedding because he refused to catch her garter at the reception after her new husband pulled it off with his teeth and tossed it into the crowd of male guests. </p><h2>Now he&#39;s asking the internet, &quot;<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vauxlk/aita_for_dodging_the_garter_at_my21m_sisters27f/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA </a>(Am I The As*hole) for dodging the garter at my(21M) sister&rsquo;s(27F) wedding?&quot;</h2><p>He writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Friday was my older sister&#39;s wedding. It was a nice wedding and I enjoyed the ceremony. However the reception I just found unpleasant. I have really bad social anxiety and it was like a big party and I just felt out of place, suffocated, and embarrassed.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After my sister did her bouquet toss, the did a game and we started prepping for the garter toss. I had never been to a wedding before, and really all I know about weddings are from TV and movies which is why I knew about the bouquet toss but not this.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>So they did this weird ceremony thing where my brother-in-law took off my sister&#39;s garter. He was blindfolded and had his hands tied behind his back so he did it with his teeth. Honestly, this was really gross to watch. Like it was weirdly sexual and it&rsquo;s my sister.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So after that, they called up all the unmarried men for the garter toss. I did NOT want to do this. It&rsquo;s a kinda &ldquo;sexy&rdquo; article of clothing that&rsquo;s been tied to my sister&#39;s sweaty thigh for an hour and a half. However, as the men were going up and I tried to stay behind with my parents, my sister Kanye&rsquo;d the mic from the DJ and called me out by name and said all unmarried men.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So I shambled over and was in the crowd like 15 men deep. I figured, there are like 6 guys here that are well above 6&rsquo; tall, and I&rsquo;m barely average height, they&rsquo;ll get it before I do. So my brother-in-law throws it and it&rsquo;s like the garter is attracted to me. It&rsquo;s falling right towards me and I jump out of the way and it hits the ground. Another guy dives for it and we move on.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Now today, my sister is mad at me. She told me that it was a dick move and I was being extremely dramatic to dive out the way of the garter. She accused me of trying to kill the vibe at her wedding by not having fun and was really upset with me over this. AITA?</p> </blockquote><p>This brother is &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; for dodging his sister&#39;s garter. He&#39;s totally justified in being grossed out by this outdated wedding tradition. No one wants to see their sister (or anyone else for that matter) in this position. His sister is being an unreasonable Bridezilla by accusing her brother of &quot;ruining the vibe&quot; of her wedding. Lots of people don&#39;t want to participate in the garter/bouquet toss. I personally dodge the bouquet like it&#39;s a dozen used needles covered in monkeypox. I can&#39;t even imagine how I&#39;d feel if I was forced to dive for my brother&#39;s sweaty tighty whiteys. </p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Reddit users agreed this creepy-ass wedding tradition needs to go. The brother is &quot;NTA.&quot; </h2><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Waddymom/">Waddymom</a></p><blockquote> <p>Totally NTA. You described it perfectly. Sexy item tied to your sister&rsquo;s sweaty thigh. Don&rsquo;t blame you one bit for dodging it.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AceyAceyAcey/">AceyAceyAcey</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. It&rsquo;s a very sexist tradition (while pretending to be equal to the bouquet toss). Not everyone wants to participate in it, either bc of the gross sexual connotations you observed, or even just bc they don&rsquo;t want to get married.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She should have respected your wish to not be part of this, she&rsquo;s the one who killed the vibe at forcing you to do something you didn&rsquo;t want to at what should have been a celebration.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/HugeWin6564/">HugeWin6564</a></p><blockquote> <p>Dude anything that&rsquo;s right up by my sisters vag might as well be a grenade. Of course I&rsquo;m dodging that shit. NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DeVitreousHumor/">DeVitreousHumor</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA and this is a really gross tradition. I&rsquo;m glad it&rsquo;s not as common as the bouquet toss.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>As you say, it&rsquo;s a very sexualized article of clothing that&rsquo;s been tied to someone&rsquo;s sweaty thigh for an hour and a half, the groom removes it and throws it to his bros? Gross. wWhen the bride is your SISTER? eeew.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>And holy shit I just noticed the part where your BIL was blindfolded and did this with his TEETH? I need to go bleach my brain now.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/festivalchic/">festivalchic</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA I have a hilarious photo of my sister sprinting away from the bouquet at my wedding</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ultrarelative/">ultrarelative</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You don&rsquo;t have to let someone throw your sister&rsquo;s garter at your face. That&rsquo;s an ok thing not to want.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Pinkie_Flamingo/">Pinkie_Flamingo</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your sister should not have publicly shamed you into participating.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/laude_nam/">laude_nam</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA I did not realize people still did the cheesy bouquet toss and garter strip tease (🤢) and toss at weddings. The last wedding I was at where it was done was in the 1980s.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SupoDupo/">SupoDupo</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I can&rsquo;t stand brides who try to control every aspect of people&rsquo;s behaviors at their wedding. You&rsquo;re a guest, not a doll in her dollhouse.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for 'killing the vibe' at sister's wedding by dodging the garter.

Most wedding traditions are just plain weird. The dad &quot;giving&quot; the daughter away, the bride and groom not seeing each other before the wedding, and of course the bouquet and garter toss. Reddit user u/kingifshortkings was accused of ruining his sister&#39;s wedding because he refused to catch her garter at the reception after her new husband pulled it off with his teeth and tossed it into the crowd of male guests. Now he&#39;s asking the internet, &quot;AITA (Am I The As*hole) for dodging the garter at my(21M) sister&rsquo;s(27F) wedding?&quot;He writes: Friday was my older sister&#39;s wedding. It was a nice wedding and I enjoyed the ceremony. However the reception I just found unpleasant. I have really bad social anxiety and it was like a big party and I just felt out of place, suffocated, and embarrassed.  After my sister did her bouquet toss, the did a game and we started prepping for the garter toss. I had never been to a wedding before, and really all I know about weddings are from TV and movies which is why I knew about the bouquet toss but not this.  So they did this weird ceremony thing where my brother-in-law took off my sister&#39;s garter. He was blindfolded and had his hands tied behind his back so he did it with his teeth. Honestly, this was really gross to watch. Like it was weirdly sexual and it&rsquo;s my sister.  So after that, they called up all the unmarried men for the garter toss. I did NOT want to do this. It&rsquo;s a kinda &ldquo;sexy&rdquo; article of clothing that&rsquo;s been tied to my sister&#39;s sweaty thigh for an hour and a half. However, as the men were going up and I tried to stay behind with my parents, my sister Kanye&rsquo;d the mic from the DJ and called me out by name and said all unmarried men.  So I shambled over and was in the crowd like 15 men deep. I figured, there are like 6 guys here that are well above 6&rsquo; tall, and I&rsquo;m barely average height, they&rsquo;ll get it before I do. So my brother-in-law throws it and it&rsquo;s like the garter is attracted to me. It&rsquo;s falling right towards me and I jump out of the way and it hits the ground. Another guy dives for it and we move on.  Now today, my sister is mad at me. She told me that it was a dick move and I was being extremely dramatic to dive out the way of the garter. She accused me of trying to kill the vibe at her wedding by not having fun and was really upset with me over this. AITA? This brother is &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; for dodging his sister&#39;s garter. He&#39;s totally justified in being grossed out by this outdated wedding tradition. No one wants to see their sister (or anyone else for that matter) in this position. His sister is being an unreasonable Bridezilla by accusing her brother of &quot;ruining the vibe&quot; of her wedding. Lots of people don&#39;t want to participate in the garter/bouquet toss. I personally dodge the bouquet like it&#39;s a dozen used needles covered in monkeypox. I can&#39;t even imagine how I&#39;d feel if I was forced to dive for my brother&#39;s sweaty tighty whiteys. Reddit users agreed this creepy-ass wedding tradition needs to go. The brother is &quot;NTA.&quot;  Waddymom Totally NTA. You described it perfectly. Sexy item tied to your sister&rsquo;s sweaty thigh. Don&rsquo;t blame you one bit for dodging it. AceyAceyAcey NTA. It&rsquo;s a very sexist tradition (while pretending to be equal to the bouquet toss). Not everyone wants to participate in it, either bc of the gross sexual connotations you observed, or even just bc they don&rsquo;t want to get married.  She should have respected your wish to not be part of this, she&rsquo;s the one who killed the vibe at forcing you to do something you didn&rsquo;t want to at what should have been a celebration.  HugeWin6564 Dude anything that&rsquo;s right up by my sisters vag might as well be a grenade. Of course I&rsquo;m dodging that shit. NTA DeVitreousHumor NTA and this is a really gross tradition. I&rsquo;m glad it&rsquo;s not as common as the bouquet toss.  As you say, it&rsquo;s a very sexualized article of clothing that&rsquo;s been tied to someone&rsquo;s sweaty thigh for an hour and a half, the groom removes it and throws it to his bros? Gross. wWhen the bride is your SISTER? eeew.  And holy shit I just noticed the part where your BIL was blindfolded and did this with his TEETH? I need to go bleach my brain now. festivalchic NTA I have a hilarious photo of my sister sprinting away from the bouquet at my wedding  ultrarelative NTA. You don&rsquo;t have to let someone throw your sister&rsquo;s garter at your face. That&rsquo;s an ok thing not to want. Pinkie_Flamingo NTA. Your sister should not have publicly shamed you into participating.  laude_nam NTA I did not realize people still did the cheesy bouquet toss and garter strip tease (🤢) and toss at weddings. The last wedding I was at where it was done was in the 1980s. SupoDupo NTA. I can&rsquo;t stand brides who try to control every aspect of people&rsquo;s behaviors at their wedding. You&rsquo;re a guest, not a doll in her dollhouse. 

Most wedding traditions are just plain weird. The dad &quot;giving&quot; the daughter away, the bride and groom not seeing each other before the wedding, and of course the bouquet and garter toss.   Reddit user u/kingifshortkings was...

Man asks if he's wrong for 'killing the vibe' at sister's wedding by dodging the garter.

Most wedding traditions are just plain weird. The dad "giving" the daughter away, the bride and groom not seeing each other before the wedding, and of course the bouquet and garter toss.

Now he's asking the internet, "AITA (Am I The As*hole) for dodging the garter at my(21M) sister’s(27F) wedding?"