Weddings

<h2>Everyone knows the code of wedding etiquette 101 that specifically demands that guests avoid wearing white lace gowns and zombie eye makeup, but what if you didn&#39;t know you were going to a wedding?</h2><p>Oops...is it bad to dress as a dead bride to an intimate backyard nuptial event? So, when a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about his friend&#39;s awkward themed wedding disguised as an engagement party, people were ready to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11f3p2c/aita_for_wearing_a_wedding_dress_at_a_wedding/" target="_blank">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for wearing a wedding dress at a wedding?</h2><blockquote> <p>So my friend (20F) and I (19M) have been friends for a few years and she recently got engaged. A week ago I got a DM from her for a small costume party she was hosting as a celebration for her getting engaged. I asked if there was a theme and she said there wasn&rsquo;t. I&rsquo;m a cosplayer so I had a lot of choices.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I didn&rsquo;t want to rock up in an anime cosplay, so I thought it would be funny to go to an engagement party as the Corpse Bride. I arrived at her house yesterday and everything seemed normal. A few people complemented my costume and I was having a lot of fun.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>After ten minutes my friend&rsquo;s fianc&eacute; walked out in a black tuxedo and announced this was actually their wedding. Apparently my friend saw a video of someone doing this and wanted to do the same.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He asked us all to go to the backyard for the ceremony to begin. I went straight to him. I asked him if I should quickly go home and change my outfit and that I would get back before it started. He told me it was fine since I didn&rsquo;t know this was the wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I trusted him and followed everyone outside. They got married and everything seemed good. The reception was just in their house again so everyone just walked back inside and picked up where they left off. I tried talking to my friend and celebrating with her but she kept making excuses to not talk to me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I assumed it was just because she was tried from the big day and wanted some alone time. I didn&rsquo;t bother her after that and the party soon ended. I got home and half an hour passed when my phone started getting notifications. I checked and it was my friend texting me. She was cussing me out and telling me how I ruined her wedding. I was really confused and asked what I did.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>That only made her more angry. She told me it was basic knowledge not to wear a wedding dress to a wedding. I reminded her I had no idea it was a wedding and that I asked her now husband if I should change and he said it was fine.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She didn&rsquo;t respond, but I got a text from her husband. He asked why I would tell her he said it was fine. I told him he said it was fine. Then he said how I should have changed anyways and it&rsquo;s my fault that the two are now fighting over this.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ve tried texting her that I wad sorry and if I had known I wouldn&rsquo;t have done it. I woke up today and saw her and her husband have blocked me on everything. So, AITA for not changing out of the wedding dress when I found out it was actually a wedding?</p> </blockquote><h2>Later, he edited the post to reiterate details some readers may have missed:</h2><blockquote> <p><strong>Edit: </strong>I am a guy. I cosplayed the character Emily from The Corpse Bride and had blue paint all over. I&rsquo;m also Australian and I&rsquo;ve never heard a costume party meaning fancy. Everyone was dressed up in funny costumes...</p> </blockquote><h2>Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this hilarious wedding day disaster. Here&#39;s what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ANBU_Black_0ps/">ANBU_Black_0ps</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). The facts of this are pretty simple. You were told this is a <em>costume party</em> so you wore a costume. When asked about a theme you were not given any restrictions. <em>They</em> sprung a surprise wedding on <em>you</em>.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Once you realized this you asked the groom if you should go home and change <em>and the groom said no</em>. They had multiple chances to get you to change and they didn&#39;t take any of them so getting mad with you after the fact doesn&#39;t make any sense.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Final-Complaint2018/">Final-Complaint2018</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>So you get invited to a costume party and show up in a costume of the corpse bride. Suddenly this costume party is a surprise wedding, seeing a potential issue you go up to the groom and ask him if you should change, this chuckle f*ck says it&#39;s fine and you believe him because why would he lie.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Wedding happens, you get sh*t for what you were explicitly told was fine, groom backpedals to try and cover up his stupidity, both him and your friend block you; now you have two fewer idiots in your life to deal with. NTA, sorry you got caught up in this mess.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lfcmosalah11/">lfcmosalah11</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>It was a costume engagement party and tbh I thought showing up as the Corpse&rsquo;s Bride was a little funny considering the reason for being there. You even asked the groom if you should quickly change once you found out they were having a surprise wedding now and he said no. Your friend needs to learn that when suddenly dumping a surprise on people like this, sometimes things aren&rsquo;t always perfect 100%. Not your fault.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Si_the_chef/">Si_the_chef</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You offered to change and was told not to and it would be fine by the GROOM. Who then back peddled and retrospectively said you should have got changed... despite at the time saying you shouldn&#39;t.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If the bride and groom want to play stupid games they get stupid prizes. I&#39;m assuming they are aware of your passion for cosplay and they assumed you would show up in fancy dress. bUT yOu ToOK aTtEnTiOn FrOM tHe bRiDe....</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Baosbheinn/">Baosbheinn</a> said:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA, you say you dressed as a bride, but a corpse bride costume is hardly completing with a real bride. Your friend and her husband sound very daft, very daft indeed. Also this is the risk people take with surprise costume weddings. She sould have said something when you asked.</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man wasn&#39;t at all wrong to wear a fun costume to a party he didn&#39;t know was actually a surprise wedding. Even if it would be considered inappropriate to wear a wedding dress to a themed engagement party, a funny &quot;Corpse Bride&quot; look hardly competes with a very much alive soon-to-be-bride. Better luck next time, everyone (we can only assume).</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man wears 'Corpse Bride' white gown to surprise wedding, 'I was really confused.'

Everyone knows the code of wedding etiquette 101 that specifically demands that guests avoid wearing white lace gowns and zombie eye makeup, but what if you didn&#39;t know you were going to a wedding?Oops...is it bad to dress as a dead bride to an intimate backyard nuptial event? So, when a conflicted wedding guest decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about his friend&#39;s awkward themed wedding disguised as an engagement party, people were ready to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for wearing a wedding dress at a wedding? So my friend (20F) and I (19M) have been friends for a few years and she recently got engaged. A week ago I got a DM from her for a small costume party she was hosting as a celebration for her getting engaged. I asked if there was a theme and she said there wasn&rsquo;t. I&rsquo;m a cosplayer so I had a lot of choices.  I didn&rsquo;t want to rock up in an anime cosplay, so I thought it would be funny to go to an engagement party as the Corpse Bride. I arrived at her house yesterday and everything seemed normal. A few people complemented my costume and I was having a lot of fun.  After ten minutes my friend&rsquo;s fianc&eacute; walked out in a black tuxedo and announced this was actually their wedding. Apparently my friend saw a video of someone doing this and wanted to do the same.  He asked us all to go to the backyard for the ceremony to begin. I went straight to him. I asked him if I should quickly go home and change my outfit and that I would get back before it started. He told me it was fine since I didn&rsquo;t know this was the wedding.  I trusted him and followed everyone outside. They got married and everything seemed good. The reception was just in their house again so everyone just walked back inside and picked up where they left off. I tried talking to my friend and celebrating with her but she kept making excuses to not talk to me.  I assumed it was just because she was tried from the big day and wanted some alone time. I didn&rsquo;t bother her after that and the party soon ended. I got home and half an hour passed when my phone started getting notifications. I checked and it was my friend texting me. She was cussing me out and telling me how I ruined her wedding. I was really confused and asked what I did.  That only made her more angry. She told me it was basic knowledge not to wear a wedding dress to a wedding. I reminded her I had no idea it was a wedding and that I asked her now husband if I should change and he said it was fine.  She didn&rsquo;t respond, but I got a text from her husband. He asked why I would tell her he said it was fine. I told him he said it was fine. Then he said how I should have changed anyways and it&rsquo;s my fault that the two are now fighting over this.  I&rsquo;ve tried texting her that I wad sorry and if I had known I wouldn&rsquo;t have done it. I woke up today and saw her and her husband have blocked me on everything. So, AITA for not changing out of the wedding dress when I found out it was actually a wedding? Later, he edited the post to reiterate details some readers may have missed: Edit: I am a guy. I cosplayed the character Emily from The Corpse Bride and had blue paint all over. I&rsquo;m also Australian and I&rsquo;ve never heard a costume party meaning fancy. Everyone was dressed up in funny costumes... Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this hilarious wedding day disaster. Here&#39;s what people had to say:ANBU_Black_0ps said: NTA (Not the As*hole). The facts of this are pretty simple. You were told this is a costume party so you wore a costume. When asked about a theme you were not given any restrictions. They sprung a surprise wedding on you.  Once you realized this you asked the groom if you should go home and change and the groom said no. They had multiple chances to get you to change and they didn&#39;t take any of them so getting mad with you after the fact doesn&#39;t make any sense. Final-Complaint2018 said: So you get invited to a costume party and show up in a costume of the corpse bride. Suddenly this costume party is a surprise wedding, seeing a potential issue you go up to the groom and ask him if you should change, this chuckle f*ck says it&#39;s fine and you believe him because why would he lie.  Wedding happens, you get sh*t for what you were explicitly told was fine, groom backpedals to try and cover up his stupidity, both him and your friend block you; now you have two fewer idiots in your life to deal with. NTA, sorry you got caught up in this mess. lfcmosalah11 said: It was a costume engagement party and tbh I thought showing up as the Corpse&rsquo;s Bride was a little funny considering the reason for being there. You even asked the groom if you should quickly change once you found out they were having a surprise wedding now and he said no. Your friend needs to learn that when suddenly dumping a surprise on people like this, sometimes things aren&rsquo;t always perfect 100%. Not your fault. Si_the_chef said: NTA. You offered to change and was told not to and it would be fine by the GROOM. Who then back peddled and retrospectively said you should have got changed... despite at the time saying you shouldn&#39;t.  If the bride and groom want to play stupid games they get stupid prizes. I&#39;m assuming they are aware of your passion for cosplay and they assumed you would show up in fancy dress. bUT yOu ToOK aTtEnTiOn FrOM tHe bRiDe.... Baosbheinn said: NTA, you say you dressed as a bride, but a corpse bride costume is hardly completing with a real bride. Your friend and her husband sound very daft, very daft indeed. Also this is the risk people take with surprise costume weddings. She sould have said something when you asked. So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man wasn&#39;t at all wrong to wear a fun costume to a party he didn&#39;t know was actually a surprise wedding. Even if it would be considered inappropriate to wear a wedding dress to a themed engagement party, a funny &quot;Corpse Bride&quot; look hardly competes with a very much alive soon-to-be-bride. Better luck next time, everyone (we can only assume).

Everyone knows the code of wedding etiquette 101 that specifically demands that guests avoid wearing white lace gowns and zombie eye makeup, but what if you didn&#39;t know you were going to a wedding?  Oops...is it bad to dress as a dead...